Too Many Cats

[ImJustMadAboutSaffron]

Do you think having cats is a relationship dealbreaker/guys would find it weird? And how many cats is too many cats?

Agreed, there are too many cats

Having been in a relationship with a cat-hater for many years (though he has four golden retrievers!) this would be one of the first things I would want to know. So anyone on a date with me for the first time would have cats mentioned!!!

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Today 01:49 Japanesejazz

Never trust anyone who doesn’t like cats
I was given that advice when I was a child by my favourite great aunt and it’s never been proved wrong yet. I’m nearly 50**

^Cool story bro

A man that didn’t like cats, or animals would be a deal-breaker.

I don't think I could really go for a man who hated cats, or wasn't nice to animals generally. But I also would understand him not being into me.

I have a cat who hates men, so it would be hypocritical to object.

2 cats max for me. I'm worried that 3 is like a gateway to a slippery slope and then you couldn't stop.

I love pets but personally I think 1-3 is about the right number for most homes. I'd be a bit put off by someone who had 4-5+. I suppose I'd worry the number would grow over time.

If someone didn’t accept your cats then you’re incompatible, simple as that.

I doubt I’d have married my husband had he been an animal hater. In fact I know I wouldn’t, life is too short to give up a joy like pets for a bloke.

I love cats. I have two. I think I might personally struggle to meet the needs of more than, say, 3 cats.

My main issue with meeting a fellow cat owner would be the potential difficulty of integrating our cats. In my experience cats don't welcome new cats in their territory, and introductions can be slow and painstaking.

@Bringsexyback He sounds nice......
Bullet dodged!

It's easy. If you both have the same views about pets then it's no problem. If you have really wildly different views about pets then that would for me be a deal breaker. (4 cats here)

@PraiseBee

Agreed, there are too many cats

There a too many people. There will never be too many cats

Never too many cats, though you could have too many for the space you have, or it not be kind to have a cat if you are away a lot.

I agree with others that finding out whether someone loves cats (or dogs) is important to do so early on. I could not live in a house with a dog, for example.

If they don't have any cats then that'd be weird. I'm good with cats, have as many as you like long as you look after them!

The way my husband bonded with my cats was one of my favourite things about him. We still have one of my cats around (who is very much his as well now) as well as a couple of rescue cats we adopted together. If anyone is put off by your pet family, they aren’t for you.

@Suprima

Men who vocally hate cats should be avoided They can’t deal with things that don’t need their approval and validation constantly

Agree.

My chap has LOTS of cats 😂

I once had 8 for one summer and that was too many. 6 for me is the limit (I currently have 5, so there is a vacancy...)

We have three which is probably edging towards our limit. If we didn't have the dog, we'd have more though.

DH originally didn't want any

A work colleague has 12.

One cat would be one cat too many

@HowlongWillThisTakeNow

One cat would be one cat too many

Are you my ex?

@ImJustMadAboutSaffron
Maybe?
My ex got a cat, the cat decided I was it’s owner, I had to groom it, take it to the vets etc, just ignored my ex, I was the only that had to take it to be euthanised,

Did someone say cats? 🐱
Miaow

Ha ha! My DH said when I met him that he’d never own a cat… over the last few years our numbers have varied but always more than 4 but less than 10 . He’s also a little nervous of large birds but has got to grips with helping me with our flock of chickens and ducks!

“So, Karen, why you so much in my house lately?”

Here’s another one. Yes, I like cats!