My friend's husband at 55 :)

[Successgirl2022]

Hello, my friend is 42, her husband is 55.

She asked me to ask some lovely honest people on here so she doesn't have to register.

Her: My period has started. You've missed your sexy time chance (usually it's for 3? maximum 5 days).

Her husband: (They've been married for 17 years).' Hooray! I have a weekend/fortnight/month off (sex)!'

Her: 'So would you prefer me to find a replacement for that role then?' :). He hasn't said anything.

She would like to ask men as much as ladies. Is it funny, sarcasm, his age & lack of sex drive, or what? :).

She has always had twice as higher a sex drive than him but she has never pestered him for sex and was patiently waiting for him to truly want it with her himself.

Thank you

@KatherineJaneway

His penis probably shriveled up at the talk of 'sexy time'

Like a withered carrot that has been left in a paper bag for too long.

Surely only she knows the answer to that?

He was mostly joking, but is hoping you would just go out and find someone to sleep with and leave him alone to watch the football and give him a couple hours of peace.

Is that the answer you wanted?

He is probably bored to tears with her , if she keeps asking these stupid questions,.

Sounds like a joke to me. Or his sex drive’ waning or, and this wouldn’t be what she’d want to hear, that he doesn’t really fancy her anymore?

Her: 'So would you prefer me to find a replacement for that role then?' :). He hasn't said anything.
That's a horrible thing to say.

Their relationship is in trouble because of lack of communication. I mean why ask you on here instead of asking him and talking it out!

Sexy time? (Boak) 🤮

Sorry whut

You said he could have that time off and he seemed a tad relieved. Why would he need a replacement? Just leave him alone.

what. the fuck.

The smiley faces throughout put me off reading.

What he said ... as a joke.

Him going quiet after she suggested sleeping with someone else, jokingly or passive aggressive? ... maybe he’s not sure how it was meant?

It would turn me off of my dp suggested a replacement if I wasn’t in the mood.

Are you a man trying to write as though you’re a woman and hoping for some kind of reaction?

Radical I know, but if I wasn't sure if my partner was joking or serious, I'd ask him. I feel like he'd be in a better position to clarify than a bunch of strangers on an internet forum my friend visits.

I'd probably want to do that before threatening to cheat on him.

I think she's more weird than him in this discussion.
Bit of a weird discussion to have in your 40s with your husband of many years, more along the lines of what a 16 year old might say to her boyfriend.

What was he supposed to reply? I guess his sex drive is less than hers, but even if it wasn't what would be the expected answer to that?

I’ve read this twice and I still don’t understand it.

How long do you leave someone alone for in the hope they'll actually want to sleep with you though?

It sounds like a joke your friend sounds insecure in her relationship that she’s giving it this much headspace and announcing there will be no sex for a few days…I think she’s looking for him to a) be upset that sex is off the table for a few days b) be incensed with jealousy at the thought of her having sex with someone else. It sounds like she’s not emotionally secure with him

All a bit odd in this house the conversation would go;
Me; I've just started my period I'm afraid you've missed your chance
DH: Oh ok let me know when it's back the table
Me: Ok I look forward to it

@Notbluepeter

What a load of old codswallop.

Nicely put.

Together 25years 46 & 47 no emotional hohah , it's just sex.

@PukkaP

Are you a man trying to write as though you’re a woman and hoping for some kind of reaction?

I would put good money on the answer to both of those questions being yes.

I don't really know myself, but asked my friend (51) and they said it could be a joke or maybe it's true.

My other friend (47.5) didn't respond at all, as she was stuffing cake into her face (as usual).

@Warmhandscoldheart

I keep seeing this jammy dodger emoji on threads - what does it even mean??