How to crush a crush?

[FuzzyFanny]

I have a crush. It’s ridiculous. He’s 22. I’m 36.

We met last year at a gym. It’s a spit and sawdust-type gym where people just rock up and train. We’d often be there at the same time. Around November, we started pairing. Well, he started training me really. He doesn’t work there, he’s not touting for business.

I didn’t fancy him at first. Then something happened a few months ago. I have no idea what happened. It's like a switch went on and now I’m like a bloody schoolgirl.

The training we do is very physical. We touch a lot. It gives me fanny gallops. We flirt a little bit. Nothing too heavy. Most of the men are quite flirty but its ‘banter’ (hate hate that word) rather than actually looking for more. Heaviest it got with Crush Man was last week – he was showing me how to move my hips. My bum was close to his groin. He said “Jesus, I better stop this” and walked off sort of puffing out his cheeks like he was flustered. My minge nearly fucking exploded.

22 and 36 is inappropriate. I don’t want to ruin our training relationship and friendship. I need to crush the crush. How?

I can’t really avoid the gym without good reason. I mean because we train together, I’d have to tell him that I’m not around for a while. And I can’t say “I’m going to be away for a month because I can’t cope with how badly I want to sit on your face”.

I don’t actually want to avoid the gym though. It’s not a regular gym, I can’t just go to another one. And I love it. I really do love the training. I love the gym. I love everyone there (some more than others obviously!!). I just need to crush this ridiculous thing. How?

@ACupofTeaandaSliceofCake

We are just friends. We go for lunch at work and stuff like that. Nothing else!

Except for...

He has always flirted with me from day 1 of being on the job and messages me at home (sometimes with very inappropriate content although doesn’t go too far and I brush it off). He makes it very clear he would!

Yeah sounds totally appropriate 🙄

I can almost feel the passion. OP, the time has come to put away your calculator, stop doing pointless comparisons of age calculations and take your knickers off! 💥

You are adults and you will feel better for it.

The only way to get rid of temptation is to yield to it.
Let us know how it goes!

How I hate that term. Implying that women prey on these young guys when in reality it's usually the other way round. The guy sounds just as interested in the OP as he is in her. She's not hunting him down while he hides quivering in the corner.

To be fair, I haven't tried properly doing flirting yet. He might be quivering in the corner if I start busting out my sex lines 🤣

But, yes, I hate the connotations of the word 'cougar' too. Though if I get known as one I'd be pretty "meh" about it TBH

Great advice @5128gap

Does this sound okay next time I see him: Listen Crush Man, my fanny has been telling me for a while she wants to gobble your knob. Mumsnet has said that I need to listen to her. I don't want anything heavy, just to climb you like a no-strings tree every so often. So, quickie now to get us started?

Mm. Not sure. Personally I'd try a more direct approach.😂
You do realise you will NEVER get rid of him don't you?😂

Why not just ask if he would like to meet up for a coffee or drink, away from the sweaty gym .

just get on with it. Procrastination is not good when you want or perhaps even need something. You go girl!

Sweaty gym? 😂 Ooh I bet you like to get sweaty don't you young man? At your age at my age... ooh young man!

I thought I'd update everyone because something really strange has happened with my crush.

We've continued pretty much as we were. We've kept a bit of light flirting as I described before, but no movement to heavy petting.

But something strange has happened. When I'm with Crush Man I find myself being slightly "meh" about him. I can appreciate that he's beautiful, I enjoy feeling like we're flirting, and I'd be naked in 0.3 seconds if he suggested hanky panky there and then. But, I'm not getting the fanny gallops when I'm with him as much as I was. So it looks like @something2say prediction is coming true - its fading, I'm over it.

But no, when I'm not with him my fanny has an absolute mind of her own. I'm talking epic crotch headaches, full throttle throbbing, unexpected/unwanted/inconvenient damp patches. I'm talking dreams about him every couple of nights. Not always sex dreams, but mostly sex dreams. I'm talking social media stalking. I'm talking peering at every Vauxhall Astra* in the hope it's him behind the wheel.

But then I see him, and I'm like "meh".

What's going on?

I'm training with him tonight. I'm giddy like a schoolgirl. But I know that when I see him I'll be pretty ambivalent.

*Car make/model has been changed for anonymity purposes.

Either you are building him up in his absence to be more than he is, and your fantasies have taken on a life of their own; or you are subconsciously scared of it becoming a reality so your body is putting the brakes on when in the danger zone.

Godsake. You wimmen. What you like. 🤭😁

Uh-oh, ladies and gentlemen, all bets are off. The Fanny has not Galloped 😆

New into the starting blocks is Mr Fantasy Man.

Can’t offer any practical advice other than maybe your body has decided the fantasy is probably better than the reality.

@Shunter350 – us wimmen are fickle creatures!

And out of nowhere its Sudden Doubts Sudden Doubts gaining on Gym Lad Gym Lad ten to one favourite but The Fanny not giving an inch....

OP, perhaps you made the mistake of watching this, and it cooled your ardour:

m.youtube.com/watch?v=Pwu4TwUrI-Q Pik the Gym Instructor.

Sounds like a bit of self sabotage maybe?

These posts are hilarious, I must say I am most disappointed the fanny galloping was not to be 🐎

Now stop that. And no talk of 'giving inches'. Not in my condition.

There were further complications last night - Newbie Man 1, Newbie Man 2, Newbie Man 3. Basically new gym-goers appeared who needed some help with training. That meant that me and Crush Man didn't get much alone time for training and hip-touching and flirting. But, on the flip side, the appearance of Newbie Men meant Crush Man repeatedly used me to demonstrate moves and techniques. Because I'm special. Because I'm his number one. He did not actually say this

Minor fanny flutter was had when he told Newbie Men to "look at her body", then said "perfect" after I'd done a thing. My Head knew he meant my technique. But My Fanny interpreted that comment very differently.

So last night, Sudden Doubts took the lead and I was pretty "meh" - not disappointed by the lack of contact or flirting, and no pounding minge.

But today Fantasy Man is out in front. I've spent most of the morning stalking his socials while in work meetings. Why?! What's happening to me?! I'm training with him again later on, hopefully without Newbie Men making an appearance. I shall update.

The best way to prevent fanny flutter is to get someone to insert something into it. But they must kiss it first. 😚

Omg please shag him then come back and spill the beans 😂

It sounds like you’ve subconsciously realised Gym Lad isn’t actually all that, and I think if you shagged him, you’d lose a decent training partner. Something about him is giving you the ick. Enjoy the training but take it further at your own risk.

Yes, it kind of does feel like something is giving me the 'ick'.
I'm not sure what it is.
I'm not sure if its something about him, or the situation itself.

I think My Head is helping give me the 'ick' because she's trying to say to me: "C'mon girl, going casual with a 22-year old sounds knackering and time-consuming. You've got like 500 things on your Netflix 'To Watch' list, you've completely neglected your garden this year actual garden not lady garden, you spent abut £200 on books after Christmas which are waiting to be read, and that stupid scrap booking project you started in 2020 lockdown needs finishing. You don't have the time. Remember you're also 36, you don't have the thighs for all- night straddle-a-thons like you used to. Pull yourself together"

So then when I'm with Crush Man, My Head's wisdom must cut through (hence no gallops). The 'ick' works.

But when we're apart, My Fanny drowns the 'ick' out. She shouts over My Head. Her reasoning is a lot less sophisticated. She's just shouting "He's hot, fuck him" on repeat, very loudly.

Lol at the idea of it being time consuming. Unless you go several rounds, you could be back on the sofa watching netflcks within the half hour (including 15 minutes on the bus) and jobs a good 'un. Theyre very excitable at that age.

👍and narrate it Grand National commentary style 😆