Met online date today and.....

[PawPaw333]

His teeth were so fucking awful.
He's lovely in every other respect, decent, good looking, respectful.. But once he opens his mouth I couldn't get past the teeth.
They are crooked, gappy and badly discoloured.
Am I being shallow here? I liked everything else about him.

My dad’s teeth are terrible despite a private dentist three times a year and hygienist precovid. Decades of smoking Im sure didn't help up until 10 years ago, but what has done the main damage are all his cancer treatments.

No don't tell him OP. It's all subjective, you haven't a clue whether his teeth are actually healthy or what his dental history is . You'd have said in your opening post if you were a dentist.
Just tell him that you're not feeling it. Not on at all to comment personally on someone you've met once.

@Onthelowdown

Same. Indicative of poor oral hygiene so not able to overlook. It happens.

Fwiw I won’t be telling him why. Blame a lack of chemistry

Bad teeth is not necessarily indicative of poor oral hygiene!

Yes, you are shallow. Maybe he has a dental phobia. It does exist... Just decide not to see him again and make sure you check out the next person's teeth before you go on a date because you are wasting their time otherwise. I do hope you have the most perfect teeth in the world!!

He needs to look up Smile Direct Club. It is clear braces by post at less than half the price of Invisalign but basically exactly the same thing. A bit too early to drop that into conversation though!

I had similar - great guy. Terrible teeth!

I said sorry there's no spark.

He knew he had bad teeth though, and later got veneers. He looked great with them! We didn't have another date though, but we're still in contact.

Call me shallow, but in my defence his teeth were meth-addict bad, and it was off putting.

Makes me think of that Fleabag guy!

Teeth can always be fixed but if you feel disgusted by his teeth now you're hardly going to want to pursue the relationship to the point where you could mention it to him. I would tell him you enjoyed his company though and try to point the problem out to him as diplomatically as possible. If he takes notice and does something you will be doing him a huge favour in the long run

oh yeah jsut tell someone to go to the dentist

ffs

@mummy1428

Could you fill out some Invisalign consultation requests online and put in his contact info. He will then start getting sales calls from dentists

What the hell is wrong with you

@SmallPrawnEnergy

Indicative of poor oral hygiene so not able to overlook. There’s plenty of medical conditions that affect the teeth. Absolutely nothing to do with oral hygiene, pure ignorance.

This . People always use the bad hygiene cause as they have no idea.

I’ve had chemotherapy and taken regular steroids which affected my teeth, gums and caused discolouration. Nothing I can do about it and I’m so glad the people I date aren’t judgemental.

@BodgertheJogger you would genuinely give up on a possibly good relationship because you couldn't bring yourself to tell someone you weren't a fan of beards???

Also personally wouldn't be put off, but I'm very looks focused.
Do you fancy him otherwise?

@madamovaries

Also personally wouldn't be put off, but I'm very looks focused. Do you fancy him otherwise?

Sorry, I mean NOT very looks focused.

Ffs the people advising op to tell him have clearly had an empathy bypass. I can only imagine how well it would go down if a man posted on here saying he didn't like his online date because she was too fat/wrinkly/old. I'm pretty sure he would be lynched and definitely not advised to tell her!

Fwiw discolouration of teeth isn't something people can help and isn't always a sign of poor oral hygiene. Sometimes brushing too hard can remove the enamel and cause discolouration so it can be quite the opposite actually.

Op you're lucky to have 'been blessed with straight white teeth' and you of course don't have an obligation to anyone to fancy them, but please don't make the poor guy feel even worse. There's very little he can do about it anyway short of expensive teeth whitening that he may not want or be able to afford. So all you'd be doing is making him feel bad.

He sounds dirty, and not in a good way. Dump and run.

He definitely doesn't need to look up Smile Direct club either, I don't know how that gets around the GDC rules & regs, but it's on very dodgy grounds for multiple reasons.

I'm just curious to know if everyone posting here has perfect teeth now
I know I don't.. Despite good dental hygiene, regular brushing, flossing, braces etc

@ReadyforTakeOff

He sounds dirty, and not in a good way. Dump and run.

Another ignorant one. We’re racking them up tonight.

@Gwenhwyfar

It's just discolouration??? That's quite normal. I was talking to someone yesterday who can't get her teeth whitened because the discolouration is from a certain medication she took as a child and apparently bleaching doesn't get rid of it. I have missing teeth so a bit of yellow is nothing compared to mine!

Probably tetracycline, a common antibiotic. It binds to calcium and discolours the teeth as they are forming. It can even cause staining of a child's future teeth in utero if the mother takes it.

If he has bad looking teeth it doesn't mean that he doesn't look after them.
I was born with some serious illnesses and since first days took massive amount of medicine. It destroyed my teeth, some of my joints.
My parents used to take loans to fix my dental issues.
I'm still brushing at least 3 times a day, using floss, Listerine, doing hygiene every few months- still looking bad. My teeth are very dark, grey colour.
Unfortunately, I was not able to spend £10k for implants as my teeth are so weak, nothing else could be done. I'm still saving money because basically I need all of them to be removed and have implants. It will cost my yearly salary.
I'm feeling sooo upset because I noticed that people think I'm not looking after them, once I got comment from my workmate -" you are very beautiful lady, you should do your teeth".
Unfortunately, I don't have that amount of money but hopefully that day will come....
So please, try to understand that he might be in the same position like me....

@BakewellGin1

I'm just curious to know if everyone posting here has perfect teeth now I know I don't.. Despite good dental hygiene, regular brushing, flossing, braces etc

Defo not perfect, but acceptable by British standards (standards being different around the world).

Just a disclaimer to set the record straight.
Nowhere in my first post does it say anything about telling him the reason why I wouldn't want to see him again. I have absolutely no intention to make anyone ever feel bad about a physical characteristic which might not be perfect to them. I certainly don't know the reasons why his teeth are in the manner they are and its not my business to question. I don't also instantly assume poor oral hygiene. My original post asks if I'm being shallow to let it put me off because I fancied him in every other way.

I had a similar experience and ignoring my initial reaction was one of the best decisions I have made. :)

It's discolouration, crooked, broken and his front two teeth were really gappy.