I posted a picture of us and he deleted it

[Nickyicky]

My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. There were some issues around exclusivity when we first got together as I caught him texting other girls. He argued we weren’t together properly then. Since then there’s always been an insecurity I suppose but we are in a committed relationship now.

Anyway we don’t post each other on our social media, in fact I don’t have him on it as he said it would cause arguments and he doesn’t need the headache. Today we were messing about and he had my phone and took a picture of me and posted it on my Instagram, it was ugly so we laughed and then I deleted it. I then had his phone and the last picture in his camera roll is of us, I posted it with a ❤️. Maybe it was my insecurities? I wanted to see what he did, if he did it on mine I wouldn’t really care. Anyway he got his phone back and deleted it immediately. I asked him why he said because he didn’t post it. I’m right in thinking something strange is going on here right, I want to ask him but at the same time I don’t want “to cause arguments”

He’s also been really snappy with me and everything I’m doing is wrong currently so it already feels a bit weird

I would hate it if my husband posted any pictures of me on socmed and would certainly delete it if he did it without my consent.
If he is snappy, that is another issue. Deletion of the picture alone doesn't mean he is having an affair.

@Motherofgorgons

I would hate it if my husband posted any pictures of me on socmed and would certainly delete it if he did it without my consent. If he is snappy, that is another issue. Deletion of the picture alone doesn't mean he is having an affair.

I don’t get why people keep saying this, HE posted a picture of the op without her permission so he obviously can’t be that bothered about people posting pics, HE literally done it himself but doesn’t like it when op done it?

We’ve been together for a year but messing around for years, sorry I didn’t say that earlier. But yeah so I just think we’ve been involved for so many years, I feel like there will be a point we hit where it’s all good.

He's used you on and off since the beginning. Once they treat/see a woman that way, they don't often change.

My friend’s ex was like that and he had a double life, it turns out.

I would think after a year it is now ok to follow each other on social media. I understand that some people may post unflattering photos that personally I wouldn’t be pleased with! But as you have been together a while now it’s probably time to iron out these issues. I’m sure you aren’t ‘causing arguments’ it’s a difference of opinion. Remember he needs to respect yours as much as you do his. Tbh I understand following each other can cause issues my dh has posted jokey things unrelated to me that I think are a fine line. We have had conversations regarding if you wouldn’t tell someone to their face why post! 🙄

@Motherofgorgons

I would hate it if my husband posted any pictures of me on socmed and would certainly delete it if he did it without my consent. If he is snappy, that is another issue. Deletion of the picture alone doesn't mean he is having an affair.

That's a completely different situation though. You're married so people are going to know he has a partner. Presumably his friends and family even went to the wedding.

Either he is actively seeing other women and doesn't want you all finding out. Or he is keeping an eye out for someone new and not taking you seriously.

I think I would believe him when he says 'it'll complicate things' if you post a pic of you two. Because of course it would if he is seeing other women who are on his social media.

You have wasted years on this guy and will bitterly regret not dumping him.

It will not get better.
He is not into you and most likely is chatting to other women.

Stop wasting your time.

I think you’re focusing on the wrong thing here. You are worried he’s cheating or trying to appear single - yes it seems he might be - but more immediately he’s just not nice to you.

Posting an ugly picture of you to humiliate you. Deleting your couply photo. After a year?? Trying to make yo use one guess your status.

Refusing to sit and and eat with you the meal YOU cooked.

He’s playing hot and cold, trying to keep you hanging on. He’s mean. Please don’t have sex with him. Tell him it’s over. You are worth more than this. Relationships this early in should be full of fun and love.

I would of ended it soon as it began, if a guy still wants to carry on looking and messaging other women while dating you, then he doesn't value you.
If you didn't like the picture then why would he want you to post it for him but I don't think it's the real issue, he doesn't make you feel special enough.

If you have to avoid discussing things that bother you because it might "cause arguments" then you're in for a rough ride.

Leave him. And ps. I'm sorry but he is hiding you for a reason.