Am I being paranoid here?

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Been with my partner for 4 years, and currently pregnant with my first child.
We were out for a meal and bumped into an ex of his, who got really nasty. She basically ignored me entirely but laid into him with absolute anger. I was really taken aback because I never expected this out of nowhere.
He was terrible too. When she had com up and snapped at him he somehow taunted her and that made her even angrier. She said horrible things, like what she hoped would happen to “his” baby and this really upset me. He got angry at that, but at that stage she was already being asked to leave. It was so embarrassing, and everyone was staring at that stage.
I asked him of course what on earth this had been about, because wtf?? He said he had been seeing her for a while when he had been working at uni, but that it had been short and that he didn’t know what this was about, and that she was obviously unhinged.
That would have placed the two of them together ten years ago. I can’t help thinking that there must be more to the story and that there is something he isn’t telling me :( I mean who would still be this angry after such a long time??
I’m so torn. I really want to know what this was about but I’m also terrified of running into her again because I can’t get over what she said.
I don’t know what to do or if I should just let it be. I don’t want to ruin everything by being paranoid.

Sorry, I posted before I read the update. I will ask for my comment to be removed. Well done, op.

I know that I did the right thing, but I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t struggling with my decision. This has all become so complicated and we are both upset, and I hate that I am causing others pain. This isn’t what I wanted for my little boy either. It’s all such a mess.

Oh no, i’m sorry that this has happened. I think you’ve done the right thing by leaving, he sounds quite scary tbh in the way you describe him. If he’s now turning this anger on you then you know he still has issues, especially if he’s trying to place the blame on you and being emotionally manipulative regarding your pregnancy.

You aren’t causing pain - he has done this by lying about his past and who he is. Don’t let him guilt trip you. Don’t let your mother minimise things either.

Whats scary is that I don’t think I know who he really is. I know this sounds melodramatic but it’s just how I feel at the moment. Anyway

I haven’t read the whole thread .
if you’re saying you’re breaking up with him for something he did 10 years ago, it sounds like complete over-reaction and madness to me.
Presumably 10 years ago he wasn’t much more than a kid.

It’s more about him lying and not caring what he did, and that he caused some real damage.
I don’t know if I’m doing the right thing so I have to see.

I think you’ve done the right thing OP. If he had been willing to own his mistakes and take responsibility then that would be different but in all honesty it doesn’t seem like he’s a very nice person, and in the kindest way possible your post was full of excuses as to why he’s an arsehole

i think your son will be proud of you. I have a little boy who isn’t a year yet and your ex is not the type of role model you want round a baby. you’ve done the most important thing and you’ve put the baby and yourself first, even if at times it doesn’t seem like you have.

oh and regardless of where you go from here, please do not give the baby his last name. I would also be questioning whether I’d have him on the birth certificate at all, because once he’s on he has just the same rights to this baby as you do.

But I don’t want to deny him access to him, or make it difficult for anyone. I just can’t cope with this right now because he is in one ear and others are in the other. My little boy is due in 2 weeks and yes, he is the most important in this.

I’ll make it work.

How u doing op x