Most men give me the ick!

[Ceriane]

Can anyone else relate or is it just me?

Yep. I find very few attractive enough to get jiggy with.

I went through a phase like that. I was reading a lot about depraved men and the awful things they did. I stepped away from this because it was repulsing me of half the population and it became something I fixated on. I'd see a random man and think what shit are you hiding? what have you done or could you do given the chance? I also started to read about awful things women have done. It's known that men commit more crimes than women but in a way it helped me.

Now I have changed in how I see men and women. I don't think of anyone as a totally good person and have low expectations from people. I don't naively admire or envy (yes, I'm ashamed to admit this) people anymore because nobody is completely and always that great.

There are some really hot men. They don't give me the ick as a whole but there are a few who have, usually through behaviour, not to do with looks.

Yes. That is why lots of women are lesbians especially In later life

Why would you want most men not to?

Yep!

And it’s not just about the looks / smells 🤢
It’s also they personality and when their mouth just keeps going and going with their non-sense.

I avoid men the best I can.
Not worth it.

There was a great writing about men a year or few ago, I copy&pasted it, but I don’t know if it’s okey to put other people’s writing here.

I think as we get older and learn more about the average male, they become more icky. I would rather be single than go through finding a decent man. It took me 40 years to find a good one!

I am so relieved it’s not just me!!

Most men are arseholes

Kind of… I’m going through a can’t be arsed phase. I’m a single parent to a seven year old with two dogs and a job and a mother and the thought of having to deal with caring for anyone else’s bollocks just drains me.

I saw a very hot contractor via work this week and although I could appreciate him visually, I would have had absolutely no interest if he’d tried anything 😂

Not just you, especially as I get older and look at men who are a similar age. I really can't be arsed with their bullshit and am happily single.

This pretty much sums up how I feel about relationships with men. And I'm not going near women.

I agree, but for me it's both their personalities and their appearances. I'm bisexual but more straight than lesbian sexually, but even so there are so many more lovelier women than there are men. Both in appearance and personality. I really hate the kind of aesthetic many men aspire to where they go to the gym just to look a certain way bur they're not actually that gut because they don't spend much time outdoors. And so many men also have a really awful view of women, which is majorl off putting. I think I've only been with about 2 men I found attractive in both ways.

*but they're not actually that fit

I agree.

Even my handsome long term crush, I suspect of secret unpleasant personal habits or poor hygiene.

Depends. Is that before or after they open their mouth?

If before, and most men give you the ick on sight then there might be something there. Not necessarily a bad thing.

If after and it's because of something they said or did, no issues there. You just have high standards and good boundaries. That is definitely a good thing.

Even my handsome long term crush, I suspect of secret unpleasant personal habits or poor hygiene.
😆That's exactly what I end up thinking... or that old chestnut: Yeah, you look great, but you wank to Japanese vomit porn in the understairs toilet. <throws crush back into Lake Baikal>

I’ve only slept with two, and one of them was an arsehole.

They’re so often just…nah.

(Now-DH is rather lovely though)

God yeah. Most men do this for me. I’m 58, I’ve found about 3 men attractive in my life. I notice others but just don’t feel it. Too stringy or muscley or full of themselves.

Could you be perimenopausal?? I've found my libido has plummeted post partum and I feel like my whole life has been a huge hormonal deception until I procreated so to speak! I know rarely look at men and even less so think about them and sex with them!

Yep, totally feel this. I've only let two men get 'close' to me, but generally I feel absolutely no desire towards them at all. I'm in my mid 20s, but usually aim for men 10+ years older as ones my age I just can't stand..

Try women. I can’t imagine wanting to go through all this relationship shit with a man again if ever things ended with me and OH. No thank you

Are you specifically talking about single men here or all men? I work in a male dominated organisation and I know loads of lovely men. Funny, considerate and very capable. Some of pretty clever too. There are obviously idiots and clowns among them but they’re in the minority.

I regard the handsome ones as art appreciation only - look don't touch. Brings too many complications.

It's taken me 36 years to realise most men are arseholes. Self pitying, emotionally immature, lazy arseholes. So many of my female friends put up with so much. I am trying to leave my DH and then I'm off men for life.