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Honest opinions of what you would think of a woman who said this?

120 replies

Greensandon · 12/03/2022 15:37

OK so plese be brutally honest. I will explain why I'm asking after.

What would you think of a woman who messaged her "boyfriend" ( things are not that serious but been seeing eachother for 8 months) and got a bit "naughty" in the text messages telling him to come over, she's in bed waiting for him and much she wants him / (gagging) for him she is?

What would you think? And do you think the man would think less of her?

OP posts:
MissNothing1991 · 12/03/2022 16:09

Could you maybe just hurry up and provide further information as to why you're asking this question?

HeddaGarbled · 12/03/2022 16:13

I’d think she thinks that’s what men want.

diplop · 12/03/2022 16:16

@HeddaGarbled

I’d think she thinks that’s what men want.
That is what men want.
1forAll74 · 12/03/2022 16:17

No I would not be sending any of these such texts to a man, however long I had known him, and would not like to recieve any such texts from anyone either.

Sofiegiraffe · 12/03/2022 16:18

@diplop

A woman who has the confidence to ask for what she wants.

This. A total non event within the context of a relationship.

dworky · 12/03/2022 16:20

Don't let anyone say there is no longer a need for feminism.

Moyny · 12/03/2022 16:21

To be honest, I don't think you should be shagging someone for months if you think they're that misogynistic.

Having said that, I think a significant minority of men are so acculturated to the idea that sex is something men 'do to' women that they are actually frightened by the idea that women might feel exactly the same about sex as men do, want sex just as much as men do etc.

If this wasn't the case, there wouldn't be so much porn that focuses on unwilling women being forced, degraded etc. Some men do prefer that idea.

Beautiful3 · 12/03/2022 16:22

Normal. It's been 8 months and she wants to have sex with him. It's nothing bad. Just normal, private stuff between a couple.

MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 12/03/2022 16:23

Does it matter what anyone else thinks? If your boyfriend was the sole recipient of the text and didn't appreciate that's his prerogative. Not everybody likes that kind of thing.

If you sent it to a group chat I'd think you were an absolute muppet.

girlmom21 · 12/03/2022 16:25

I wouldn't think anything of it because in normal circumstances I wouldn't know anything about it because it'd be kept between the boyfriend and girlfriend.

I'm guessing you said this to your boyfriend and didn't get the response you'd hoped for?

Suprima · 12/03/2022 16:28

Pretty pathetic to be so vocally gagging for someone who has been shagging her for 8 months, seeing her ‘unseriously’ and won’t make her his official girlfriend

I would gather she was hoping that acting like a bit of ‘nympho’ he would like her more and define the relationship.

I’m no prude here- but I wouldn’t even send such a message to a friend with benefits. Why would I groom someone’s ego who is literally doing nothing for me?

Suprima · 12/03/2022 16:29

(He isn’t your boyfriend, doesn’t want you to be his girlfriend and no amount of saucepot sexy messages is going to make that happen when it’s been 8 months of casual)

AddictedToOlives · 12/03/2022 16:30

I think it’s odd if someone else has told you that they’ve done it… it should be private between the people involved

But I would think the woman (either you or whoever else?) is confident about expressing her needs and good for her. And I would guess most men (unless particularly shy or old-fashioned) would be turned on and flattered by that

Really want to know the context now…

SheldonesqueTheBstard · 12/03/2022 16:30

Waiting for the drip part.

WallaceinAnderland · 12/03/2022 16:31

So you sent him the messages and he's said he thinks less of you because of it?

Aquamarine1029 · 12/03/2022 16:33

Any day now, op.

Moyny · 12/03/2022 16:33

@Suprima

Pretty pathetic to be so vocally gagging for someone who has been shagging her for 8 months, seeing her ‘unseriously’ and won’t make her his official girlfriend

I would gather she was hoping that acting like a bit of ‘nympho’ he would like her more and define the relationship.

I’m no prude here- but I wouldn’t even send such a message to a friend with benefits. Why would I groom someone’s ego who is literally doing nothing for me?

Maybe she just wants him for sex? Not every woman is dying to settle down and start picking out curtain fabric and looking longingly in jewellery shop windows.
CityHigh · 12/03/2022 16:33

How would I know ?

girlmom21 · 12/03/2022 16:34

@Suprima

Pretty pathetic to be so vocally gagging for someone who has been shagging her for 8 months, seeing her ‘unseriously’ and won’t make her his official girlfriend

I would gather she was hoping that acting like a bit of ‘nympho’ he would like her more and define the relationship.

I’m no prude here- but I wouldn’t even send such a message to a friend with benefits. Why would I groom someone’s ego who is literally doing nothing for me?

This is a bit dramatic. For all we know she said 'boyfriend' because she thought they were serious and he reacted badly to the messages.
ValkyrieVik · 12/03/2022 16:36

Pretty pathetic to be so vocally gagging for someone who has been shagging her for 8 months, seeing her ‘unseriously’ and won’t make her his official girlfriend

How do you know she doesn't just love sex? I tell dh I'm gagging for it quite often - and did before we were married.

Women are allowed to love sex you know?

Original poster
Greensandon · 12/03/2022 16:40

Thank you all Flowers. Yes it was me. I would never usually send anything intimate that could be shared/shown to others but I was genuinely horney Blush and wanted to see him (never sent such messages before).

He enjoyed it and came over. But I've been having irrational thoughts that I've messed things up with him. I am near that time of the month and I do tend to think irrationally around that time of the month.

Thank you.

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MrsTerryPratchett · 12/03/2022 16:41

Are they already shagging? And is the 'not serious' mutual?

If yes to both, I'd say lucky him and I hope they have a nice time.

If not, it's all very complicated.

Aquamarine1029 · 12/03/2022 16:41

@Greensandon

Thank you all Flowers. Yes it was me. I would never usually send anything intimate that could be shared/shown to others but I was genuinely horney Blush and wanted to see him (never sent such messages before).

He enjoyed it and came over. But I've been having irrational thoughts that I've messed things up with him. I am near that time of the month and I do tend to think irrationally around that time of the month.

Thank you.

Good grief, just relax, op. You both enjoyed yourselves, that's all that matters.
MrsTerryPratchett · 12/03/2022 16:41

Messages are fine. Pictures are more complicated.

girlmom21 · 12/03/2022 16:42

You were horny and told him so and he came round and you had great sex?

Absolutely no issue here OP.