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I posted a picture of us and he deleted it

111 replies

Nickyicky · 05/02/2022 17:47

My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. There were some issues around exclusivity when we first got together as I caught him texting other girls. He argued we weren’t together properly then. Since then there’s always been an insecurity I suppose but we are in a committed relationship now.

Anyway we don’t post each other on our social media, in fact I don’t have him on it as he said it would cause arguments and he doesn’t need the headache. Today we were messing about and he had my phone and took a picture of me and posted it on my Instagram, it was ugly so we laughed and then I deleted it. I then had his phone and the last picture in his camera roll is of us, I posted it with a ❤️. Maybe it was my insecurities? I wanted to see what he did, if he did it on mine I wouldn’t really care. Anyway he got his phone back and deleted it immediately. I asked him why he said because he didn’t post it. I’m right in thinking something strange is going on here right, I want to ask him but at the same time I don’t want “to cause arguments”

He’s also been really snappy with me and everything I’m doing is wrong currently so it already feels a bit weird Confused

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Inspectorslack · 05/02/2022 17:48

I would say he’s attached. Sorry.

Planetzero · 05/02/2022 17:50

Yes very weird. He obviously wants to present himself as unattached.

SamphiretheStickerist · 05/02/2022 17:50

It doesn't really matter, does it?

He has problems and is making them yours. Unpleasant and dumpable.

HacerSonarSusPasos · 05/02/2022 17:51

Has he introduced you to his family and friends or is this a symptom of a larger issue with him keeping you stashed away?

Shoxfordian · 05/02/2022 17:51

He’s so shady
Don’t trust him

wavecatcher · 05/02/2022 17:51

He's clearly hiding you, sounds like he's chatting to other girls and wants to appear single.

dipdye · 05/02/2022 17:52

He's either single or wants to be perceived as so.

Get rid of him

vodkaredbullgirl · 05/02/2022 17:52

dump

RussianSpy101 · 05/02/2022 17:52

He is probably hiding something but I wouldn’t be too happy with someone going through my camera roll and posting photos to my social media.

Orgasmagorical · 05/02/2022 17:53

I’m right in thinking something strange is going on here right, I want to ask him but at the same time I don’t want “to cause arguments

He’s also been really snappy with me and everything I’m doing is wrong currently so it already feels a bit weird

You are changing your behaviour to try and keep him happy, even though you are not happy with his behaviour.

PasstheBucket89 · 05/02/2022 17:53

he either doesn't want to appear attached or is already.

CharlotteRose90 · 05/02/2022 17:54

Have you met any of his friends or family? I wouldn’t say he feels the same as you in a couple sense. He doesn’t look attached to you and is trying to maintain a single life especially on social media

Nickyicky · 05/02/2022 17:54

I’ve met his friends and family but we don’t live near them so I wouldn’t expect them to know we’re together still, unless he says

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Planetzero · 05/02/2022 17:55

What ‘arguments ‘ would it cause if you were on his social media and who with?

Nickyicky · 05/02/2022 17:56

I think he just meant me being insecure about who he follows etc? I never really asked him to do with it before so not sure why he said that but it was months ago and I left it

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SleepingStandingUp · 05/02/2022 17:57

Why would it cause arguments for you to be his friend on SM?

HacerSonarSusPasos · 05/02/2022 17:57

Seems a little shady, I'll admit.

You're not even connected on SM? Can you at least see what he posts? You've never tagged him in anything?

BunnyRuddington · 05/02/2022 17:57

He’s also been really snappy with me and everything I’m doing is wrong currently so it already feels a bit weird

If he's being horrible to you, do you want to stay with him? You know that you deserve people in your life who are nice to you don't you?

Onthedunes · 05/02/2022 17:58

That's hurtful for you.

You deserve better.

Ionlydomassiveones · 05/02/2022 17:59

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youvegottenminuteslynn · 05/02/2022 17:59

He’s also been really snappy with me and everything I’m doing is wrong currently so it already feels a bit weird

Why do you want to continue a relationship like this?

cuddlymunchkin · 05/02/2022 18:00

It’s pretty obvious isn’t it? He’s not proud to be with you and not really serious about you.

You can do better.

Mo1911 · 05/02/2022 18:01

I've been married for what seems like forever and I'd hit the roof of my husband posted a picture of us or anything about me on social media.
I don't follow him on Facebook or Instagram and have declined his friend requests not for any other reason other than I barely use it. That said he does find it quite amusing that I haven't added him, I think he's taking it as a challenge 😂

Before anyone says anything, I've nothing to hide, our marriage is very happy but I don't want pictures of me or us plastered all over social media thank you very much.

There doesn't have to be a suspicious reason for this.

Yuckypretty · 05/02/2022 18:02

Why are you wasting your time with this person. Raise your standards.

MoiraNotRuby · 05/02/2022 18:02

You are worth so much more than this!

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