Worst things your parents did/said to you? I’m struggling

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Just that really. On the outside it’s all very lovely and nice and looks like I had it all. My parents have been my emotional bullies my whole life.

My dad put me on a diet at age 9 and paid me £10 pound for every pound in weight I lost.

Regularly made fun of my weight infront of my school friends and told me I dressed badly and looked a mess.

i had been a vegetarian (by choice) since 6 and they weren’t meeting my protein needs so I was hungry a lot.

ive had an eating disorder for 12 years and am finally in therapy for it.

My DMs first response to anything was to be cruel and then blame me for being upset because my feelings were not valid.

I was a small child and she told me in front of my DA that she should have aborted me.

I hated her. I still hate her even though she is dead.

my mum sent me a text message at 16 to let me know that she wa a leaving the country that weekend with my younger brother and I needed to come and get my stuff or it would be thrown out by the landlord. I was still at school and had nowhere to go.

Oh my !
I do hope you are no or very low contact with him.
What a horrible man.
Just remember it's him not you that is the problem.
Reading posts on here I realise just what people have to put up with.

@DevonSunsets The poem sums up my experience as well...and I also haven't had children. My two brothers haven't, either.

I always knew I wouldn't have children, it never seemed desirable in any shape or form to me. I often wonder nowadays 'what if' - if my parents hadn't been so bloody crap maybe I would have wanted children? I'll never know.

To be honest I was surprised that my older brother and his wife hadn't, until his wife let slip to my mother that he had no happy memories of our childhood.

People just pretend to like you, they don’t really.

After being bullied at school. “At least they are leaving someone else alone”

few from my Dad..'I wish you'd never been born', when i was 8(denied it afterwards)I know um going to die soon, but promise I'll take yiu with me slut, and 'you wouldnt last 5 minutes down King's Cross' (last 2 were texts when I was older)

other general ones..'deadhead', 'div pot, 'little snot'

my mum also had condolences from someone, as my Dad had told them I was dead 🤔

Not sure where to begin. All okay up until about age 12 when parents split.

Mum:

said she would tell the doctor all about me and what I was like.

Used to hit me, beat me over the head with a book.

Said she hated me, all the names you can think of.

Dad:

Once he met OW that was it he told me he's done his bit. Told me to live with my mum, when I said she hits me he accused me of lying saying ' I can't see bruises'. OW told me if she thought I would be there she would have never got with my Dad. I was crying my eyes out and she said " I could gibe you a hug, but I won't, and just left me sobbing age 16".

Both in full denial of me having a horrific childhood. I'm an only child so no one to back me up, they all say how spoilt I was. My Dad used to give me money, suppose to make up for it.

I've had various issues. Self harmed as a teen, been addicted to substances most of my adult life. Currently on a high dose of meds.

If they actually acknowledged how awful they were it would be a starting point, but nope it's all in my head.

Looking back I don't think I was as bad as they made out, always tried at school and tried to please them.

I remember slashing my arms with a knife age 14 in my mirror telling myself I'm awful and that's why they don't like me. Saying I hate myself so I deserve ti be destroyed. I felt like I'd punished myself when I saw the blood.

Oh and my Dad leaving me on my own most Xmas days to go see OW. I didn't want to see my mum so he left me all day. I remember watching home alone and crying, wondering what it would be like to have a 'family' Xmas.

Oh and my uncle tried to grop me, told my Dad he did nothing, still good mates.

I got attacked at uni on my first night and rung him begging to come home. He told me to stop being so pathetic and grow up I think.

I'm still in contact, I Darenth bring up to my dad. I did once to mum and she denied everything said she never hit me.

"you were an accident. I was waiting to leave your dad, then I got pregnant with you and had to stay"

From my mother who then offered to nto turn up at the custody hearing if my dad gave her a few grand. Also from the person I caught in bed with another man when my dad was working away and I was about 7. From the person that left me in one of those little play areas in a children's shop, walked out to see her married boyfriend, leaving me there for a shop assistant to ask me after an hour or so where my mum was.

Plenty of other stuff as well but think the above was the highlight