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Would you have dated your partner in secondary school or university?

151 replies

MoreHolidays · 31/03/2022 18:24

I hear a lot of women say they would not have dated their partner when they were younger and that their current partner is very different from their previous ones. How true is this for you?

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LoganberryJam · 31/03/2022 19:10

Yes at uni, not sure about school as I have the impression that he was really shy back then (he didn't have a girlfriend until he went to uni).

felulageller · 31/03/2022 19:11

At school no, I barely spoke to boys in my year let alone older ones.

I would have seen him as a loser anyway (not academic and frequent truant).

At uni, no I only dated other uni students.

MrsGHarrison87 · 31/03/2022 19:13

Nope because that would make me a paedo. Maybe if we had been the same age though. He was a goth as a teenager though and I wasn't, so I don't know if I'd initially have gone for him.

Hausa · 31/03/2022 19:21

He’s five years younger than me, so no! 😂

He’s very much my ‘type’, though. So, I suppose I dated numerous versions of him over the years. And now everyone in my past just looks like a pale imitation.

Blossom64265 · 31/03/2022 19:26

We did date. I broke up with him saying we had too much in common and got along too well. I was an idiot. Thankfully we stayed friends and I got a second chance.

Important life lesson. Marry the best friend.

AstridTheSmiley · 31/03/2022 19:34

At school, maybe.

At university (and we did actually go to the same place although we didn't know each other), no. I was a bit too cool for school in those days and would have found him a bit too much of a boring rugger bugger type.

Flipflopfoodle · 31/03/2022 19:36

Nope. He was hugely into Christian youth work and I was very anti religion. He was also a nerd and I was cool.

ScreamingBees · 31/03/2022 19:42

Yes, I think so.

SirChenjins · 31/03/2022 19:44

No - DH would have been in S6 when I was in S1, so our paths wouldn’t have crossed. Plus, he was in the science, astronomy and chess clubs and I very definitely wasn’t Grin

TinyRebel · 31/03/2022 19:52

Nope. I knew him back then. He went to university with a friend of mine, so didn't see him too often. There was a definite spark, but I remember thinking he was too nice and not my usual type (slightly ginger).
He was warned off me by our mutual friend, who told him I was a maneater.Blush
Little did I know, he could be perfectly naughty enough for my liking.
Ten years later, we finally got it together, and after 13 years, still going strong.

Dogknowsbest · 31/03/2022 20:04

No. But I would have probably used him for an ego boost, shoulder to cry on and occasional snog. I'm really glad I didn't meet him any sooner because I was so immature at school I would never have appreciated him.

JorisBonson · 31/03/2022 20:05

DH and I were both quite "alternative" at school and neither of us had boyfriends or girlfriends - we often think we would have gone out!

Sunnytwobridges · 31/03/2022 20:10

Unfortunately I don't have a partner lol However my last partner - NO.

From how he described himself back when he was young, he was the same prick he is now, a cute prick, but a prick nevertheless so NOPE. Grin

2pinkginsplease · 31/03/2022 20:10

I’ve been with dh since I was at college. Fancied him then, still do now! Probably more so now .fast forward 26 years and both of ours are now the age we were when we met!

Ofcourseinamechangedforthisyou · 31/03/2022 20:11

Yes, and I did.

Justalittlebitfurther · 31/03/2022 20:12

I met mine just after so yes! Still married!

LadyMacduff · 31/03/2022 20:13

At school, yes probably. At uni, no. He would have been too much of a party boy for me.

Allsorts1 · 31/03/2022 20:13

Definitely not, he would have been way too nerdy for me 😂

Lookingforanswers202 · 31/03/2022 20:15

Absolutely although we joke we would have about 10 kids by now, probably best we met later.

SpiderVersed · 31/03/2022 20:18

Absolutely. And I did. 30-odd years later I still think I chose well.

bathmatandbin · 31/03/2022 20:20

Not at all, I was a pretentious, arty, indie goth girl (think cigarette holder and fake fur coats) and he was a petrol head....I don't think our paths would have crossed

TheFallenMadonna · 31/03/2022 20:22

Me too. Got together at 19. Now 50. Still the one for me.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 31/03/2022 20:27

@Babdoc

I met DH my first night at uni! We moved in together 3 days later and were happily married right up to his death at 36. He was my soulmate, I still love and miss him 30 years later.
Flowers So sorry to hear that, Babdoc.

I met my husband on the third day of my degree course and we started going out a few weeks later. Married now for nearly 40 years. He's six years older than me (he was a mature student) so when I was at school he'd have been far too old for me. Putting that to one side, though, from everything I know about him, I'd say there is no point in his life or mine when I wouldn't have been interested in him.

alwayswrighty · 31/03/2022 20:27

I did date my DH just out of secondary for 3 years, went our separate ways and then got back together years later. He's always been right for me.

OvOvO · 31/03/2022 20:28

Seeing as I'm 8 years his senior it's a nope from me Grin

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