If you saw a preview of your relationship before your first date

[AlwaysFuckingTired94]

Would you go?

If so, or not, why?

God, absolutely. I feel so utterly blessed to have met my husband (via a random collection of coincidences) and sometimes it scares me to think how easily it might not have happened. I (and he) am very, very lucky indeed.

Nope. I married a happy go lucky guy who worked short hours. After a few years he suddenly changed careers and turned into a stressy workaholic who only talks about himself/money. Our children never see him, he’s always too tired for sex, can’t express affection etc etc.

People change 😔

I'd still go. We're not together now, but have stayed friends. He showed me that there are nice men out there. We split for a number of reasons, but I still think he's a lovely man, maybe not the right lovely man for me. We had lots of fun adventures together & I don't regret the times that we had.

100%! I'm very happily settled. There are parts that aren't perfect, but I'm totally ok with that.

Absolutely! It’s way way way way better than I’d have ever imagined.

I’m really conflicted. Loads has been good and we have four incredible children and I wouldn’t want to change that part. But I wish I’d married someone less complicated.

Oh god, definitely not.

Definitely, we had a bumpy start, but I'm very happy now.

Probably not, he's an introvert and we have no family friends and no hobbies to share etc. I'm happy but someone different would have been much better for me.

Not to mention the weight gain as. SNORING

Yes! I wasn't all that taken with him at first, but not quite 2 years on & I couldn't ask for a better partner.

Yes. 20 years together and still happy even though life has changed a lot. He’s a good egg and we have a lot of fun together. He can be stubborn, but I spotted that early.

We’ve been married 10 years, together much longer. I believe our marriage has grown in love and respect and really value that in a life partner. When I was younger I may have looked at said snap shot and thought ‘what about the passion, excitement etc’ but being who we are now this is much more valuable - I’ll caveat this with there is still passion and romance but not the ‘before kids, mortgage etc’ kind I thought I needed or wanted at that time. I guess it’s all subjective.

But to answer your question, absolutely yes and more so as we spend more time together.

Absolutely. But I’d be horrified at how little sex there is now 😬
No big “issue”, we could have more if we made ourselves but 20 year old me couldn’t imagine not wanting it all the time 😂

Absolutely.

Definitely not.

100%.

Well I've got my kids so would be hard to say no for that reason, and that reason only. But everything else... Run for the hills!!!!

@harriethoyle

God, absolutely. I feel so utterly blessed to have met my husband (via a random collection of coincidences) and sometimes it scares me to think how easily it might not have happened. I (and he) am very, very lucky indeed.

This.

I adore my life with my husband. 18 years together, 8 married.

Good god no! I'd have put on my trainers and run very fast..!

I want to say 100%. He is the nicest man, the best father, a wonderful husband and cracking in bed. He has also supported me unquestioningly through a traumatic event.

However, a serious health event has left him a changed man. He has never recovered emotionally & this can mean he is controlling and unable to make decisions which has put a massive strain on our relationship &, frankly, my life.

I think yes, I’d go.

Other than my kids absolutely not. I look at pictures of my self just beforehand and I just want to shake myself.

Yes. I couldn't ask for more.

Absolutely yes.

Nothing is perfect, but I would choose my husband again and again.

If I saw it in its entirety then yes. However, we did have a bit of a bumpy start and moving in together at the start of lockdown (when we believed it was only going to be for 3 weeks) and DP not being allowed to work during that time and me working from home meant that there were definitely at least a few months which I really wouldn’t want to relive.

We’re now much more understanding of each other and have learnt to communicate much more effectively and I’m incredibly happy.

Yes I would go. First date was full-on and intense, as was the rest of the relationship. Despite some shitty behaviour and it ending suddenly before Xmas, we had so many happy times too, and I wouldn’t want to have missed them even if it meant missing the crap bits too.