My friend's husband at 55 :)

[Successgirl2022]

Hello, my friend is 42, her husband is 55.

She asked me to ask some lovely honest people on here so she doesn't have to register.

Her: My period has started. You've missed your sexy time chance (usually it's for 3? maximum 5 days).

Her husband: (They've been married for 17 years).' Hooray! I have a weekend/fortnight/month off (sex)!'

Her: 'So would you prefer me to find a replacement for that role then?' :). He hasn't said anything.

She would like to ask men as much as ladies. Is it funny, sarcasm, his age & lack of sex drive, or what? :).

She has always had twice as higher a sex drive than him but she has never pestered him for sex and was patiently waiting for him to truly want it with her himself.

Thank you

baffling

Without knowing him personally it’s hard to tell, really.

A 42 year old man's sex drive will be a lot higher than 55 yr old man

Be honest it’s you and your husband isn’t it

WTF?

Never a truer word said in jest

Eh?

In my relationship that would be seen as humour.

yeah thats enough mumsnet for today. night all.

So HE welcomes a week off sex?

That's unusual alright. Well ime it's unusual, but I never had a partner that much older

It sounds like he’s been feeling the pressure.

That would be a joke in my relationship...

Sex drives vary. My bf is 55. He's a horny little devil. Doesn't sound like this gent is. If she's now bothered by the age gap and/or the lack of sexytime, she needs to have a proper conversation with him.

He sounds perfect for me, ask her is she wants to swap. My Dh loves sexy time tell her.

@Hopefulsunrise

yeah thats enough mumsnet for today. night all.

Tell her to ask him. Because No-one knows that, only him.

Huh?

Context is important.

Why was your friend pointing out he's missed his chance at sex? I can see it being said lighthearted and joking or in a passive aggressive way if she's wanting more sexual than him at the moment.

How did your friend want him to react when she announced she's got her period? The fact she suggested fucking someone else makes me me think she wasn't being lighthearted when she's announced her period.

It would very much be a joke convo in our house and I wouldn't think him joking back about a week off would warrant me asking if he'd prefer I slept with other men.

What the what now?

His penis probably shriveled up at the talk of 'sexy time'

To be honest he's probably grateful of a rest if she's pestering him all the time I can't think of anything more off putting

He's 55 not 25 give him a break

And the phrase "sexy time"
Makes me want to vomit 🤮 as it probably does him!

I don’t know I’m 48 and mine is 57 and I’d bloody love him to want a month off. Gearing up for the menopause explanation as he’s got his head round periods and pregnancy.

I can never get over the conversations MNers have with their “friends”.

Does being on your period mean you shouldn’t have sex then?
I really didn’t know it was commonplace to abstain while on your period? What about foreplay?