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Would you have dated your partner in secondary school or university?

151 replies

MoreHolidays · 31/03/2022 18:24

I hear a lot of women say they would not have dated their partner when they were younger and that their current partner is very different from their previous ones. How true is this for you?

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brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 01/04/2022 08:57

No, I went to a single sex school and didn’t speak to anyone at all at Uni !

mamabr · 01/04/2022 09:14

My baby's father is 20 year older than me, and when he was my age he was locked up..
so I would've served him at that point.
Completely different from my ex too, but not always in a good way

PennineWayinSlingbacks · 01/04/2022 09:22

No - he was a Young Communist and I was a Young Conservative! In the intervening years, we've crossed in the middle. I am now the wooliest of liberals and he's a grumpy old reactionary!

BreastedBoobilyToTheStairs · 01/04/2022 09:30

I did! We dated for a little while in our teens, then broke up and got together again in our 20s, but stayed very close in between. Our mutual friends all called us 'Ross and Rachel' for years because they were all so certain we'd end up together (minus the issues prevalent in that particular relationship!), no matter how much we protested.

I'm glad we had the time apart to grow up and experience life a bit away from each other before settling down. I definitely think it was good for both of us.

JangolinaPitt · 01/04/2022 09:32

Really interesting question!

No because he would have been a 1st year (yr7) when I was in 6th form. Eeew!

Same here!Grin

I think even if he had been my age he would have been too shy to approach me then.
I wish I had met him when I was 30 and him 23 and married him then..

bedtimestories · 01/04/2022 09:35

Yes, but life intervened so we didnt meet till our mid twenties

ChaToilLeam · 01/04/2022 09:38

No, the age gap would have been too much. He’s a few years younger. We had known each other a long time when we got together though, he was then 29 and I was 34.

SixteenTwelve · 01/04/2022 09:41

I met my partner at Uni and I’ve been totally besotted with him since I was 19 even though we didn’t get together until after graduating.

I absolutely would have dated him at school - his group of friends would have been very similar to mine. We all liked the same mid noughties “greebo” music as teenagers. I’ve seen pictures of him and heard enough stories about him at school that I know I would have thought he was the bees knees and much too cool for me!

SantanaBinLorry · 01/04/2022 10:17

Age diff aside, No!
my other half jokes that i probably wouldnt have even liked him until about 3 years before we met - when he realised he was a massive tit and a liability Grin
About the time of my first wedding/baby he was setting his face on fire accidentally at a friends wedding and losing himself and his shoes in some forests for 12hours plus.
He's bloody ace now, but really was a massive tit Grin

Greensleeves · 01/04/2022 10:21

We met at 18, at university, and have been together for 25 years. We're very happy. He's the best mate I've ever had.

Weirdly, we've always said that if we'd met at school - just a few years earlier - we probably wouldn't have liked each other at all. I was an angry, disorganised, immature rebel-without-a-cause, and he was a rule-abiding shy physics nerd who was so tightly controlled by his mother that he wasn't allowed friends anyway.

bathsh3ba · 01/04/2022 14:58

Definitely not, from what he has told me, we were complete opposites. I would have thought he was an irresponsible lout and he would have thought I was a stuck up princess. We would probably both have been right but thankfully we have both matured and changed since then!

PastMyBestBeforeDate · 01/04/2022 15:07

I did know him at university. Nice man but not for me. By the time I did think I fancied him, he was with someone.
Life moved on but eventually we got together :)

Ringmaster27 · 01/04/2022 15:17

No….mainly because he was in year 10 at high school the year I was born Blush

CornishGem1975 · 01/04/2022 15:21

I did!

Chasingsquirrels · 01/04/2022 15:23

No I wouldn't have (based on who I understand us both to have been at that time, ignoring the 6 years between us).

H1, I met & started a relationship with at uni.

DH2, yes I think I would have (again ignoring the age gap, he was nearly 14 when I was born).

Bloke I'm currently seeing, I don't think he'd have appealed to me at all in his youth, or pre-40 tbh.

thatsgotit · 01/04/2022 15:26

Probably, but I don't think he'd have dated me. I was socially clueless with bad dress sense back then. Grin

FelicityPike · 01/04/2022 15:27

Yes I would.
I would’ve fancied him back then too.

TheLadyGrayson · 01/04/2022 15:33

Yes, I did. Still am, getting married in September 😂

Goodbyetowinter · 01/04/2022 16:34

Absolutely no way! He was already married when I was 16 anyway. Too short, too skinny and the worst taste in fashion. He also had the most hideous beard. By the time he was single and I met him, he was perfect for me and the beard had gone!

Thenose · 01/04/2022 16:43

Yes, but he'd never have asked me out because I was too young for him; four years is a massive gap at that age. I wish we'd been together then; it would've saved a lot of misery.

Katyrosebug · 01/04/2022 16:45

I went to the same school as my husband, he was the year above me but his tutor was next to mine. He'd had been with me but I don't think he'd have been 'cool' enough for me back then Grin

dannydyerismydad · 01/04/2022 16:47

Nope. I've seen the photos.

He's since found tweezers and no longer has a monobrow.

RantyAunty · 01/04/2022 17:43

No, he wasn't born yet!

phizog · 01/04/2022 18:03

We discussed this as we are the same age. And agreed that we definitely would have fancied each other, but not sure a relationship would have worked as i was a lot more driven/ambitious/worldly than he was. But I still am and it works so maybe!

We were on different continents though, so there is that small logistical issue.

CoverYourselfInChocolateGlory · 01/04/2022 20:34

Definitely not. I was a hippy/grunge metaller and he was in the Young Conservatives.