Should I leave my boyfriend after he gripped me by the throat in argument when he was drunk?

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Hi there, yesterday my boyfriend came home drunk we had an argument about a secret folder he had on his phone, I tried to grab the phone off him to show him and he grabbed my by throat and said I was lucky he didn't headbut me. Should I leave now?

Yes. Please leave. I have worked in high risk domestic violence homicide prevention and this is a really major red flag. This can be the last point of escalation before someone is killed. Please speak to your local domestic violence services and get yourself safely away from this man.

Your life is over if you stay with this piece of excrement. In every way: some ways sooner rather than later.

This might be helpful to any woman in a relationship who has experienced stragulation:

criminaljusticeknowhow.com/domestic-violence-and-strangulation/

It's certainly not a grey area and I would leave asap.

strangulation

Yes and don’t look back.

YES

Oh my god is he my ex?

My ex threatened to headbutt me into silence, yanked my phone off me so I couldn't call the police and pushed me up the wall by my throat.

After one incidence of being choked, or when your partner goes for your throat, you're much more likely to be killed by them in the future

Yes, choking and strangling is linked to domestic violence that ends in death. That is the NUMBER ONE PREDICTOR FOR IF A WOMAN WILL END UP KILLED. If he'd choked her.

I left my x soon after he did this. It was bizarre, he had his hands around my neck and he told me I had no idea how much he wanted to kill me. Then when he let go, I sobbed silently and he made me a cup of tea. When I poured the cup of tea down the sink, he got angry with me again.

Men who do this are dangerous. Please leave.

Yes. Please go, as
Fast as you can. It won't improve.

Get out now op. You deserve better than this.
This man is dangerous, and if you stay you're giving him the green light to continue treating you this way.

Yes leave and report him.

He didn't 'grip you by the throat', he attempted to strangle you/throttle you or restrict your airway, this is very easily fatal and as many others have said also a huge high risk indicator for domestic homicide. Yes leave, now.

Read back your post. What would you say to someone who had just written that?!

Yes

The best time to leave was yesterday. The second best time is today.

Leave, cut all contact with that poor version of a boyfriend.

Yes. There is nothing in the world that makes that behaviour acceptable or excusable and it is a huge red flag and indicator of risk.
Doesn't matter what you did. Doesn't matter how drunk he was. Doesn't matter if he is under stress at work / had shit childhood/ had a "crazy ex" who treated him badly / has mental health problems or any of those often trotted out excuses. Doesn't matter if he cries, buys flowers, promises counselling, or to never drink again. Or if everyone else says he s wonderful and wouldn't a fly.
You need to end the relationship and block him.

Hi there, OP,

We're sorry he did this to you.

We thought we'd just leave this link here to our domestic violence webguide. There might be some numbers there that might be of use now or in the future.

Please leave him.

YES!
Choking/strangling is the biggest Red Flag there is! Any abuse is unacceptable but this is the worst.! Please leave him, he's not safe to be around!
I'm sorry!

Leave now. Please don't give him a chance to explain it all away. Put yourself first. Leave for your own well being.

Yes please leave and block him and do not ever go back as he has shown you who he really is. This will only escalate further if you stay with him and you will be damaged physically and emotionally. Leave now while you can.

Yes.

I am sorry that he has done this to you. You are not overreacting. Not even close.

OP I hope you are somewhere safe

YES