Would you let a new man buy you a house?

[Boxjumpers918]

My sister is in a new relationship. He's a wealthy man, no kids. She has 2 DC and is living in a housing association property. They've been together about 8 months. She spends 99% of her time at his house, as do her DC.

He's asked her to move in with her, as an insurance he's going to buy her a house to rent out. If things don't work out she's got a property to move into, fully paid for, in her name.

She's very excited about the whole thing. I'm not sure what to make of it. Any thoughts?

Yes.

Personally if something looks good to be true, it generally is.

Gosh. Dunno. Presumably he doesn’t want to marry her, so it feels a bit like he’s buying her off in a way. I’d have loads of questions…

Yes, if he wants to and it is legally hers. What's your take on him?

Yes, if it were in my name with no mortgage, absolutely I would. If other people want to be foolish with their money to my benefit, providing me security for my children, they're welcome to.

I'd be getting my own solicitor to double check the purchase and deeds for loopholes tho.

Does she get to choose the fully paid for property he’s buying?

Thank him.

Make sure she has instructed her own solicitor to make sure it is hers, no strings.

Really? Smells a bit fishy.

Long as it's in her name why not!

As long as it is legally hers and he has no claim on it I would do it.

Not after eight months! I'd think he was insane. I wouldn't give up a housing association place at that point for anything at all.

I dont know how I feel about it or him. It just seems too good to be true. I worry about the kids as well, it's all just so fast. Nice to hear replies saying its a good thing. I mean, it's better than her just moving in and losing her home. It's just all so fast.

No.

I would only give up the housing association house once the sale is complete on her property. So no moving in while there looking etc.

I just wonder why someone would buy someone a house after 8 months together. Are there really people out there who are that generous. He's wealthy but not millionaire wealthy. I just wonder about the power balance.

Why is she even considering moving her DC in with a man she has only known for eight months? Sounds very dodgy. It might be 'true love' but presumably a very wealthy man won't have difficulty meeting single women without DC ....so why is so keen on her and her DC moving in?

I dont know, I don't how I feel, I don't know how to articulate it. It just feels off. Would be sister be right to even accept it? I dont think I could, its too much.

What is going to happen to his house?

isthismylifenow they'll all be living in his house.

In your sister's shoes I probably would. No way would I give up a HA or Council property to move into a man's home. That would leave her and her kids totally vulnerable. However, if he could provide that security in the form of a property for her and her kids if it all went belly up, then yes I would.

Sounds like love-bombing on a grand scale.

Alot of new partners don’t meet their dp’s kids to six months into a relationship, so asking them to move in seems too quick.

Who will own the second house - will it be in his or her name?

Sounds a bit too quick to me. Why can’t he just buy her a house to live in now with the kids?

No because I'd feel like I owe him somehow and I'd be worried it would be thrown in my face at some point or labelled a gold digger.

It sounds dodgy as hell tbh . She's also crazy to move her kids with him so soon. Are the dc boys or girls?