Most men give me the ick!

[Ceriane]

Can anyone else relate or is it just me?

Most men are gross and frankly pretty useless. It's not their fault. It's being raised in a patriarchal system that teaches them not to respect women as equals, and that they don't have to actually learn to look after themselves and you know, do life, because someone else will do it for them. Meanwhile it rewards them heavily for doing the bare minimum so they think that they are heroes if they are anything above completely shit. Sadly, the bar is set incredibly low.

I’m mid 30s. I’ve been single since late 20s. I have a friend who I like, I enjoy his company and occasionally we have sex. Other than that? Nope. I don’t want anything more from him, and men in general just make me want to tear my hair out, for all the reasons mentioned above and more.

Im bisexual, but I also can’t be bothered with women either.

Men as a species are just bitterly disappointing to me. I’ve been in relationships since I was 14 and finally got the good sense to end my marriage when I was 43. I’m now 47, single and for the first time In my life I’m really, truly happy and at peace with myself. While I know that peace usually comes with age, I also think a huge part of it is that I’m not stuck with some fuckwit who drains the life out of me too!

My DP is lovely but if I were no longer with him I think I’d happily jog along single for the rest of my life. I just have no interest in putting up with men droning on about themselves all the time.

As the mother of boys, I'm appalled at the negativity towards the male gender.

I’m a mother of boys too. Because of the ick factor I’ve drilled into mine:

to be clean and fresh smelling
not to drone on
to do housework
to respect women
not to be opinionated twats.

Yes.

For me it is not so much a physical dislike, I can still look at a guy and think he looks attractive, but it is their behaviour/personality that I think has put me off them for life at this stage.

There seem to be so many lying, cheating, abusive, violent, porn-obsessed, selfish, immature and entitled guys out there who show no respect or genuine care for women that it is just not worth it.

I do appreciate that many women will have great partners but in general I think there is a serious widespread issue with the way men behave in society and how they get away with treating women and children.

I personally have never had any luck with men. Started with an abusive father and continued with shitty relationships. Last straw was being assaulted by a so-called male friend who I had known for years who turned out to have been abusive to all his partners behind closed doors. I am done with dating men or seeing them as potential friend as I have no trust left whatsoever in them. Much happier in myself as a result!

😂 This.

I think I'm quite fussy. It's quite rare that I find a man attractive. This is why I am usually single. I go on lots of dates, finally find someone that I like and then they usually drop me.

The last one I dated was hot. I couldn't get enough of him. Now I'm going through the menopause I'm not sure how I will feel. I'm giving dating one last try and then I'll probably give up.

I agree with this all.

I have a DS too and trying to bring him up to be a decent human but there's so much outside influence that I wonder if it'll make any real impact. I find it quite heartbreaking at times.

I can relate to this !

I find myself nowadays a lot more attracted to personality through getting to know men rather than looks or image, as I did when I was younger.

What a sad thread.
I hope none of you have sons with that attitude.

What has having a son got to do with this?! Stop getting your knickers in a twist about fuck all. If you want to see what hate looks like, stroll along to the incel forums, because this is not that.

Exactly this.

For me, most men are exhausting and disappointing on several levels. I wasn't born to nurse or protect their fragile egos. t's not worth the hassle.

Thank you! I’m so relieved that I’m not the only one who feels this way.

I know a lot of lying, selfish, entitled, dull , immature men who cheat on their partners. I also know more than my fair share of women who are the same. People on the whole these days are like that, women every bit as much as men. I know a hell of a lot of women who are serial cheats

I hope none of those who feel as the posters above have sons, it must be very hard to be brought up by someone who’s disgusted by who you are.

Each and every man who you are repulsed by is someone’s son. Any sim that one of the posters above has will grow up to become a man.

Having such a strong negative reaction to men can’t help but affect how a boy develops.

It’s possible that it’s mothers like the posters above who produce those very incels, in a sad self-sustaining cycle.

Families need to work very very hard to raise decent men from their boys.
Society is so toxic, and is really damaging to both sexes.
I'm horrified at the casual sexist shit that occasionally comes out of my young nephews mouths. It needs to be questioned and fought against, just like fascism, racism, homophobia etc.

Agreed. If anything was to happen to DH I'd be off men for life. (Mother of boys too!)

It's the wanting sex all the time that bothers me most, especially when your sat relaxing and they just paw at you expecting to be in the mood within 5 seconds like wtf.

I also think Millennials and Gen z men are very different to Baby Boomers and Gen x men.

Have you ever considered, that perhaps you give most men the Ick?

I think this place would give men the ick

Misandry galore

Have you ever considered, that perhaps you give most men the Ick

Most men only get the ick when you won’t sleep
with them.