If you’re in a relationship how often do you think about splitting?

[UpToMyEye]

Not necessarily talk about it with your partner, just as in fantasise about what life would be like without them, how things would change, what you would do with your time/space?
Not sure if other people do this and if it’s indicative of something

Every day, several times per day. I just need to be brave enough to actually do it.

When I was happy in my marriage, never. When I wasn't, all the time.

@UpToMyEye

This is interesting, such a variety of answers

To the people saying every single day - what stops you?

Also lots of people saying they only do this when times are bad, which is also very interesting
I do this every day, even when times are good

But I really don’t know what stops me - love? I do love him, I do sometimes wish I didn’t though
I actually sometimes wish he would do something awful like cheating on me or hitting me so I’d have a concrete reason to end it that no one would disagree with
Does anyone do this too?

At least once a week.

Yes to the last paragraph …then I feel awful about it that it’s entered my head…

Only still with him because of our son who absolutely adores him. Otherwise we would have split a long time ago....I feel trapped!

Every day at the moment. Everyone else our age have fully settled with 2 or 3 kids. While I'm here living 40 mins away from him with no kids and no commitment. Been together 6 years and I don't remember thinking about breaking up often before 2 years ago. I always told myself that if he hasn't proposed by 1st of Jan 2022 I'd leave. Yet here I am

@Nomorepastry

Every day at the moment. Everyone else our age have fully settled with 2 or 3 kids. While I'm here living 40 mins away from him with no kids and no commitment. Been together 6 years and I don't remember thinking about breaking up often before 2 years ago. I always told myself that if he hasn't proposed by 1st of Jan 2022 I'd leave. Yet here I am

Bin him off!

Never. I think more about him dying.

@Ginger1982

Never. I think more about him dying.

It was when I got to this point I knew I had to end the relationship with my XH - it’s a terrible thing to wish someone dead,

@Badbaddog oh God no! I meant as in I worry about him dying, not that I want him to die!! 😂😂😂

So much easier said than done though, I just can't seem to let go

@Nomorepastry

So much easier said than done though, I just can't seem to let go

But he's giving you literally nothing. No marriage, no home, no kids...what do you get out of being with him?

More than I'd like to admit.

But I won't. Further up the thread people ask why ..... practicalities, money, the kids. Its not easy to walk away however loveless it's is

[quote Ginger1982]@Badbaddog oh God no! I meant as in I worry about him dying, not that I want him to die!! 😂😂😂[/quote]
I’m really relieved to hear that! 😂 Though I’m sorry you dwell on such a sad thing sometimes.

Honestly never. Together for 23 years...