[quote gelatodipistacchio]@curmudgeonly007 my ex acted like he enjoyed sex and cuddling in the beginning, but very quickly made it clear that I WASN'T TO CUDDLE HIM IN BED when he may be asleep/falling asleep or he would be extremely cross and give me some sharp words.
After a time he also stopped wanting to have sex. He didn't like the way that I reacted to his (abusive) behaviour and he withheld affection as a result.
This absolutely killed me and my self esteem, in part because I assumed that all men want sex and affection as a basic need - made me feel so ugly and worthless.
I've since read about this and men withholding sex and affection happens more than one might expect. So unfortunately, it can't be assumed![/quote]
My ex sulked if I didn't want sex when he did (usually 3am when I had to get up for work at 5.30am, or waking me up at 7sm at the weekend when I was tired from long week days and wanted to lie in), then when I would suggest "an early night", he'd just ignore me, and not feel like sex when I did (though to be honest by then I never did but was trying to meet him halfway!)
I'm not really sure why some people think sulking makes you more likely to want to shag them. I had this conversation with him so many times.
Yes, also made me feel worthless.
He would still see himself as "someone who likes sex", but all on his terms. I prefer someone who likes women to enjoy sex. He didn't care how it was for me.