OLD grads thread 1

[BelladiMamma]

Thought I'd kick this off

Yeah yeah I know I said I wanted less screen time ...

Feel free to get chatting and sharing our tales of life on and off the apps

@Eesha, I think Shay is right, a mismatch of energies. Some people deal better with being unwell than others but as long as he wasn’t short or snappy with you then I think it’s best to distract yourself with other stuff and hope he is feeling better soon.

@Stepcount not short or snappy but it was definitely a mismatch and I felt stupid.

@Eesha It is me that mentions hormones all the time (🙄)
I use Clue but it doesn't sound as advanced as Flo. I track my period and it predicts 3 months ahead for me, I work out my ovulation myself based on what I know about my cycle (and my 'dump Mr K' mood😂)

I'm sorry to hear last nights chat with Mr Music didn't go well, maybe both of you are mis-remembering ?
Having proper conversations rather than low level messaging when people are ill is tough as someone isn't on best form.
I know if I'm ill I can't be bothered to speak or barely message which is so unlike me.
Is he physically ill or mentally not in a great place?

I think seeing each other ill for the first time is always a good test in a relationship. It seems he goes quiet when he is ill and you're finding that really difficult.
I'd text this morning as usual and do something nice with the rest of your day to forget about him and maybe message this evening.

Well stop that feeling now @Eesha brush it away with a big broom.. new day.. new you.. positive energy!! 💛💛

Id send him a cute but breezy message just so he knows its all good, then go enjoy your day 💗

@SortingItOut yes he's physically in a lot of pain. He seemed to play it down before but he seems to think he already told me how awful it was and i couldnt expect him to be all chirpy etc when he was unwell. Anyway, I'll have a shower and think whether to message.

Cant believe I took so long typing my reply that everyone else had already said what I said🤦‍♀️

@Eesha Pain is just the worst type of illness, it's so relentless. Is he just having a flare up or is this a long term thing and his meds need tweaking?

I wonder if he has some delirium and thinks he told you about the pain but hasn't?

@eesha when are you seeing each other next? I find messaging tricky when one or the others vibe is off. It can be really easy to misconstrue things.

@supercali77 meant to be next weekend but if he's still unwell, will probably be in two weeks.

@ButterflyOfShay

Hope it’s ok to still chat on this thread? Not sure if it’s just for folk in RS 😁

It's for anyone from the OLD thread who doesn't want to chat purely OLD 🤷🏻‍♀️ I think

I just felt a bit redundant froM the apps chat myself and didn't want to completely leave as I love you guys ♥️

[quote Eesha]**@SortingItOut* was it you who was linking monthly cycles to mood, or was it @ButterflyOfShay*? Could you share the app you used? I'm feeling really anxious these days plus have been diagnosed as peri menopausal so would be good to understand what's going on a bit more[/quote]
I've also bought a testing kit for checking where I am on the menopause. I too get very anxious but I think some of that is down to my accident. It's quite bad at times but often seems link to my concussion syndrome because I get dizziness etc.
I've downloaded a CBT app which helps with ptsd symptoms as I've also had that diagnosed. I've got an appointment with the GPas the concussion symptoms have been really difficult the last couple of weeks so I want to get another scan.

Having said all that, the best thing is to do something completely different today that you love doing. Try to forget about MrMusic and your worries there. Just have a lovely Eesha day. Better still if that involves some exercise.

Hope you're ok ♥️♥️♥️

Well, in my news, ive been tracking my moods on my own calendar as there are certain times of the month that I feel horrendous. Really insecure, anxious, paranoid, miserable etc. I've realised it's the week before my period.
I have an op in 2 weeks as I've been diagnosed with early stage cervical cancer and the nurse gave me a surgery date yesterday and told me to track my periods as obviously they cant operate if I have it
I checked my calendar

I'm 2 weeks late
I'm 47, surely I'm not......
Im not on any birth control, I never have, I figured I was too old
Fuckin hell

@Clovertoast

Well, in my news, ive been tracking my moods on my own calendar as there are certain times of the month that I feel horrendous. Really insecure, anxious, paranoid, miserable etc. I've realised it's the week before my period. I have an op in 2 weeks as I've been diagnosed with early stage cervical cancer and the nurse gave me a surgery date yesterday and told me to track my periods as obviously they cant operate if I have it I checked my calendar I'm 2 weeks late I'm 47, surely I'm not...... Im not on any birth control, I never have, I figured I was too old Fuckin hell

Go get a pregnancy test today and put your mind to rest.

In all likelihood it's the early stage cancer and the worry of that messing with your head.

And

@SortingItOut, sorry to hear that you are facing a procedure. Those kind of things really play on my mind. I had some treatment in my early 30s for some pre cancerous changes on my cervix. A bit unpleasant but no further issues since. You’re sounding very in control of the situation and I’m sure it’ll all be sorted swiftly.
I also had a couple of pregnancy worries at a similar age, I never tested positive and it’s seems most likely that it was the start of hormonal fluctuations affecting the cycle etc. Highly unlikely that you are pregnant but as Bella says take a test for peace of mind. Are you pregnant is a question that they are likely to ask ahead of your treatment so best to have an answer.

• sorry similar age meaning mid forties pregnancy concerns.

@Stepcount I think you meant to tag @Clovertoast

clover get that pregnancy test brought to put your mind at rest. I hope the surgery goes ok🤗

Oh gosh, sorry @SortingItOut, I thought that it was a big thing to have not shared on the thread, given your honesty and openness about things happening with you.
And @Clovertoast , everything I said in my post still stands. Hoping that everything goes smoothly this week and these worries and concerns are behind you asap xx

@BelladiMamma do you mind telling me some more about the menopause kit?

Thanks everyone for your great advice. He wasn't well last night apparently again and slept terribly. We had a real heart to heart today and he was so chilled, just explaining that I shouldn't worry about him and his illness etc (which I do), that it's his issue. He made it really clear if he needed me, he would come to me. I felt much more chilled. I think I'm very much a rescuer and can't stand when I feel someone is in need or not well so rush in to help or get anxious when I can't help. I need to work on that though.

@Clovertoast what a horrible thing to have to go through I hope you’re ok. Must feel very unsettling for you. Hope the op all goes smoothly.

@BelladiMamma oh thats good… me lurrrves you too 😁😘😘

@Eesha I am so pleased you've had a bit of a breakthrough today. Hopefully you won't feel so anxious and like it's all your responsibility ♥️

@ButterflyOfShay mwah 💋dahlin'

@BelladiMamma thank you, its feeling a lot better though I possibly won't see him for a few weeks due to this health stuff. But things do feel more back to normal after talking it through. As a pp mentioned, illness is a big test for relationships.

@Eesha we’ll keep you company 🥰🥰 xx