How to crush a crush?

[FuzzyFanny]

I have a crush. It’s ridiculous. He’s 22. I’m 36.

We met last year at a gym. It’s a spit and sawdust-type gym where people just rock up and train. We’d often be there at the same time. Around November, we started pairing. Well, he started training me really. He doesn’t work there, he’s not touting for business.

I didn’t fancy him at first. Then something happened a few months ago. I have no idea what happened. It's like a switch went on and now I’m like a bloody schoolgirl.

The training we do is very physical. We touch a lot. It gives me fanny gallops. We flirt a little bit. Nothing too heavy. Most of the men are quite flirty but its ‘banter’ (hate hate that word) rather than actually looking for more. Heaviest it got with Crush Man was last week – he was showing me how to move my hips. My bum was close to his groin. He said “Jesus, I better stop this” and walked off sort of puffing out his cheeks like he was flustered. My minge nearly fucking exploded.

22 and 36 is inappropriate. I don’t want to ruin our training relationship and friendship. I need to crush the crush. How?

I can’t really avoid the gym without good reason. I mean because we train together, I’d have to tell him that I’m not around for a while. And I can’t say “I’m going to be away for a month because I can’t cope with how badly I want to sit on your face”.

I don’t actually want to avoid the gym though. It’s not a regular gym, I can’t just go to another one. And I love it. I really do love the training. I love the gym. I love everyone there (some more than others obviously!!). I just need to crush this ridiculous thing. How?

Yes, if you are both single then it sounds like doing him will get you over him! He's an adult.

I had a brief fling with a 22 year old when I was 39. Bloody marvellous. We actually had loads of chemistry and he was so grown up for 22. He's now engaged at 25. We both knew it wasn't going anywhere but I still feel quite smug with myself from time to time 🤣

Secretly I hope your fanny gets her way.

I don't see the age gap as an issue

but I understand the crush thing can be awful. It usually goes away if you get to know them, tbh. I appreciate the physical contact is a problem there.

i was crushing hard on someone last week, for the first time in about ten years. It has been solved by a "get to know you" conversation 😂

Well as a guy ( for reference) phrases like "galloping fanny" and "exploding minge" will never leave me.. here's me thinking you're all ladies too!
Thank goodness for Mumsnet.. bloody brilliant at times!
Go girls!

Well , get under him to get over him and at least you'll have some nice memories to while away the hours in your nursing home.
Plus if your fanny is feeling her oats then taking her for a good stiff gallop might settle her down a bit.

This thread is hilarious!!

If you can have fun with him and not get emotionally attached then go for it but it sounds like your body is telling you it needs a man. You may get hurt with this one.

I have a 36 year old with a big crush on me at work and I’m 50!! I’m single btw. He has always flirted with me from day 1 of being on the job and messages me at home (sometimes with very inappropriate content although doesn’t go too far and I brush it off). He makes it very clear he would! I won’t! Not only is he too young and not my type but I am his senior at work and he has a girlfriend he lives with!! We are good friends though and I wouldn’t ruin that especially with him being a work colleague. He is always looking at women on his phone and talking about sexy women so I know he’s just a horny flirt!!!

@ACupofTeaandaSliceofCake sounds like his girlfriend has found herself a right prince 🤨

I was just thinking, it's interesting CupoTea describes him as a "good friend".

I would be thinking a) work, inappropriate, blech b) friends don't flirt like that?
c) how much of a friend can a man like that be?

anyway OP I hope you're feeling better. I had forgotten how awful the crush thing can be.

Yeah, just do it! Best of luck. It sounds like he almost certainly reciprocates as well, the hip thing leaves no doubt there

He sounds horrible! I'm all for the younger man when everyone's single, but he sounds like a lechy old man in the making. It wouldn't be ruining a friendship with this awful person that would worry me, more how to deal with him as his senior, before he ends up targeting some other poor woman who sees it as harassment.

We are just friends. We go for lunch at work and stuff like that. Nothing else! No way would I ever do anything.
His girlfriend knows what he is like. She sits him on a beach watching ladies in bikinis to keep him happy!

@ACupofTeaandaSliceofCake
“His girlfriend knows what he is like. She sits him on a beach watching ladies in bikinis to keep him happy!”

Yeesh. Quite dark. Is the girlfriend’s name Ghislaine?

It's astounding what some women put up with and think is normal from a man.

We've been getting to know each other quite well. In a conversational, friendship way

The more conversations we have, the more lovely he becomes. Bloody hell. I need him to reveal himself (ahem) as a secret turkey fucker or rampant homophobe.

@FuzzyFanny
“I need him to reveal himself (ahem) as a secret turkey fucker”

Live turkeys or ones from the supermarket?
Asking for a friend.

Any genre of turkey fucking is pretty bad, and should be enough to turn me off Crush Man.

Having said that, the idea of Crush Man wrapping his knob in a few slices of Bernard Matthews and settling in for a wank isn't turning me off at all as much as it should

Is he single?
If so then yes, leap on and ride him like red rum. Go galloping.

Yes, he's single.

I was more thinking, what does she get that makes it worth it?

in other news, I have dinner out tonight and definitely won't eat turkey 😂

If you do (fingers crossed for you!) set your stall out early in terms of what you want. Contrary to popular opinion that the older woman ends up getting hurt, ime it's often the opposite. You'll have a lot going on that he's going to like a lot, and they can fall very easily and very hard at that age, as the cynicism doesn't generally set in for another few years, bless em. Which isn't nice for them, but can also turn them a bit stalkery.

Wise words from 5128gap there.

He sounds fucking awful! I would raise your bar regarding workplace friendships if I were you.

Yuck yuck yuck 🤢

I'd say if anything was to happen you would be considered a cougar,

@ACupofTeaandaSliceofCake

“His girlfriend knows what he is like. She sits him on a beach watching ladies in bikinis to keep him happy!”

Why are you and his girlfriend enabling this slimy letch?