If you’re in a relationship how often do you think about splitting?

[UpToMyEye]

Not necessarily talk about it with your partner, just as in fantasise about what life would be like without them, how things would change, what you would do with your time/space?
Not sure if other people do this and if it’s indicative of something

I've only been with him a bit over 2 years but not once even for a second. I can't remember a time when I didn't know him and don't want to return to whatever that was like.

All the the time but I thinks more to do with my attachment style. However, I do fantasise about being single all the time.

I only think about this when we have a big argument. The rest of the time I think about how we're going to move forwards in life together. I think if you consider your life without them a lot, then it's a sign things aren't quite right and you might be happier with someone else..

I've been with DH for over 30 years and honestly have never thought about us splitting up.

Speaking honestly, quite a bit. Usually when we argue or when I’m exhausted or fed up. I do have a few friends that have very good arrangements in place (live very comfortably with good levels of child maintenance, almost 50/50 split and have weekends etc to themselves to date/go out with friends) and I admit, when they talk about how great it all is for them them, I do feel jealous and fantasise.

When the kids are being too much I have thought that if we split I’d have a few days a week alone……but that’s it,never actually seriously thought about it. 11 years together and in our mid 30s

Frequently at the moment, and honestly the fantasy feels like a relief.

Every. Single. Day.

Every. Single. Day.

Every day

All the time. I also wonder if I love my husband and whether our relationship is 'normal'

13 years together, and now not at all, but we have gone through phases where I have thought about it quite a bit. I'm very glad I never acted on it though, as I would have made a grave mistake. Something clearly kept me hanging in there and that was the right choice. Relationships/marriages are never going to be all roses and there are going to be times that you question whether it's right for you, but I think something deep down tells you whether it is or isn't. Obviously if there is abuse of any kind, the answer should always be no.

Today? Twice. No intention of doing it but twice today have thought "this would be easier if you just left me/I left you".

Been together nearly 2 years and not thought about it once!

I occasionally imagine how life would be if we split up, but it's a negative fantasy fuelled by the fear that he will grow tired of me.
I never think about leaving him.

I think once when I was a bit depressed after birth of first child I thought it would be better if I just disappeared and ran away. Can't think of any times before or since.

Been together over twenty years and just once, on a miserable, sleepless camping trip when the only thing worse than the incessant rain was his incessant whinging.

Bit that was pretty bad and by the last day I was looking at studio flats on Rightmove.

A lot at the moment as smothered by small people and miss my alone time.

All the time. And I have for quite a long time.

Never! Have thought about what it would be like in an negative way but never fantasised about it if you see what I mean

Been together over 30 years. In the early days, the answer would have been never. When things got tough with kids and so on, I sometimes wished I could leave both him and the kids! I wouldn't have wanted to really, but the stresses without breaks can get overwhelming.
Now? Yeah, sometimes I think about it daily, other times we plan happily for our future. I don't think I would really want to separate but by God it is annoying sharing your space with another person sometimes.

I went through a spell where I fanatised about burying him under the patio, let alone splitting up. We weren't in a good place then TBH. I definitely wasn't. At our absolute worst, I sat and wrote down exactly what life would look like without him. It was actually quite liberating to see that I could cope without him. And funnily enough that was the starting point that helped fix our relationship. I realised I didn't need him anymore. But I wanted him IYSWIM.

Never, I'd be absolutely devastated to be without him and overwhelmed at the thought of doing everything on my own, he supports me so much.

I used to do this a lot when I was in an unhappy relationship with my ex. I would take DS1 for a walk in his buggy and we'd pass all these blocks of flats and I'd look up and imagine all the different lives people had and what mine would be like if I wasn't stuck with XP.

Married 9 years, the only time I've imagined splitting up is when I've read on here 'you can never be 100% sure that your husband is faithful.'

But even when I tried imagining it I couldn't get it to ring true.

In my morbid moments, I've imagined him dying. But that has been me trying to prepare for the worst and definitely not a fantasy.

I like living with my DH, he's good company and makes my life better in lots of big and little ways.