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Why do guys send dick pics?!

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emilyintheSE · 12/01/2022 22:00

On OLD... Just why?! I'm so not interested in seeing a photo of your penis!!

I'm not a prude, and I'm early 30s, so very much of the "dating app generation".

Surely men know this by now? It's been going on for years and I don't know any of my girl friends who have said "you know what, I love receiving a dick pic"

Or are me and my friends in the minority?

OP posts:

DoItAfraid · 12/01/2022 23:48

@ABCeasyasdohrayme

I used to get them all the time, I started sending them back "do you want to see mine?" and then sent them the previous unsolicited dick pic I got.

I was blocked so many times 😂😂

Excellence!

Ieatmarmite · 13/01/2022 00:50

"They are basically sex offenders in training. Sending a woman a picture of your cock is akin to flashing her. Men really don't like it when you point out that they are sex offenders" This.

fallfallfall · 13/01/2022 01:11

i should ask my son, yes my son age 35 or so at the time....he accidently sent me one meant for his girlfriend.
during christmas dinner...i recognized a large birthmark on his tummy right away...
so awkward i'm NOT allowed to mention it but equally funny and i did pass it about to all at the table (dh, dd and her partner).

StellaDarkley · 13/01/2022 01:26

I work with men - over a hundred if them. They seem to think a women putting herself on dating sites is either

desperate
Good for a free shag
Maybe good for some meals and sex at her place

4 A single mother looking for someone to pay the bills.

I am not of the OLD generation, but having seen what I have seen it's the last place I would look for a decent man. As for the dick picks, it's the pornification of society. It's ruining men.

Rubyyyy · 13/01/2022 01:27

@spotcheck

I think men do it because they are hoping women will say ' oh my god, that's the most magnificent thing I've ever seen, I must service it now!!' And then tell their friends about the average sized wonky, sweaty looking cock they've been sent. Basically they are looking to achieve fame through the medium of the dick pic

This 100percent. A lot of men are obsessed with size and expect you to massage their ego by saying it’s the most amazing dick you have ever seen when in reality it looks like a undercooked sausage.

JambalayaOrGumbo · 13/01/2022 01:30

Send them back a pic of a different dick that was previously sent to you - see how they like receiving an unsolicited dick pic.

LunaAndHerMoonDragons · 13/01/2022 01:30

@ABCeasyasdohrayme

I used to get them all the time, I started sending them back "do you want to see mine?" and then sent them the previous unsolicited dick pic I got.

I was blocked so many times 😂😂

🤣🤣 love it

CheeseMmmm · 13/01/2022 01:48

@StellaDarkley

I work with men - over a hundred if them. They seem to think a women putting herself on dating sites is either

desperate
Good for a free shag
Maybe good for some meals and sex at her place

4 A single mother looking for someone to pay the bills.

I am not of the OLD generation, but having seen what I have seen it's the last place I would look for a decent man. As for the dick picks, it's the pornification of society. It's ruining men.

But why would they think sending a photo of their penis (unless she's asked him to!) is not going to do anything the vast majority of time apart from immediately think the obvious-

Why the fuck did you send that?
You're just vv weird, dodgy and have zero understanding of normal social interactions.
Or may well be ignoring them, because you enjoy exposing your penis to women who aren't expecting it and don't want to see it.
We get enough dodgy shit from men irl FFS just you all need to STOP this dick obsession and urge to randomly show it to women.

Surely no men think oh yes she'll love this pic! I really like her she's worth being treated to a pic of my INCREDIBLE WILLY.

NoShitHemlock · 13/01/2022 01:53

I have only had 2 dick pics sent to me OLD and my reaction to both was the same "Oh it's not very big is it? How disappointing". Both times resulted in them blocking me, so I view this as a win

CheeseMmmm · 13/01/2022 01:54

It's the same as flashing irl. The motivation. Not the same fear of immediate physical threat obv. That doesn't make it ok.

And they don't do it genuinely thinking it'll mean she'll send pic of genitals back, make her keen to shag him, or even not be fussed.

It's about enjoying the idea of violating women's sexual boundaries and probably causing a reaction - dismay, surprise, shock etc.

Flashing irl happens all the time.

Flashing on internet means essentially no risk of doing it.

So... Loads do.

NoShitHemlock · 13/01/2022 01:55

Should have added that this was done entirely to make them feel inadequate, not because I desperately wanted to view their penises penii dicks

CheeseMmmm · 13/01/2022 02:01

@ABCeasyasdohrayme

I used to get them all the time, I started sending them back "do you want to see mine?" and then sent them the previous unsolicited dick pic I got.

I was blocked so many times 😂😂

Anyone who likes that idea.

What would really impact would be finding a pic aimed at gay men. Two or more men, in leather, harnesses etc etc.
And make sure one/ some are posed and snapped in the way women pretty much always are.
Looking up at viewer or other chaps not down. Body not strong bloke standard but more... Submissive. Not in s&m type way but. You know like how in fashion ads the woman often presented as v vulnerable to strong man...

MaybeHeIsMyCat · 13/01/2022 02:05

I mean its not as though they even look nice is it? I would rather be sent a pic of boobs thanks 😂 at least they're nice to look at
Like what am I supposed to say in reply? "Smaller than any others I've seen but good effort"

CthulhuInDisguise · 13/01/2022 02:08

I haven't had this but I was fully expecting it. However I matched with the first person whose profile made me smile, and we chatted non stop, the only photos he sent me were his dogs and kids. I feel lucky to be honest. He saves the rudeness for when we are together

There is nothing more off putting than a dick pic though. My ex sent me a few of his, some erect, some not, trying to get me to sext him whilst I was married. Yuk.

RobertSmithsLipstick · 13/01/2022 02:15

Perhaps they're hoping to receive a fanjo pic by return text?

Rainbows89 · 13/01/2022 02:30

I have never received one. Are they always erect? For some reason I imagined them to be flaccid but jt makes more sense if they were erect I guess.

immersivereader · 13/01/2022 02:37

Are they actually impressive ones at all? Or just weeners?

I don't understand men at all

MadMadMadamMim · 13/01/2022 02:44

It's such a bizarre thing to send, isn't it? It is the most ridiculous looking part of their body and I've never seen an enticing photo of one. They are not generally aesthetically pleasing.

Why would you pick the ugliest part of you, photo it in a presumably unflattering pose and send it to people, unasked?

I do find a lot of men's lack of intelligence puts me off, personally.

merrymelodies · 13/01/2022 02:47

I've never had one but if I did, I'd take infinite pleasure in making some kind of withering comment. Pun intended.

CheeseMmmm · 13/01/2022 03:07

Just realised something really interesting.

I googled just for a bit to find pic men that would give straight man similar sort of surprise shock etc.

Plenty there but I thought-

I can't actually put as example MN too explicit
In reality I can't imagine actually sending that to someone. Bit much.

BUT-
None more explicit than pic op got.

That's some fucked up thinking. On his part obv. Sending unsolicited image with erection in. I mean I just would feel really extreme thing to do. But loads of men do it like just nothing. To women they barely know and are committing with through dating site.

Really brought home to me just how sending like op got, a really extreme thing to do.

And confirmed to me that no. None do it cos think will be welcome, make her more interested.
None think she'll go on cool it's going really well with this bloke, go and photo her genitals and send it to him!

I mean sure some women are ok with it/ think oooh brilliant. And join in.

But really that can't be what fishing for because would have to try it with huge numbers women before got that back!

CheeseMmmm · 13/01/2022 03:23

'It's such a bizarre thing to send, isn't it? It is the most ridiculous looking part of their body and I've never seen an enticing photo of one. They are not generally aesthetically pleasing.'

Because they're obsessed with their dicks.

Draw them over everything and have done essentially through history.
See them esp own obv as impressive, powerful, fascinating and just... Worship is warranted.
Going bit far above? Mainstream het porn internet and for at least decades. Standard to have whole thing showing variations of women worshipping cock. And I mean the 'money shot' is there because made for men. The grande finale. Man orgasm look at all that semen!

And just remembered. Freud decided women have penis envy! Fuckwit. Put it away Freud before you make a mess on your notes.

Monty27 · 13/01/2022 03:52

Just because they can and get off on it.
Low intellect and zero respect

SkiingIsHeaven · 13/01/2022 04:16

Maybe they are proud of their little sausages.

CheeseMmmm · 13/01/2022 04:23

Plenty of sex offenders are not stupid though.

Flashing is a v common crime and one that often escalates.

Will some online flashers progress to real life? Certainly very possibly realistically.

I wonder if any studies I'll look.

If that happens then it's a disaster for women girls.

I don't think zero respect is strong enough either. They know what they're doing. Thats what they enjoy. They do it because it makes them feel dominant, the pleasure is in violating women's sexual boundaries. And getting sexual enjoyment from that is really worrying.

isthismylifenow · 13/01/2022 05:19

Because in their small minds a woman being on a dating app means she is desperate for a shag. And receiving a picture of a dick is going to make her instantly horny. And then he can go ahead with the sexting. Of course he will want photos in return for his great deed, so he can use that as wank material.

I was on old until recently. I would say from the outset that if you send me a dick pic you're getting blocked. When I was new to old and didn't say this, I had no end of random pics. And at such random times, during the day, phone bleeps, there is a pic, no conversation. Urgh it pissed me off so badly.

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