Would you stay with your partner if they decided to transition?

[RedRobyn2021]

I'm watching an episode of Queer Eye where this transwoman's partner said they stayed with them after they decided they wanted to transition and it got me thinking

If your partner decided they wanted to transition would you stay with them?

I have only ever had relationships with men, but I actually think that even though I'm heterosexual I'd find the idea of a relationship with an actual bona fide woman more appealing than a relationship with a man who actually believed they could become a woman. Men can't be women and do not come across as women, regardless of what they do or don't have done to their bodies.

Exactly

@MrsFionaCharming

I’m bisexual so if DH got cursed by a witch and turned into a woman, great, no worries.

If he woke up and decided he thought being a woman was about lipstick and girly feels, he can gtfo.

Hah! Same. Men can't become women so it's a no from me!

No way.
What @PurplePikachu said

@wildseas

Yes.

I'd deduct 20% of their wage, stop 75% of the housework, leave them to do pickups and dropoffs, leave all of the mental load to them, make them in charge of shoe shopping and random dress up days, expect them to find all my random lost things, change all school communication to their contact details, patronizingly explain things to them which they know more about than me. . . .oh and expect them to put my wants above their needs

#livinglikeawoman

Does that mean all you'd have to do is put the bins out and spend 45 mins in the loo when your having a shit? 😂

** Most definitely not.

They wouldn’t be the person I thought they had been for 31 years. Our whole marriage would feel like a lie and I’d never forgive them for that.**

^This

Nope.

Yes.

I don't love him because he's a man, or because of his genitals. I love his mind, his humour, how he treats me. Assuming that didn't change, then yes. And if that did change, it'd be that that was the problem, not his being trans.

I am bi, so not issue of suddenly not being in a relationship with someone of my preferred gender, as I don't have one.

No, I couldn’t.

I couldn’t say for certain that it would work, but I’d definitely give it a go. My partner (male) is the best person I’ve ever met, and I truly love him. I don’t love him because he’s a man, I love him because he’s truly kind, intelligent and every decision he makes is the result of thoughtfulness and rationality. It is one of the traits I really respect and love about him. If those characteristics were still in place while making this decision, I would have no choice to accept it. I can’t say it wouldn’t change our relationship, but I would (as long as he was still the person (not gender or sex I fell in love with) give it a bloody good go.

No.

@Woodlandwater

No, I would be too annoyed that he'd had time to sit pondering identity when the mental load gives me no space for similar indulgence.

I think your problem here is marrying someone who requiresd you to take the mental load! Tell him to shape up or fuck off.

Absolutely not..... I would be concerned about why I hadn't noticed this and why I had been living a lie for so long.

Same as @housemaus for me. I don't really have sex or gender preferences so that wouldn't be an issue. It would be a big change, and would probably throw up all sorts of baggage and things we would need to sort out, but we've managed to accommodate other big changes before now, so I don't see why the problems caused by this one would be insurmountable when others weren't.

Well no because I like men

No, I did that app where you can see what you look like as the opposite sex and frankly dp was one ugly woman.

In answer to the OP: no chance whatsoever.

That is an interesting question. I'm bisexual. There are common elements that are attractive in both sexes e.g. kindness, but for me, I like gentle 'non-alpha' men but quite assertive strong feminine looking women (think Jillian Michaels). That's overly simplified and I can't explain why I like what I like, but there we have it - different things in different sexes (hence I don't identify as pansexual). A partner transitioning wouldn't work for me.

@KohlaParasaurus

No, I'd be like, "Who are you and what have you done with my husband?" I think I'd be repulsed in a way I wouldn't be if a random male friend decided to transition.

Yes I agree the idea is repulsive to me but I think that is because we are so intimate with our partners and obviously not with our friends.

I had a trans friend and it didn't phase me but my husband is my husband. Even if he didn't want to fully transition I think it'd be enough to leave.
I wouldn't leave though because I'm financially dependent on him because i'm a woman and he's a man so it'd probably be a case of me resenting him for a few years and then him finally leaving me and the kids to be his real self and that'd be great for him but I'd still have the kids, the lower income, the measly child maintainable and hed get the freedom the money and the praise. yay.

Absolutely not!! I'm straight.

Definitely not.

No. The person I'd fallen in love with would be gone.

No. If I wanted a woman, I would be lesbian.

No

Absolutely......

NOT.

No! Jaysus! Etc

I hope eventually we’d be friends.