My husband slept with someone else, should I forgive him?

[Sadlytrue1234]

I caught my husband of 10 years red handed after he cheated. He slept with an ex from 10+ Years ago. Caught a conversation where they were making plans to travel together for a conference he was going to. He was super excited and had been distancing himself from me for a long time now. Sent a Private investigator after him and turns he really did spend those couple nights and days with her.

I confronted him and at first he lied about everything and then when he saw that i have proof he confessed to spending time and chatting with her. But still hasnt confessed to actually sleeping with her. Even tho i know they stayed in the same room.

Now hes apologetic, wants to change himself and wants this marriage to work for the sake of the kids. Before this event, he had been distancing himself and pushing me away every chance he got. He has anger issues too.

Should i forgive him? And stay in this marriage?

It's easy for everyone to say leave because there not in your situation. I would say don't do anything right this minute unless your sure. Think about it for a while & then decide. If you can't stop arguing about it constantly that is not good for anyone & you will have to ask him to leave. He could move out for a bit & see how you feel once it's not such a shock.

Most of the women saying leave have done just that, and know how simple and freeing it actually can be.

That divorce is irrevocably horrific and damaging is a lie that keeps women trapped in shitty relationships.

He's not worth it. This was no drunken mistake this was planned and considered. Rate yourself more highly than he does you, women etc. Why hang around and suffer this again and again. He's not worth wasting your emotions on.