What do women actually find attractive about men?

[PeeAche]

Inspired by a a reverso thread, I want to know... what is it you like so much about the Hairy Ones?

When I was 9 years old, my teacher made me sit next to a boy called Jamie who was kind of naughty. He used to swap words in our hymns for other words that rhymed or otherwise fit. Sometimes it would make the song rude. Sometimes it would just mean he was singing his heart out to his dog instead of god.
It would make me giggle and I would think about him, even when I wasn't at school.

The day that I first heard Jamie belt out "to my dirty pants" instead of "to the elephants" in morning assembly, is the day I realised that I love the mischievous ones.

And yes, I married one. 🙊

@Shehasadiamondinthesky

I'm straight but I don't find men attractive. I dont like all their body hair. They just do nothing for me.

Are you sure you’re straight?!

I guess the hair part is a bit subjective but not to find them attractive at all seems odd.

I’m the opposite - I like all types of men, tall and lean, short and stocky, dark, blonde, muscly, fat. The only thing that’s a must for me is body hair! I had a big falling out with XH back in the day when he threatened to shave off his chest hair and then told me we didn’t have sex often enough for my opinion to carry any weight! Reading body hair threads on here, I guess he was right, his body his choice and all that. But I made chest hair a prerequisite on my dating profile after we split up

Confidence
Outgoing even though I'm an introvert. I don't want to be with anyone shy or quiet.
Not skinny... would rather be with someone overweight than underweight
Deep voice

My Husband is ex Army/ex Doorman, shaven headed, broad of shoulder and incredibly funny and has supported me for the last 33 years
This is the man, that has been handed many a fractious newborn, has distracted tantrumming toddlers, held our DD's hair back whilst she's been throwing up, and gets up in the middle of the night to let the dog and cat out for a wee......I love the bones of him. I'm a lucky mare 🤣

I love a dry sense of humour, they have to make me laugh or forget it!
plus i have a thing about mens hands, i dont like feminine hands on a bloke.. oh a tattoo or two also suits me

I love chest hair. I like rubbing my chest on their hairy chest

Slim, slight, smooth, not necessarily tall, fairly androgynous. Given the consensus in favour of enormous hairy men on this thread I should be cleaning up, shouldn't I! 😆

Someone quick witted with a good brain that I can look up to. Kind, generous and reasonable looking.

@PeeAche

I like it when they wear shirts. And I really really like it when they drive sensibly. 😍

Haha. Sensible driving is good. Can't stand maniac drivers.

A man with a plan. Someone em with something about them. Confidence without arrogance.

My relationship is all quite new. He turned up with his toolkit and said “I noticed there were a few jobs that wanted doing” and then got on with them. I thought “fwarr.” And I watched him very carefully dismantle and then fix a special thing that belongs to my youngest, who he had never even met, all whilst standing around in his shorts and I thought “I’m going to shag you rotten when you’ve finished.” And I did.

He’s also v emotionally tuned in a lot of ways. Something horribly terribly embarrassing happened on our second date and I was mortified and he had hold of my hands and said “look, all we have just done is fast forward to that bit in a relationship when things like this happen and then we move on.” It was the perfect calming thing to say.

And I was ill another time, and couldn’t stop crying - proper crying ugly in bed, and he said “what we need to do is go and have a nice cup of tea.” And we went downstairs at 4 in the morning and he lit the fire and wrapped me up and gave me tea and we talked until the sun came up.

@boaroff

Though the strong forearms features in a lot of the posts on this thread!

@boaroff Yes that's true. Mentioned mire often than biceps. I think it might be that biceps can always be built up, whereas forearms tend to signify larger bone structure which highlights sex differences between male & female.

@Shuffleuplove Did you fart?

No Earthsight. No. Sadly I did not fart.

Some strong patterns starting to emerge here -

Nice forearms
Generally taller than the woman
Quite a few women like chest hair
Stocky build, broad shoulders. Basically not slight or very slim
Nice smell. Clean.
Kindness
Ability to make them laugh
Honesty
Intelligence
A few mentioned sexy reversing, which is interesting!
Hardworking, competent or at least employed

Funny
Strong broad forearms
Regional accent
Not posh
Working
Driver
Bit of a risk taker
Outgoing and extrovert (to balance my quiet introversion)
Good at it and fixing things generally

Tall
Dark
Handsome
Clever
Kind
Funny
Solvent
Generous
Confident
Capable
Interesting
Worldly
Out-ward looking
Fun
Talented (music/languages etc)
Cultured
Non-fussy eater!

@Cheekypeach

Oh and weird as it is I sort of like men that are slightly grumpy/sarcastic (in a funny way), I’m very smiley & a bit like tigger and find I balance well with that type of personality.

@Cheekypeach Have you had relationships with men like that? I'd be careful of that trait if I were you. Some men are like this because they are arrogant, entitled and sometimes a bit narcissistic - they're grumpy because they think they are surrounded by idiots, and that will include you sooner or later if you're in a relationship with them. They almost wear their grumpyness with pride as it's almost part of their identity to be bad tempered, disdainful and intolerant. It's no fun spending time with someone like that, even though it might seem amusing to a Tigger type person like you to poke them. It will suck the sunshine out of your life eventually.

Yes I have @EarthSight my DH is just like this. We spend all day every day bantering & I love it.

@Cheekypeach I'm glad you've both found each other then :)

Intelligence, wit, dad bod. Guy next door type. Rafe Spall for example.

@Nillynally

Intelligence, wit, dad bod. Guy next door type. Rafe Spall for example.

Oooh yes Rafe Spall!

Nothing

Very ambitious- I have always been attracted to men with a bit of fire in them. Love go getters.
Not interested in men who are laidback in terms of their careers

@Cheekypeach I don't understand why it is but he just makes me feel all funny!

My DH is perfection so I’ll just be describing him 🤣
Physically they have to be very tall, dark and hairy, especially with a beard. Strong arms. Not bothered about weight. Love a dad bod! Must be a good kisser.

Personality they have to be cheeky, passionate, strong, a do-er(can’t bear faffing), do their fair share at home, emotionally intelligent and able to apologise, and worship the ground I walk on.