Honest opinions of what you would think of a woman who said this?

[Greensandon]

OK so plese be brutally honest. I will explain why I'm asking after.

What would you think of a woman who messaged her "boyfriend" ( things are not that serious but been seeing eachother for 8 months) and got a bit "naughty" in the text messages telling him to come over, she's in bed waiting for him and much she wants him / (gagging) for him she is?

What would you think? And do you think the man would think less of her?

I would say what else are you supposed to do if you're in the mood and want your boyfriend/fwb/fuckbuddy/whoever to come over? In fact, I'm not quite putting my finger on exactly what you think is wrong here- that you initiated sex, or that you did it via message? I would jolly well hope that after 8 months together, even if not that serious, you would be enjoying sex with him and feel confident enough to initiate it if you're in the mood. Doesn't even sound like your messages were that explicit, I'm sure plenty of us have sent worse. Totally normal.

It’s normal and healthy in a consenting adult relationship.

@Pinkbonbon
ValkyrieVik
In the scenario you've mentioned I would assume she had no self love. And low boundaries. Not because she is asking him to come round for fun. But because she has been 'seeing' this guy for 8 months and worries he doesn't respect her - because he CLEARLY doesn't respect her

How did you come to this conclusion? OP said nothing of the kind!?
Because she wouldn't be worried that a decent fella would think less of her just because she instigated dirty talk.

She wouldn't think 'oh he might think less of me'.

That idea just wouldn't enter her head. IF he was a decent man who was making her feel safe and secure.

Absolute top marks for filling in the blanks and twisting it to be the mans fault .

I would try not to in future and be more romantic, just because that's what I want for next time.

But I've done this at times over the decades I'm sure.

It's normal.

Well I wouldn't think anything of it as I wouldn't be aware of it as it was a text between her and her bf. But as you are telling us I'd say pretty normal 8 months into a relationship. Married 3 kids deep our messages are just shopping lists, "milk, bread, spread cheese, persil tabs" was the last message I sent to my husband 😆.

Very normal behaviour. Don't worry about it. A lustful relationship is perfectly normal.

(He isn’t your boyfriend, doesn’t want you to be his girlfriend and no amount of saucepot sexy messages is going to make that happen when it’s been 8 months of casual)

Pretty pathetic to be so vocally gagging for someone who has been shagging her for 8 months, seeing her ‘unseriously’ and won’t make her his official girlfriend

How can people decide this from the OP's post?
She didn't mention any of this. For all you know it could be her that "won't make him her official boyfriend"

Oh, it's totally fine to do this. And most guys would love it!

Normal if you are in a relationship and lots of passion so would think nothing of it at all. Women should not feel bad for having a high sex drive and for taking the lead in the relationship. Should not have to wait until the man takes the lead and I would think it is all exciting and how it should be in a fairly new relationship full of passion and excitement.

Where’s my pearls when I need them…..

I'm old and have been married 35 years and I think it's fine. If you aren't gagging for it 28 months into a youthful relationship there is something very wrong. It you feel awkward about telling your partner that, then that's wrong too.

@PeaceForUkraine Is anyone here a stranger to a pearl necklace?

Look, if a man thinks less of a woman who openly expresses her sexuality, then he's not someone she should be having sex with full stop.

Wouldn't bat an eyelid.

Sounds like a normal sexual relationship to me

I’d think the woman was a horny adult and thst her boyfriend was a lucky guy.

(Unless she texted his work phone in which case I’d think she was a bit dim and inconsiderate.)

If the boufriend reacted negatively I’d think he was an uptight prick with madonna-whore syndrome.

Let us know how that erotic novel went down! Would be very interested to know

Oh, it's not written. I've been passing the time on MN instead...

Is anyone here a stranger to a pearl necklace?

Several years ago, I was chatting to a group of colleagues online while we were sorting some problem. I was the only woman. Can't remember how it came up, but one of the Germans said to me, "I think you'd look nice in a pearl necklace."

The bastards kept quiet while I ended up explaining why I had taken offence to this, and that pearl necklace had more than one meaning, a fact the German had been unaware of until that point...

@WeDontShutUpAboutBruno

I would think she wants to shag her boyfriend.

After 8 months I would assume he wants to shag her too since they are seeing each other and would be delighted at the messages.

Totally normal.

Yep

Man's perspective... I would probably view a message like this with suspicion. Possibly a prank or scam. Could be anything.

@EBearhug Lol!

@greasyshoes If it's from someone you don't know then that'd make marginally more sense. But they've been shagging for months.

@greasyshoes

Man's perspective... I would probably view a message like this with suspicion. Possibly a prank or scam. Could be anything.

Even if it was from your girlfriend? Wow...

It sounds totally normal and in no way anything you should be ahsamed of or worried about.

Women are adults and allowed to have sexual desires. It doesn't make you less worthy of anything.

What would you think?
Doesn't take a genius to recognise she's feeling horny.

And do you think the man would think less of her?
Not unless he's a complete fucking muppet!!