If you saw a preview of your relationship before your first date

[AlwaysFuckingTired94]

Would you go?

If so, or not, why?

Yes would run a mile ,

No.

Wish I'd never gone to that fucking party.

Nice question.

I'd go. DH showed how kind and supportive he can be on our first date. He hasn't changed. -Fortunately he is still as horny too-

We’d didn’t have a first date but if we’d not got together where would I be without our two wonderful children together.

It’s not been easy and neither will the future but as long as the preview showed some of the happy times as well as the bad then yes I’d still do it.

100%. DP is wonderful and I am so lucky.

Yes

Probably not, but that's more because I've changed, not because he has. I was willing to put up with a lot when I was younger. Now I can't actually believe the shit I've put up with over the years. If it wasn't for the kids we had together I would have ended it a long time ago.

Conflicted— would like to have kept the first 8 years - and my son— after that I’m not so sure .

I would run for the hills!

@Burnmac

I would run for the hills!

Couldn't have put it better myself

I'd still go but I would lay down some laws early on.

Yes, definitely.

I would want to say all the things right from the start that I gradually realised I needed to say as time went on.

He's a kind, thoughtful, reflective man and damn good in bed now he's suitably trained up. But he was totally crap, in those early years, at seeing a woman's view of good sex rather than what he thought likely to appeal. Wish we'd got to this point earlier before middle aged exhaustion set in!

I wouldn't.

Yes I would.

We have had our hard times but I think we are a good team.

Yep, 100%

Yes. He’s a wonderful husband and father, couldn’t ask for more.

No. She stood me up.

@DerAlteMann

No. She stood me up.

So we arranged a second one. Yes, I'd still have gone to that one.

Definitely not....save 4 years of life and some cash

No. I wouldn’t. I’d have run a mile.

If I could have the exact same children I have, but with a different man, then absolutely not! But if the only way to get my dc is to spend 3 years with that twat then yes I'd go, but reluctantly.

Yes I'd go but I wouldn't choose the place I chose, as the whole date was an omen that it wouldn't last. A different date location would have possibly saved our fledgling relationship

Or maybe I’d have looked at it and decided he’d make a fun boyfriend and to keep it casual and superficial. Nothing more.

I’m glad I didn’t know in advance that DH would die young, when our DC were both still babies, and that I would spend the next 30 years as a grieving single parent.
But I would still have married him. He was my soulmate and I loved the 16 years I had with him. We met when I was just 19, and moved in together 3 days later. He was the most loving, caring, husband and father imaginable.