Is this a red flag

[Butterfly1066]

I ve been with my boyfriend around 5 months

It's been pretty good we have a lot in common however today we have had a massive argument and he is being cold and distant become he found out before I met him I meet someone on tinder and went on a few dates with with and we had sex, this was about a year before I met him

This was before I met him but he is making out that I have lied to him a I didn't tell him before about it and he has changed how he feels , it was actually a pretty insignificant thing that didn't work out in the end and I thought no more about it but he is making me feel horrible about myself and saying that if he had known he never would have dated me and that now he sees me differently

@WelshMoth

I agree that @Aerodactyl post was wonderfully written

Thank you again everyone

I am sitting with little cat planning an adventure through Spain and actually I am starting to feel relief

So thank you all 😊

Wow! How exciting and liberating. You're going to have a ball

Good on you for ending it. Hopefully he will leave you be.

Spain sounds like a good adventure! Maybe there will be some cute spainsh waitors too 😉

I stupidly went back

Things were okay for a while but he is sulking again about this man

I need to end it but I don't know why I can't

Have you read Women Who Love Too Much by Robin Norwood? You might find it sheds some light on your situation.

@Dery

Thanks that looks really interesting I am going to download it right now

Look at what you wrote on 25th June. 'My life was better without him in it' or words to that effect.

He's never going to change! He is showing you that!
You've left him before, you can do it again, otherwise you have a lifetime of this sulking idiot.

@Butterfly1066 no judgment from me op as I've just done something similar and it went horribly wrong
I hope you can break away from this man but I understand how hard it can be sometimes

Definitely no judgement, my lovely.
Sometimes, it takes time to sever the tie.

That said, please remember, you don't have much time. We only walk this path once. You don't want to waste it on this man who isn't going to change.

It really is that simple. He isn't for you.