What do women actually find attractive about men?

[PeeAche]

Inspired by a a reverso thread, I want to know... what is it you like so much about the Hairy Ones?

When I was 9 years old, my teacher made me sit next to a boy called Jamie who was kind of naughty. He used to swap words in our hymns for other words that rhymed or otherwise fit. Sometimes it would make the song rude. Sometimes it would just mean he was singing his heart out to his dog instead of god.
It would make me giggle and I would think about him, even when I wasn't at school.

The day that I first heard Jamie belt out "to my dirty pants" instead of "to the elephants" in morning assembly, is the day I realised that I love the mischievous ones.

And yes, I married one. 🙊

I find the emotionally mature ones really attractive.
DH is not only ridiculously intelligent, he is humble and hilarious to the same degree.
He has really helped me see how much shame I was living with and has been to therapy himself so recognises his own flaws etc.
I hate immaturity in men, the ones that want you to mother them.

@Bunnybunny1 yes!!! Maturity! So true.

Ooh I love reading these!

My brother and friends always said I'd struggle. And I have! I've never found all the qualities I find attractive in a man in one person. Until now...

My boyfriend is just short of 6ft, 16 stone and has a mohican. He's intelligent but not educated. No airs and graces. Doesn't own a suit (thank god!) Is a bit of an idiot at times and makes me laugh. He's kind, thoughtful, humble, considerate and romantic. His grammar is perfect and his text messages are always perfectly punctuated. Has no ego and doesn't feel the need to compete with others. He's completely comfortable with who he is. Good work ethic but not ambitious. Not materialistic in the slightest.

He looks a bit intimidating but he's the softest man I know.

He's kind to everyone. We went out last week and encountered a young woman and her mum on the way home at 1am. Despite the fact we were both drunk and knackered, he didn't hesitate to all but carry this woman 30 mins in the opposite direction home while I walked with her daughter and reassured her.

In the morning, he said he hoped they were both OK but didn't make a single unkind or judgemental comment about her.

He is absolutely everything I find attractive in a man.

Oh yes and he's both emotionally intelligent and literate. Very attractive.

Kind, honest, trustworthy. And really nice forearms 🤷‍♀️

I love dark curly hair, my DH has gorgeous hair I just love it! 😂

Short, stocky, bald is fine, strong arms/shoulders/chest, bright smile and sparkle in the eyes, kind, funny, sweet and smart - it's got to be the whole package and for all his twatty stuff, DP has it all.

I've been with somebody who was so fucking pretty he could have been a model at any time between the ages of 19 and 42 when I last bumped into him, but he was thick as mince and had a mean streak usually saved for people he thought were smarter or weaker than him. I've been with a bloody man mountain who wasn't that bad to look at, but was outright nasty to any woman who crossed his path and I've been with big guys, skinny guys, arty types and mechanics. None of them had 'that thing' DP does.

The ability to make me feel safe, loved, respected; to quietly whisper something that makes me double up with laughter, to compete against me at Only Connect or any quiz - or dominoes, snap or Guitar Hero - and do a lap of the garden in victory because he scored more than me or one on my behalf because I beat him. Where I know that I can appear in the kitchen clutching some form of wildlife saying 'LOOK WHAT I'VE FOUND' and he'll roll his eyes and say 'go on then, what've you got? Hang on - it's not a bloody radioactive spider, is it?', rather than have to rush to rescue something before it's stamped on, sprayed or kicked.

And he's a bloody good guitarist. Pain in the arse to rehearse with, but as long as the drummer locks in with me, he can do his poncing around at the front to his heart's content.

Intelligence (of whatever kind). Sense of humour. Sound personal, emotional, physical, and domestic self-management skills. Manners. Kindness (not ostentatious kindness). Respect for the rights of women. Willingness to earn a living.

I've been attracted to physically very ordinary men who have these traits, and been repulsed by men with godlike good looks who don't have them!

I like men who look dangerous but arent. Shy gruff men who open up just for me.
Physically, I have a long hair and beard fetish. Big arms and strong thighs.

Physically ?
Smooth, tanned/olive/brown skin. The less hairy the better.
Reasonably stocky build.
Blue eyes.
Deep, silky voice, extra points for an accent.
Fresh smell. Freshly showered or freshly sweaty from mowing the lawn

Plus obvious but not arrogant intellect and a clever, naughty sense of humour.

Nice forearms
Freckles
Wavy hair
Teeth that have been reasonably cared for

As a man reading this what women go for is so varied!

As a man reading this what women go for is so varied!

We're all different- that's what makes humans so interesting!

Though the strong forearms features in a lot of the posts on this thread!

Broad shoulders.
Nice forearms, especially when revealed by rolling up shirtsleeves (short sleeved don't have the same effect).
Well-shaped backside.
Clean shoes and fingernails.
Intelligence.
GSOH.
And kind, honest, courageous personality!

If you'd asked me 6 months ago I'd have said tall, skinny, clean shaven, non smoker but seeing as my man now is none of those then I'd say it's personality, smile, affection and loyalty that are a man's most attractive features 😊

Same for women and men really. Their laugh, smile and muscles and intelligence are usually the things that attract me to someone.

Oooh yes bums. I can’t stand big bums or flat bums on men. They have to be average and shapely, and look good in suit trousers.

Smart, quick witted and generally chilled out are the only things that matter to me. Doesn’t matter too much what they look like. The worst dates I’ve had have been with extremely good looking men who are dull as dishwater (to me, anyway!)

Funny/good sense of humour
Geeky/intelligent

Oh and weird as it is I sort of like men that are slightly grumpy/sarcastic (in a funny way), I’m very smiley & a bit like tigger and find I balance well with that type of personality.

I'm straight but I don't find men attractive. I dont like all their body hair. They just do nothing for me.

Meh who laugh at my lame jokes and don't give a shit what I look like seeing as I can't be arsed to care anymore! Luckily my husband is so not bothered 👍

Someone with a plan.

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