"Teen" Porn

[LadyBananaHammock]

Partner of 25 years, 61 years old. I am 55. We don’t live together. Turns out he has a penchant for teen porn. I rumbled him before and he swore he would never do it again. And yet here we are some years later. He even wrote out a signed contract to say never again. His idea, not mine. Put it on his fridge and there it remains. What a joke.

The recent sites have models who are…apparently 18 years old, but MY GOD, they look so young. About 13, if I’m honest. I feel a bit ill. He’s been impotent for years and was never that into sex, tbh, so what the hell is this all about?

I’m so depressed. I have struggled with bulimia for years and now it has returned with a vengeance. I'm not blaming him, I take full responsibility for my illness, but dear Lord, it’s so hard to feel good about myself right now.

We have other problems, which I have chosen to ignore because of his umpteen good qualities. I am in recovery from child sexual abuse (which he knows all about), so perhaps my issues are getting the better of me. I probably shouldn’t be taking all this so seriously. The girls look so young, though. Maybe I shouldn’t have checked up on him. Serves me right for snooping.

Please help me get over this.

@Avarua

I'm not surprised by men and their fucked up sexuality anymore. Sickened, regularly, but no longer surprised.

This

This verges on peadophilia in my eyes. He obviously has a thing for underage girls, (producers seek women who actually look underage, as lets face it, thats what alot of men want) he's a dirty old man.

Thing is OP now you know this info, if you are anything like me you will now find them a total turn off as you just imagine them scrolling through pages of this sleazy shit and wanking to it. Maybe some women really don’t care, or accept that’s how it is or don’t want to rock the boat or like this stuff themselves — but I certainly know that it totally killed my libido !

Yes, this is what I'm trying to make sense of. Is this a thing to worry about, or simply creepy and off-putting?

Both, obviously!
Creepy & off-putting IS worrying.

His fetish beforehand was always upskirting and peek-a-boo voyeurism.

Jesus Christ.

Upskirting is illegal. He gets off on the idea of women being covertly filmed without their knowledge. Whether he's watching women who genuinely are being covertly filmed, or those playing the part of the women who are being covertly filmed, he gets off on the idea of a woman's privacy and dignity being violated and shared online. Fact.

You now know he also enjoys porn depicting women who look underage having sex with adult men. Again, whether he's watching that happen for real (aka images of child sexual abuse) or he's watching adult women playing the part of younger girls, he gets off on the idea of the reality of it.

And this is a man you want a relationship with? Who you want around your family? Who you can imagine kissing and touching and sleeping with?

Really?

Please leave this disgusting excuse for a human being

What the fuck. A wannabe (or active) nonce boyfriend that you didn’t immediately dump? Why accept literal scum in to your life? 🤮 ‘upskirting’ is not a ‘fetish’, it’s a sexual offence. Can you raise your standards higher than ‘sex offender’? Jfc.

Threads on this site from women who accept actual dregs of society just to have a boyfriend give me so much rage, I cannot comprehend the mental gymnastics required. Get therapy and stay single.

So he's gone from being turned on by voyeurism to being turned on by girls that look underage? Creepy as hell.

(I say that as a fellow childhood sexual abuse victim, by the way. Your choice in male is abhorrent, you need to work on yourself intensely, keep males out of your life until you can assess basic standards and behaviour.)