If your husband wrote this about you, how would you feel?

[CupOfNiceTea]

”After 18 years of marriage and 3 kids she’s still the sexiest woman to walk on this planet. Her hair is fucking amazing, her boobs and ass are hot as fuck, she’s amazing curves and the sexiest legs. This morning around 3:30am she went to the toilet and came back and grabbed my hand and we held hands while sleeping. She’ll always kiss me goodbye or welcome me with a kiss (and our teenagers go ewww lol), and I love pampering this woman. She loves me blow drying and brushing her hair, shaving her legs and doing her nails. I’m always so happy when she’s around, I’m so in love with her.”

What is your reaction to this?

I don't see the problem here really? Granted he could have mentioned more about who she is as a person but he elludes to the romance in her...holding hands while sleeping...the intimate things they do together.

He adores her and thinks the mother of his kids is hot as hell! I'd be delighted.

I wouldn't care.

Sounds like he loves her and is still attracted to her like he was at the beginning and still feels the spark!
We don't know the context of the thread, he could have posted other stuff about her or his deeper thoughts about what he loves about his wife and why probably weren't shared.

Far more odd for you to be making a big deal out of it than it is for him to write it!

It makes me think the guy is head over heels for that woman - the type you are in the first year of a relationship.
After 18 years, it makes me wonder why he hasn’t moved on from that (incl moving away from the physical stuff to who she is as a person).
But mainly it feels like this has been wrote because that’s how the author thinks we should feel 18 years on. You’ve accepted all your partners imperfections coming with aging/having dcs etc…. as if the person was still 20yo. Completely naive BUT very easy to be swept by that sort of stuff I think (because that’s what we’ve been told is important iyswim)

He does mention her as a woman

her boobs and ass are hot as fuck

@duvetdayforeveryone

A man did not write that. That is the writing from a female.

It seemed that way to me too.

Sounds like a really bad cheap fiction book.

It's very "me me me" isn't it, quite objectifying.

The shaving legs bit is v strange - wtf?

I'm a bit starved of those kinds of compliments, so I think it's nice. But I wouldn't want it posted on Facebook for all his friends to read!

Is shaving someone else's legs a thing?

Otherwise, I find the idea of an adult posting something like this online very cringey- why do people feel the need to share with a bunch of strangers?- but each to his own.

That bit about her holding his hand at 3.30am is random. I hope she washed her hands after going to the toilet.

@BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz

Did your husband write it or is it some anonymous random on a board you were reading?

Not mine. Found it on random board.

I just couldn’t believe the responses, so I asked here.

Here’s the thread.

www.reddit.com/r/Marriage/comments/so9cz7/my_wife_is_still_the_sexiest_woman_alive/

Yeah I think it reads like a woman writing 'as a man' - a man wouldn't overthink it

Some of the elements of it are sweet, but some of the elements are just weird, and together as a whole it seems, as previous posters have said, all about him and what a great guy he is.
Or alternatively that his wife is dead and he wheels out her mummified remains to comb her hair every day.

Big ick.

Sounds sweet - guy finds his wife’s body attractive - and that offends some people? Wow.

He’s no poet but then again he’s not trying to be. Also think your judging the entirety of how he feels about his wife by one post and calling him shallow is very unfair - he may well be able to say more he likes about her as a person or he may well feel more but be unable to express it - most people, both women and men aren’t that great at expressing the entirety of their feelings, especially in one short message.

Honestly only bitters would have a problem with this.

I mean, seems like his wife could just be replaced with a life-sized doll ...

I assume his wife has, you know, a personality, but he doesn't seem to have noticed it in the last 18 years

Yuck! He sounds like a pervert.

It's horrible. All about the physical and sexual. No mention of a connection mentally - humour, support etc.
He sees her as a just a physical being for sex. Degrading, humiliating and belittling.
Also, who wants their other half shaving their legs for them? I wouldn't find that sexy! Weird.

I'd comment with a crying laughing emoji, a vomit emoji and "Don't worry everyone, I've just texted him to let him know his FB account has been hacked"

Okay, I see this was on Reddit- the author is very likely an American. I love Americans, ive spent more than a decade of my living in America, I have lots of American friends, I've quite a few American family members, but fuck me they are not afraid of laying on the emotional over-slime to a startling degree. Lovely as they are.

*decade of my life

Just read his other posts, he doesn't seem like a bad guy at all.

I'm assuming the poster who just posted on there criticising him just saw this thread on MN!

Ewwwwww.

@CupOfNiceTea

Found this on marriage board, not MN. People in the comments were all loving this. I just couldn’t believe it. It’s so shallow, has nothing to do with who his wife is. Started thinking is this all there is to marriage. If after 18 years all he appreciates is looks and some hand holding I would be so dissapointed and sad personally.

I'd find it very beautiful. So often after many years of marriage things stagnate. Spouses don't find each other sexy anymore, they don't really feel in love and more.

I can only hope my wife and I feel this way about each other after 18 years of marriage.

Horrible. He sees her as an object not a person.