Is this a red flag

[Butterfly1066]

I ve been with my boyfriend around 5 months

It's been pretty good we have a lot in common however today we have had a massive argument and he is being cold and distant become he found out before I met him I meet someone on tinder and went on a few dates with with and we had sex, this was about a year before I met him

This was before I met him but he is making out that I have lied to him a I didn't tell him before about it and he has changed how he feels , it was actually a pretty insignificant thing that didn't work out in the end and I thought no more about it but he is making me feel horrible about myself and saying that if he had known he never would have dated me and that now he sees me differently

My extremely abusive ex would only feel better if I agreed that the men I'd slept with prior to him were in the dark and I wasn't fully naked. I was too scared to say otherwise. Please do not let this guy guilt you for having a sex life prior to him!

Walk away. Now. This is part of controlling behaviour. ( as is the rest of his behaviour towards you)
Lucky you’ve found out now what a moron he is.

I would plainly tell him that the totally unhinged way he is behaving about something that has absolutely fuck all to do with him has changed your opinion of him, so if he could fuck off quietly ASAP it would be much appreciated. Then give him a sad, tight smile, slam the door and crack the wine to celebrate dodging a massive unstable bullet.

My controlling, paranoid, and abusive ex was like this about previous relationships. He said he hated the thought that I had been with other men (I was 31 when we met, so the chances of me having a partner before him were pretty high - in fact I had told him I was divorced before we got involved). The problem is, you can never undo your past, so he will never, ever let this go. Believe me, I've been there. Be thankful that he has given you this insight this early on.

Run, run for the hills and don't look back.

@Aerodactyl 😂😂😂

I often think that mnetters are a bit hasty with yelling ltb on threads like this.

But not this time. Seriously OP listen to all the wise posters here. He's at best a deeply unsexy bellend and at worst dangerous. Get rid.

Oh, and the little sad smiles are to make you feel bad for him. Don't fall for it. My ex would also do this: if the nasty, stroppy abusive side didn't make me comply, he would try emotional blackmail. Heavy sighing, teary eyed at first, then the crying, then the self harm, etc. and apparently it was all my fault. Because I'd dared to have a life before him.

Send him on his way. There’s no way back from this, luckily he’s revealed that he’s a twat relatively early.

Please break up with this man, these aww huge red flags and his behaviour will only get worse.
Firstly, silent treatment and going off in moods is abusive in of itself without any of the other stuff, adults who are mature and capable of good communication don't do this in a caring, respectful relationship.
Secondly, this has been caused because he is annoyed about something that has NOTHING to do with him, just because he is your current partner (hopefully soon to be ex) does not give him any right to know your sexual history, he is not entitled to that and he is certainly not entitled to shame you because of it.
He is shaming you for having had casual sex, that's not okay, it shows that he has a misogynistic attitude to women and thinks it's acceptable to shame women who do things he thinks they shouldn't.

Please leave this man, he does not deserve you. There are millions of men out there that will treat you with respect and love you for you and won't care how much sex you've had before them. Don't let this abusive moron ruin your life, because he will.

Ask him directly what he is annoyed about. What about having dates in the past makes him say he wouldn't have dated you. Ask him. And anything he says ask if he has done with girls. He's a horror

Christ alive why are you even asking? Get out while you can.

You should be fucking furious! Who the hell does he think he is to judge you for something like that? You did NOTHING wrong, you don’t owe him every detail of your sexual history. He’s manipulating you and controlling you, I promise you, it will only get worse.

Please see how unhinged his behaviour is, and don’t tolerate it.

What an absolute TWAT. Please do not saddle yourself with this dick. God I wish I was there with you, I would tell him exactly what to do with himself going forwards.

If he thinks he can dictate your past, imagine how he is going to behave over your future. The fundamental problem with his attitude is that he regards you as a possession he now owns. Not a human with her own history, wants, needs, and rights. But a thing that has a history that he was not made aware of, and that history that lessens the value of his new thing in his eyes. And how do we treat possessions or things we don't value much?
You are not a thing, you a whole human with your own wonderful history that made you who you are. His misogyny will destroy any woman who stays in a relationship with him.

Gosh how manipulative and controlling.

Run for the hills!

Attention seeking, "feel sorry for me because I'm the victim here" behaviour. Sounds insecure, controlling and after 5 months already showing his true colours. Get yourself a secure man who doesn't care about your past and want to go through your social media, phone or search for problems, get rid and quick before he starts acting out in other ways, he's not worth your time.

He sounds unhinged, op.

don't waste another moment on him.

end it and block him.

GET RID, I'm begging you. He'll make your life a living hell.

You've done nothing wrong. Nothing.

Out the door he goes, never to return to your life.

'Is what you're thinking about what a mysoginistic bellend you are?'
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'Get out of my house ya dick'.

Delete. Block.

Well, you're certainly seeing him in a different light and the drama's all coming from him. He WON'T change, no matter what he says to try to keep you from ditching him. It will escalate and, worst of all, he will bring this up again for ever and a day. He'll make it so he never moves on from it. It's on his score sheet now and won't you know it. (Speaking from my own experience.)

This isn’t just a red flag you’re beginning to see from a distance it’s the entire warship staring you in the face!

Everything should be telling you to leave, if he can be jealous like this about a man you were with before you even met him then it won’t be long before he is getting jealous of friends and colleagues or trying to control who you are allowed to socialise with etc.

He’s being a major dickhead but in that is doing you a massive favour in showing you who he really is and giving you the opportunity to leave.

You don't live together, do you? Please say you don't.

Just dump him. He's vile and he's not magically going to change and be a lovely bloke, he will just get worse and worse. Next thing will be questioning you about where you are going and who with, and why are you wearing that, and why were you talking to that bloke at work, and how can he possibly trust you etc etc etc.

Huge red flags! He needs to go!

What a fucking prick!
please dump him!!

Oh god, that’s absolutely pathetic. Dump him, he’ll ruin your life. Seriously.