Is this a red flag

[Butterfly1066]

I ve been with my boyfriend around 5 months

It's been pretty good we have a lot in common however today we have had a massive argument and he is being cold and distant become he found out before I met him I meet someone on tinder and went on a few dates with with and we had sex, this was about a year before I met him

This was before I met him but he is making out that I have lied to him a I didn't tell him before about it and he has changed how he feels , it was actually a pretty insignificant thing that didn't work out in the end and I thought no more about it but he is making me feel horrible about myself and saying that if he had known he never would have dated me and that now he sees me differently

Of course it's a red flag!
controlling, emotionally abusive and misogynistic. Please dump.

Errrrm yes it's a huge red flag
Unless there's more to this like you lied and told him you were a virgin or something but I'm guessing that isn't the case

It's more than a red flag, this is the behaviour that red flags hint at. Dump immediately! Like right now. Nasty entitled jealous insecure slut-shaming little man.

Agreed. Dtb.

Run run run run run run run run run.

If your'e lucky, he's genuinely upset about this and will leave himself. Otherwise it's just the first step in an attempt to start the process of controlling you and making you question everything. In which case, you should get out right now.

Thank you all it does make me
See it clearer

On reflection it's not the first thing he has done

He went through all my Facebook pictures and found a picture of me and my ex which I hadn't realised was still on there as it was from about 6 years ago and had a go at me about this

He has been quite unkind about this one , making out it's a massive shock and he had changed how he sees me

Dumpsville.

What an absolute dickhead
Get in first and dump him now
Like NOW!

Yes it is. He is saying if he knew you had sex with someone when you were single and a year before you met him he wouldn't have dated you. Does that make any sense to you? I also think him being cold and distant after your first argument is a red flag. Please leave and take care ❤

Does he think you were a virgin? Massive red flag.

Sorry just seen the Facebook thing definitely a sign of power and controlling behaviour which is something all abusive men possess. Please leave.

I'm very laid back but you must absolutely scarper from this person

Urgh. Big shock - adult woman has consensual sex.

He's a controlling, jealous loser, op - throw this one back!

Dump him.
By his logic he is now 'soiled goods,' too, assuming you have had sex with him. Gosh what will he do nobody will want him now he will have to stay single now forever........

is there a reason why he’s annoyed about it? Did you lie and say you’ve never met anyone off dating sites before/ slept with anyone from them or it’s just totally random as it sounds off he is annoyed by it without any back story?

Yep get rid. He will not make you happy.

So before he met you did he stay virginal?

Again thank you all

It's is helping me see sense

He has made me feel sick and sad all day long

He is being quite cold and distant and staying into space saying he has a lot on his mind

And doing sad little tight smiles

What a bellend

Hang on? He's sad and disappointed and off with you because a year before you met him you had a few dates with someone and slept with them? Seriously?

Run far. Run fast.

He sounds horrendous. I agree this is him absolutely trying to control you. Get rid.

Give him an eternity of space and run!

He actually sounds unhinged
I think this will escalate and you should cut all contact now

Ick

Hes making you feel bad about something that is none of his business and failing to communicate like an adult. Silent treatment is abusive.

Time to say bye bye