Amazing first date but then he sent me this message.

[Milomonster]

I met a lovely guy on Hinge, and had the most wonderful date. It ended with us saying we’d like to meet again. There were a few messages back and forth afterwards, and then he sent me this. My friends are divided on what he means. I think it’s the start of breadcrumbing.

“So I need to be completely open with you and I hope we can align our schedules but this will probably require a bit of patience so I apologise in advance. I typically have a very busy schedule, with kids, work can often very demanding time wise, varied friends and I tend to be an active individual. I’m sure you do to, which I think is great. Now I personally don’t see this as a bad thing but people have struggled with it in the past so I think it’s only fair to tell you. My good friends tease me about it. It’s just who I am, life is full of adventure. Now I’m happy to be patient, we’ll definitely find windows of opportunity.”

That message will completely suit me

I’m a single parent very focussed on my children, good job, wide circle of friends and love working out.

So I’d actually be really happy to receive a message like that

It seems obvious to me he’s still married and prepping you to be bread crumbed. He was just showing you his best side on the date. The text is his true self. It’s absolute bollocks and I don’t know how anyone could possibly believe ‘his friends tease him’ about his busy life.

Throw this one back OP.

He sounds very up his own arse. His schedule isn’t exactly full of adventure (work, kids, exercise) and his friends probably don’t tease him about it.

@Easterbunnyiswindowshopping

Did' to' just have one o? Ltb for that.

yes!!!

It’s simply all about him OP (definitely could still be my XH)!

I, I, I !!!!

Reply with a thumbs up emoji.

@arethereanyleftatall

To be helpful, you could edit his response with the correct spelling of too, for when he copies and pastes this message again.

I totally agree this words he is really off putting . And sounds like the sort of person who would talk at you and not listen.

It’s a cut and paste. He’s sending it to everyone after first date. I would ignore and block. Absolutely do not see him again.

Tosser. I would go radio silent until he gets back to you ( and he will )
It's fun predicting what they will say next.."Ah, sorry if that last message upset you...I didn't mean to offend you...No harm done?" He'll turn it around on you.
Or maybe he will simply move his patter onto the next one straightaway 🤔
He's ridiculous. He should be on a 'No Strings Attached/Married people Only' site.

I’d only reply “Goodbye”.

How about 'Cool I had fun. Yeah I've got a really busy weekend and the next 2/3 weeks are a bit tight. I really think we should keep our options open TBH. Let's see what happens :p

In reality, I would throw this gem back in the pool.

What a terrible piece of writing, the thought of spending time with whoever wrote it makes me cringe. Find someone else OP, he'll be busy with wife and kids.

"I hope we can align our schedules". He managed it for a first date so he's basically not as interested as he thought he'd be. I would assume he's either still currently married or missing his ex wife. No thanks!

Such a busy bunny rabbit and it's so big of him to squeeze you in! I couldnt be arsed with that and I dont believe it.

I was once told that everyone wanted a piece of him. As if being with me was the bit that was too much. Off you fuck then.

He's expects to put in minimal effort for maximum benefit his disclaimer will be 'you were warned about this' each time you are hurt or feel used or undervalued. He thinks he's fucking fantastic and worth it though.

I'd be very interested to know your response to that message @Milomonster

@when I'm bored and have no better offers, I'll call you and hope you will sleep with me, I'll then not contact you until that happens again, as I'm far too busy to prioritise any time with you, but hope the sec will be enough for you to stick around"....... not a chance. He's not aomeone I'd bother with.

UPDATE: I messaged him as I like closure on this kind of shit. I said I didn’t quite understand what his message meant, but I gleaned he wanted something casual when he could fit it in, and that didn’t suit me. I would like to leave it here and wished him well.

He replied by saying sorry that he’d been distant as things had been busy with work, and that wasn’t fair on me. He thanked me for my message and wished me well (but didn’t apologize for wanky message).

Thank you all for your witty comments, support, kindness. I’ve been howling with laughter at the comments. Life is an adventure and a window of opportunity will arise when the right man will come into my life who will actively align his schedule with mine. My good friends will, one day, tease me about the wanky text.

Urgh. If he starts off like this I really wouldn't bother with him OP.

🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆 OP 😂

I'm not that bothered about you but you might be good for a fuck now and again as long as you don't ask for my time in between

Good for you with the reply

Great reply! This thread has been very entertaining, everyone is so witty.

I am looking to the future for you op where the stars align your schedule with a man and he floats down form the sky, he will be available once a week for a date and doesn't make a fuss over it all

@Obira

He isn’t serious but wants to keep you hanging on so he can call you when he feels like it. I would just say “yeah ok” and be unavailable in future.

This

I am sorry OP, my feeling is that he wasn't that into you after the date...

It happened to me too. I got nearly an exact reply re apologies for being distant, thanks for my reply (to his odd message) and wished me the best.

It was clear to me that he didn't think the date went as well as I thought it did.

Just chalk it up to old experience.

Great reply.
Trust in the universe. A decent one will turn up.