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My friend's husband at 55 :)

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Successgirl2022 · 15/04/2022 21:56

Hello, my friend is 42, her husband is 55.

She asked me to ask some lovely honest people on here so she doesn't have to register.

Her: My period has started. You've missed your sexy time chance (usually it's for 3? maximum 5 days).

Her husband: (They've been married for 17 years).' Hooray! I have a weekend/fortnight/month off (sex)!'

Her: 'So would you prefer me to find a replacement for that role then?' :). He hasn't said anything.

She would like to ask men as much as ladies. Is it funny, sarcasm, his age & lack of sex drive, or what? :).

She has always had twice as higher a sex drive than him but she has never pestered him for sex and was patiently waiting for him to truly want it with her himself.

Thank you

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RantyAunty · 15/04/2022 22:53
Biscuit
Hawkins001 · 15/04/2022 22:55

It all depends on the context,

mumsiedarlingrevolta · 15/04/2022 22:55

oh dear god

Milomonster · 15/04/2022 22:57

Wot da fuk.
MN is pretty batshit this evening.

Hertsgirl10 · 15/04/2022 22:58

Sounds like he’s knackered and wants a rest

onemorerose · 15/04/2022 22:59

Sounds like a joke. But with an underlying truth. Sorry, no help here lol

onemorerose · 15/04/2022 23:00

And how long since they last had sex?

Dancer47 · 15/04/2022 23:05

It sounds like he's making a joke - what's the big deal? Why is your friend talking to you about such personal stuff in her marriage and why can't she register here? it takes literally two minutes,

PleasantFucker · 15/04/2022 23:08

You what now ..

grapewines · 15/04/2022 23:11

Yeah, it's weird that she is sharing this with you. She should probably give him a break.

glinner4prez · 15/04/2022 23:11

Eh????

grapewines · 15/04/2022 23:13

@KatherineJaneway

His penis probably shriveled up at the talk of 'sexy time'
Probably ...
PeekabooAtheZoo · 15/04/2022 23:18

Is your friend called Sharon, OP? I always hoped she'd do another post.

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Successgirl2022 · 15/04/2022 23:21

@milderchilly

Be honest it’s you and your husband isn’t it
No, my husband would hardly ever/never tell me anything like this.

We match quite well in most parts of life and sexually too. We have a similar average/high enough sex drive

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Luredbyapomegranate · 15/04/2022 23:23

If my partner said the phrase sexy time to me I’d need to take a year off.

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Successgirl2022 · 15/04/2022 23:23

@Jinglebellsoncake

Does being on your period mean you shouldn’t have sex then? I really didn’t know it was commonplace to abstain while on your period? What about foreplay?
They avoid it then.

I thought most people do as well or not?

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MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 15/04/2022 23:23

You and your DH need to talk to each other more openly about your needs

CherryPieface · 15/04/2022 23:24

Missing the point here, but why can’t they have sex while she’s having her period? And also her calling it sexy time is weird so I’m not sure if what he’s said is off or if they are both a bit odd here?!!

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Successgirl2022 · 15/04/2022 23:25

@Crunched

In my relationship that would be seen as humour.
I agree.

It's not worth taking it personally and feeling sexual rejection.

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Successgirl2022 · 15/04/2022 23:25

@Hertsgirl10

Sounds like he’s knackered and wants a rest
I agree.
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Successgirl2022 · 15/04/2022 23:26

@CherryPieface

Missing the point here, but why can’t they have sex while she’s having her period? And also her calling it sexy time is weird so I’m not sure if what he’s said is off or if they are both a bit odd here?!!
Sexy time = sex.

Their couple language. Nothing unusual :)

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Successgirl2022 · 15/04/2022 23:28

@MrsElijahMikaelson1

You and your DH need to talk to each other more openly about your needs
They spoke about it and have established he needed it about 2 times less.

So she is willing to compromise waiting for him.

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Successgirl2022 · 15/04/2022 23:29

@PeekabooAtheZoo

Is your friend called Sharon, OP? I always hoped she'd do another post.
No, it's not her.
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Itsbackagain · 15/04/2022 23:30

Who actually announces that - sounds like he is glad of the break of her pestering him!

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Successgirl2022 · 15/04/2022 23:31

@Hawkins001

It all depends on the context,
He expects it to be a joke. But as we know many jokes can be based on some truth.
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