If you saw a preview of your relationship before your first date

[AlwaysFuckingTired94]

Would you go?

If so, or not, why?

soulstirring I really like your answer

No, I'd tell me to run for the hills and never look back.

@Babdoc I'm so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you have some wonderful memories of your husband.

I'd definitely go. My fiancé is the best person I've ever met. If someone could have given me a heads up about the IVF though I would have appreciated a warning!

Yes definitely, we've had many fantastic moments over the years, have two beautiful children and are very happy together, he's respectful, caring, honest, supportive, loving, funny, kind and a great father, I couldn't ask for a better partner

Absolutely! We met at uni as part of the same group of friends. I was a bit of a mess and was sleeping about to boost my self esteem. We've now been together 24 years and married for 18 this year. We may not be genetically compatible as we have two neurodiverse DCs and they also have other health issues which have been a strain. He's seen me through breast cancer and my sister's suicide and really is my rock. He has increasing anxiety and overthinks everything, but I can deal with that!

No way. Third husband. Very caring etc when we met, accepted my 4 living children, proposed within less than a year, I was in the process of a very messy divorce,
But. As soon as we married and had own baby he turned into some bipolar psycho tyrant. I do not regret my 6th baby (and 4th son) but wish I had him with my ex husband as it would have been much easier.

Yes,not for him as he cheated on me,& left for OW,but without him I wouldn't have my 2 boys,yes it's not what I imagined but I can't imagine a life without my son's

110%! I wouldn't have my DC or DDogs without him. They're the absolute best things in my life. There's alot about my life I'd change, but my babies (fluffy and not) are worth everything to me!

Absolutely I would, we are lucky to have found each other & I would choose him every time. The idea of life without him terrifies me, not that I couldn't cope (I would have to for my gorgeous DD) but life would lose its colour I think.

Yes. I would. I was young, 18, and now nearly 36.

He's a fantastic husband and father and we've had a fabulous 18 years and made a wonderful life together. He was nothing but supportive when DS was born and I had PND, as well as a lot of worry about DS development.

He works hard in a high pressure job, he's generous, understanding and I'm very lucky.

Not a chance, he was wonderful when we met, so caring, we had so much in common, i thought he was 'the one' .. slowly the abuse crept in, now looking back our first couple of years were just mirroring, to hook me in, it wasnt who he was at all!
I came out the other side eventually, wiser and stronger, but wasted 12 years of my life.

Definitely. I was 14 when we met. I fancied him so much and he seemed so grown up (he was 16!)

It's 12 years later and we're married, have three beautiful little children and have own our lovely home. We've had so much fun. He's my best friend in the world and I couldn't imagine a better father to our girls. Still fancy him like crazy too.

Almost two decades in now.

I wouldn't have believed that it could be possible to be so happy and in love, with such an amazing person.

My parents were totally miserable and wrong for each other. I had no idea that people could sincerely love each other or be happy in a marriage.

So I'd have probably thought the preview was fixed somehow and been very suspicious

I'm glad I found out along the way instead.

I'd keep the kids...

Absolutely but I would've made sure we packed in all the things we wanted to do by now. If I knew then what I know now we'd have done things so very differently.

No, I wouldn't. I have a wonderful DD who is the absolute centre of my world, but my ex is a Grade A bastard whose untreated depression has wrought havoc on most of my adult life.

NO.
I'll forever be grateful for my lovely DS and the comfortable lifestyle we enjoy, but it has come at an extremely high emotional price for me.

Yes, I'd probably be more inclined to. We met aged 17. He wasnt my type and there were complications with friends/exes. It's actually been easier than I ever thought imaginable

Yes! He’s glorious! I’m very pleased with my life!

Well I've got my kids so would be hard to say no for that reason, and that reason only.

This.

Absolutely not. I really wish this had been an option. What he's put me through has absolutely destroyed me.

Yes - almost 30 years now. we've had our ups and downs like anyone but we love each other very much and we are kind to each other. plus we share a sense of humour and complement each other with the children. After my first date my best friend said to me "just marry him. You'll thank me when you' re 40". I did :)

Absolutely. 100%. And I'd have been ecstatic to see how happy he has made me over the last 20 years and what an incredible support he has been through some tough times.

Yes yes and yes again.

He is the best person I've ever met, kind beyond my wildest dreams, so very smart, the best sex I ever had and is lovely to look at too.

I'm an odd person and cannot believe I have a best friend like this. I found him at age 45 so was not expecting this.

Feel loved by him every single day and he feels the same way too

I wouldn't want to miss my gogeous daughter. But if I could still have my dd and how I'm changed then no.