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Would you have dated your partner in secondary school or university?

151 replies

MoreHolidays · 31/03/2022 18:24

I hear a lot of women say they would not have dated their partner when they were younger and that their current partner is very different from their previous ones. How true is this for you?

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5128gap · 01/04/2022 20:47

He wasn't born Blush
But funnily enough, yes I would. He's exactly what I'd have gone for as a young wild teen, and now again in my 50s when I'm all over being sensible and respectable and just want to have fun.
In the intervening years when I had responsibilities and needed a pair of safe hands and sensible support, definitely not.

Crazykatie · 01/04/2022 20:51

He’s too much older, but someone like him yes, I was always sensible about boyfriends, cool didn’t matter, prospects did!.

imamumgetmeoutofhere · 01/04/2022 20:54

I'm not much help as we've been together since I was 17 Wink but in regard to secondary school, probably if I knew him

JoeGio · 01/04/2022 20:58

True for me. When I was young I liked rockers in bands with emotional issues, who I could have crazy drama-filled adventures with.
DH is decent and reliable and an absolutely wonderful husband and father, so I'm pretty sure I'd have rejected him for being boring.

Abraxan · 01/04/2022 21:20

We got together in lower sixth at school and been together since, so yes.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 01/04/2022 21:26

No, because his then girlfriend would have battered me if he so much as went to the library at the same time, never mind acknowledged my existence.

mollie8 · 02/04/2022 08:25

At school I didn't really notice him, I dated his best friend for a couple of years at school, they are still best friends.

autienotnaughty · 02/04/2022 08:30

No he's too nice!!

autienotnaughty · 02/04/2022 08:31

Oh yes I'm 6 years older so another good reason for no!!

CheeseMuffin · 02/04/2022 08:40

No because when I started high school he would've just celebrated his first birthday! And when I started university he would've been in reception.

Titsflyingsouth · 02/04/2022 18:17

Ha! I did date him briefly in 6th form. Didn't last. We were both young and total idiots.

Reconnected in our mid-20's and both found we'd grown up a fair bit. Been married 16 years. 😁

JustDanceAddict · 02/04/2022 20:04

Maybe at uni, def not at school. He is 4 years older than me so our paths wouldn’t have crossed.
He def ‘improved’ with age a bit, but we are both now getting older so have reached our peak a long time ago 😆

HerbErtlinger · 02/04/2022 20:09

No he was a bad boy, too cool for school type and I was an Uber geek. We definitely wouldn't have been together at school

babyjellyfish · 02/04/2022 20:12

I didn't meet my husband until we were 25 so I don't really know what he was like when he was at school. We would have been in the same year though and I suspect we would have secretly liked each other but neither of us would have been brave enough to make a move.

Charmatt · 02/04/2022 20:53

We got together at 6th form college - 33 years ago and still together, so yes!

Icantfrenchplait · 02/04/2022 20:59

When I was in school my DH was at war in Iraq so wouldn’t have crossed paths… When I was at uni - same - just Afghanistan instead.
If we were the same age I doubt we would have got together although we would have got on. I am glad we met when we did, he has lived a very interesting life and has unique perspectives which also enriches my life.

PermanentTemporary · 02/04/2022 21:08

Current boyfriend? Actually thinking about it he's very like my boyfriend in the third year of uni. So possibly. That slightly worries me as said boyfriend was phenomenally dull.

MissyB1 · 02/04/2022 21:08

God no! He was in apartheid South Africa, brain washed, right wing, and entitled.
I was in UK, from a midlands council estate and very left wing!

Changeychangey · 02/04/2022 21:27

I hardly had a relationship at high school, wasn't cool enough. Dh was at an all boys school and scared of girls anyway. Also he was a pretty serious Christian type and I wasn't when I was at school.

We got together when I was in 2nd year uni and him in 1st year, and got married at 24 when he was still a medical student, and I'd just started teaching.

Must have been ok because we're still married with 3 young adult children 27 years later!

Fossilsmorefossils · 02/04/2022 22:29

I knew my DH as a teenager! I wasn't remotely interested in him but he was very into me apparantly. Met him again at a reunion in our thirties and married now.

So no for me but yes for him.

RedRobin100 · 02/04/2022 22:36

No

Zazdar · 02/04/2022 22:47

No. He would have been arrested and put on a list.

VeganGod · 02/04/2022 22:50

We’ve been together since college and Uni, 25 ish years ago, so yes!

Joyfulflowers · 02/04/2022 23:02

Yes - met at school when I was 15, he was 18 (fancied him like mad but so did older & more sophisticated girls🤣) didn't date until I was 18 & he was 21 in 6th form & uni respectively

We're still together 30 odd years later

AliceMcK · 02/04/2022 23:44

No, not a chance. DH very geeky, had long hair, very much into the alternative/indie band scene where I was very much a pop/disco Princess, I would have totally hated it. He would have also been 2 years younger and at school I did not do younger guys, I was very much into the cool lads at school 😬🤦‍♀️. He would definitely have been someone I would have enjoyed hanging with in class but very much in the friend zone. At my 25th school reunion we spent the entire night talking to a group of men in my friend zone who I loved hanging out with and got on well at school, I was the only girl in our year who liked science fiction and fantasy, I was also one of 2 girls who took the CDT subjects at gcse. Most were versions of my DH now and most did a dam site better than my DH in the wife department lol.

If I’d gone to uni I would definitely think the same, however I did meet DH at uni but when I was 29, we’d both gone back to uni as adult students so very different from what we would have been back in our youth.

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