Were you in a relationship when you met your current partner?

[smerfin]

I’m hoping my partner is ‘the one’ but who knows!

I met him when I was still with my ex partner. Things were on the rocks but meeting my now dp was not the reason things ended.

I was at a work function, and just saw this beautiful and tall man walk in and thought wow He was clearly trying to get my eye, but I ignored him.

Fast forward a year later, I had been single for 10 months, and up pops the same man on hinge.
We go for a drink and the rest is history.

Was anyone else in a previous relationship when they met their partner?

Even though nothing at all happened, I still feel a bit guilty for some reason

I had just come out of a long term relationship about 9 months beforehand.

I allowed myself to grieve the relationship for about 5 months then got together with a guy I was in a relationship with from 19-21, he was divorced. The magic wasn't there for me but it was nice to be in touch and dating when I was set up on a blind date with my now partner.

I've been with my partner since that blind date and had to break it gently to the old flame

I agree @Hoppinggreen it's just a bit odd to see so many people openly admitting to participate in cheating when this forum is normally so angry about it.

@KylieKoKo

I agree *@Hoppinggreen* it's just a bit odd to see so many people openly admitting to participate in cheating when this forum is normally so angry about it.

Most people didn't seem to cheat? More that meeting someone with potential was the kick up the bum to finish a dead relationship.

I've actually done this a few times, I hate breaking up with people and need a big push/pull to leave a ok but not great relationship (now I recognise this I'm not like it now!)

I guess it depends if you subscribe to the idea of emotional cheating or not.

I think life isn't as linear as be ideal for our moral codes. I made my comments above and as far as I'm concerned I helped my now DH recover from his previous relationship to the detriment of my own wellbeing for a time.
I'd also point out that mant of the new relationships have passed the test of time.
We all meet people all the time, there has to be a whole set of circumstances which lead to one relationship ending and another beginning.

I was single. DH was in yet another car crash relationship with a rather odd woman. We've been best friends for decades so I know all his exes 😂.

He was deploying, we talked by phone and text as usual but something had apparently changed and he finally broke up with her just before he left. Our conversations changed into romantic types only after that.

He didn't know if, on coming home after 9mths whether I'd be here or bottle it. I was here, now we're married.

I think life isn't as linear as be ideal for our moral codes

I totally agree with this

I knew DH when I was with my ex, but he was just a work colleague. I had a few months single after leaving ex, dated someone else for a couple of months, had a few flings, then got together with DH eventually about a year after I'd left ex. No overlap whatsoever, lucky really, as I wasn't in a good headspace after leaving ex and needed to get my shit together. I don't think we'd have lasted if I'd got with him any sooner.

I was in a not serious one and he irritated the life out of me. He has been travelling around and was a holiday romance. He turned up on my doorstep. My friend gave him my address just before we left our holiday and I never expected to see him again.
Anyway i thought I'd give it ago i met my now Dh. He wasnt interested in me as he had just been dumped. He was part of a group of friends although I didnt know him well.He told me never to settle for anything you are not happy with in a relationship. I went home and kicked the cocklodger out. I got together with Dh, although he didnt become that until 6 years later. We e been together 32 years now.

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