Would you stay with your partner if they decided to transition?

[RedRobyn2021]

I'm watching an episode of Queer Eye where this transwoman's partner said they stayed with them after they decided they wanted to transition and it got me thinking

If your partner decided they wanted to transition would you stay with them?

Yes probably, but it would likely depend on at what point my partner shared with me that they were questioning their identity or considering themselves as trans. I'd be devistated.to think that they hadn't shared that with me or felt they couldn't share that with me, and it would make me question how much they trust me. Transition itself wouldn't be a deal-breaker for me.

Not a chance

Absolutely not

No.

Fuck no.

No

No. Of course not.

No

Of course I’d stay with him, I love him dearly. Does that mean I would stay with him no matter what? No…if he was revealed to be a paedophile or a serial killer then those things would be beyond the pale. But transitioning? I would struggle to redefine our relationship but would still want to be with him

@Woodlandwater

No, I would be too annoyed that he'd had time to sit pondering identity when the mental load gives me no space for similar indulgence.

This

The same episode made us talk about what we'd both do

I adore my husband, he is the best person I know. But I fell in love with him because he's a man. I don't find women sexually attractive. I wouldn't be able to stay with him if he transitioned in a relationship but I'd hope we never lose our friendship. He feels the same way.

Yes. My husband is my best friend and no matter what I would never want to be without him. I would find a way for us to get through it and stay together

I might do. It's hard to say unless you're actually in that situation. But I'm attracted to women...although imo those who transition later in life rarely look convincingly like women.

Absolutely.

No. That's not who I love, and the person I love had been a 'lie'

No.

Only as a friend. I would also question our entire history together

Asking this question on mumsnet is a bit like asking a full church in the deepest of deep south US if they would be okay if their son ended up homosexual, OP.

No chance.

No way but all my relationships are rooted in reality so it wouldn't happen
I don't mind men wearing makeup or typically female clothes but I'm not going to indulge anyone believing they are the opposite sex

Absolutely not.

I'd be very surprised if my husband decided to transition but if he did, no, I couldn't get over it. I'd rather start a new relationship with a biological woman than have to recentre everything I know about him as a man.

Well apart from the fact I don’t agree that anyone can or does ‘transition’, I highly doubt I would find myself in a relationship with someone who believed in stereotype based gender identities.

@Flappyface

Asking this question on mumsnet is a bit like asking a full church in the deepest of deep south US if they would be okay if their son ended up homosexual, OP.

So what's your answer to the question?

I just checked DH wouldn't stay with me if I transitioned either.