Would you want to be told by an unknown person if your husband was cheating on you?

[Anonladyx]

It’s a very long story and can’t post too much on here without spilling out a lot of information, but would you want to know?

Why wouldn't you want to know?

Yes. I had a DP who was cheating and my friends knew. They didn't tell me as they "didn't want to upset me." Doubly gutting as not only did I lose my DP but I lost my friends as well.

Yes

I absolutely would want to know, yes.

Yes

100%

Yes

Would depend on how it was done.

A kind letter, with enough details to assure me it wasn’t made up - yes I’d want to know

A random message on Facebook “your DH is cheating on you” - then no

What do you mean by unknown?

someone they don’t know or someone they do that’s contacting them anonymously. Or the other woman pretending to be someone else.

I think it really depends on how you do it.

I always think if you are going to do this is best to be upfront about who you are, why you know and give them all the information you have. Don’t drag it out. Don’t drip info. Answer their questions. And never try and find out what they did with the info or what the outcome was.

When you are anonymous you are giving the cheater a lot of room for talking their way out it.

Absolutely

Yes absolutely. I can't imagine anyone wouldn't want to know.

That's an interesting view, you only want to know if your partner is cheating if someone tells you nicely? What's the reasoning there?

I;m guessing the OP is the person with the knowledge and deciding whether to tell. Unfortunately there's way to predict whether the cheated on persn wants to know

When I've read threads on here the concencusy seems to be mind your own business

Sorry I didn’t make it very clear, I don’t know his wife and only know this man through work

Depends what you mean by ‘unknown person’. If it was a completely anonymous tip off, the answer would probably be no. If it was someone coming forward and explaining who they are, how they know my DP and what their suspicions are then yes.

OP your not going to get much information on here with your drip feed.

Yes, I would want to know.

Yes 100%

i’d need real evidence at the same time otherwise I wouldn’t believe it.

Honestly, I can't imagine believing it unless I already had very strong suspicions. I don't see how you'd get past that issue - surely most people wouldn't be very likely to believe an unknown source?

No, if I don’t know you your a stranger so why would I believe you?
Strong evidence then to be honest I probably still wouldn’t want to know as I like my life and ignorance is bliss.

Yes. But not anonymously.

Yes but enough details or at least enough that I could find out the rest myself to enable me to know it was true.

yes

Yes I would want to know. I would make up my own mind with the information I was given. But I would want to know