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Husband Facebook

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mylifesucks1 · 17/02/2022 00:21

So I can't even explain how I got on it, but one of the female managers at my husbands work on one of her pics on her Facebook below was a comment from my husband saying incredibly stunning.
Now to me this is out of order. Who else agrees or would be upset by this ?

OP posts:

willithappen · 19/02/2022 23:03

Regardless as to whether she is a lesbian or not, his comments are disrespectful and you shouldn't accept it.
There's no excuse he can give to explain this in any good way.

sal1223 · 19/02/2022 23:14

I'd want to see his Facebook messenger , if he didn't hand me his phone straight away he's got something to hide . Maybe a bit dramatic but I'm recently divorced due to infidelity on his part and didn't have a clue !

PiperPosey · 20/02/2022 04:40

Lesbian...bawwwwwwwwwwwwwwhahhahahahahahha
OP...I had a best friend ( guy) before I met my EX husband. He felt very threatened with our friendship relationship.
So I was young and dumb and told my ex that he was gay and we were like Will and Grace.
He bought it until he asked my friend if he had a partner...and he said
"No I'm waiting for the right woman to come along! " He then married a woman and had 3 kids. ( Yes, I know gay men marry and have kids) but he was definitely straight. And yes I hooked up with him before I met my ex.)
OP he lyin.

sal1223 · 20/02/2022 17:28

Any update Op? This is all a lot to take in and you must be feeling really shitty ☹️ you'll look back one day and be glad you busted him

me4real · 22/02/2022 01:55

TheWookie (sorry, can't tag on phone) yes and for a lot of them it spills over a little into how they react to lesbian and bi women IRL.

Oakleaf40 · 22/02/2022 12:47

@mylifesucks1

So I can't even explain how I got on it, but one of the female managers at my husbands work on one of her pics on her Facebook below was a comment from my husband saying incredibly stunning. Now to me this is out of order. Who else agrees or would be upset by this ?

How would he like it if you did it ?

Oakleaf40 · 22/02/2022 13:13

@vikmc87

This is really upsetting. I hope you are ok. To me it’s not the fact that he has complimented her, as people can but the words he has used. Those words, to me, sound like they come from a man besotted. I also believe he has gone on the defensive because he fancies her or has feelings for her.

My ex-husband reacted in a similar way when I caught him saying some very complimentary things to another woman, turns out he was having not just one but 3 affairs. He worked on projects all over the UK and essentially had a girl in every port. We argued and he tried to gaslight me but I knew his anger was due to his own guilt.

I’m not saying your husband is cheating with her but what he has done is disrespectful to you. How would he feel if you posted the same thing on the milkman’s fb to make sure you got the good milk.

Same for me. My EX-Husband was doing the same..ohh its just banter etc . As soon as we separated after 20 years within 4 mths later there she was....That friend.. Moved in up the road from me also.. Funny thing is he's doing it still on Fb and she isn't happy..

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