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Morning texts when you're dating someone..

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Sharpie0870 · 02/01/2022 23:11

I've NC for this.
After being single for 2 years, I took the plunge and made a profile on a dating app. Only one person really engaged me in conversation and we swapped numbers. So far, every morning for the past couple of weeks he's messaged me first thing to say "Hi Gorgeous" literally just that. Nothing else.
Why does this annoy me?
I can't explain why, but it really bothers me.
Just wondering what others views are on Hi Gorgeous texts?

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bongobingo43 · 02/01/2022 23:12

Because it's over familiar - gives me the ick

cushioncovers · 02/01/2022 23:13

🤮

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Sharpie0870 · 02/01/2022 23:14

If gives me the rage. It really does. I don't take it as complimentary. I just find it irritating. I don't know how to ask him to stop as he seems really nice and genuine.

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LilacNight · 02/01/2022 23:14

It’s overfamiliar and presumptuous and implies you are having a romance - have you actually met? Also it would annoy me receiving the exact same message each morning too and it would also annoy me when a man wants to be constant contact by text. Sorry, think I may just be in a bad/anti man mood atm…

ImFree2doasiwant · 02/01/2022 23:14

God no. It would put me off. Lazy.

ImFree2doasiwant · 02/01/2022 23:15

How are you supposed to respond?.

Fireflygal · 02/01/2022 23:15

Because its not specific too generic.
Do you plan to meet or have a video date?

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Sharpie0870 · 02/01/2022 23:15

We're due to meet next Sunday.. But these hi gorgeous texts are infuriating me.

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ProudThrilledHappy · 02/01/2022 23:16

Do you reply? Is he trying to initiate conversation or just sending the message?

I would wonder if the gorgeous part was because he was texting multiple women and trying not to mix names up, but that’s because I’m cynical

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Sharpie0870 · 02/01/2022 23:17

We've video called a few times. He's lovely in other respects and good looking, but I utterly hate these texts. I wouldn't even want hi gorgeous texts first thing in the morning by anyone I was in a relationship with.

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ProudThrilledHappy · 02/01/2022 23:20

To be fair to him at least he is making an effort to stay in touch. It’s said over and over here that if a man likes you he makes sure you know it, so maybe that is what he is trying to do?

The gorgeous part is a bit cringe though

SportsMother · 02/01/2022 23:20

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TerraNovaTwo · 02/01/2022 23:21

He's given you the ick, there's no going back. Every day would gross me out a bit, especially as there's no 'how are you' or 'have a nice day',etc attached to that. If it feels forced/fake/uncomfortable, I'd call it quits.

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Sharpie0870 · 02/01/2022 23:22

It is hard because I feel like i have to engage in conversation after that hi gorgeous text. It's been a long time since I dated so not sure what an acceptable level of texting is lol.

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Sharpie0870 · 02/01/2022 23:23

Even, "Good morning, how are you?"would be less infuriating.

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B1rdflyinghigh · 02/01/2022 23:26

I dislike them too. To the point that I read and ignore the message. If they're interested they come back with another message.

Lilyargin · 02/01/2022 23:26

Oh gig, no!
It's just so...empty/lazy/unimaginative/predictable/boring/cringey.
It would strike me that he's not very intelligent if I kept getting that. Hasn't he got anything to say?

Lilyargin · 02/01/2022 23:27

God, not gig.

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Sharpie0870 · 02/01/2022 23:27

@B1rdflyinghigh

I dislike them too. To the point that I read and ignore the message. If they're interested they come back with another message.
That's what i feel like doing, but I didn't want to come across as rude or stuck up. I just don't know how to raise it with him that he doesn't need to say hi gorgeous every morning...
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PermanentTemporary · 02/01/2022 23:30

I've been trying to sketch out an answer and... it's difficult isn't it?

Hard not to sound like you're telling him to fuck off completely if you ask him to stop, and yet I can completely see why this is bugging you so much. Both too much and not enough - impersonal and invasive which is quite a trick with a simple daily text.

Do you really still want to meet him? I can't really think of a way of tackling this other than face to face or block and delete. What a crazy situation!

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Sharpie0870 · 02/01/2022 23:32

@PermanentTemporary

I've been trying to sketch out an answer and... it's difficult isn't it?

Hard not to sound like you're telling him to fuck off completely if you ask him to stop, and yet I can completely see why this is bugging you so much. Both too much and not enough - impersonal and invasive which is quite a trick with a simple daily text.

Do you really still want to meet him? I can't really think of a way of tackling this other than face to face or block and delete. What a crazy situation!

Ha you've pulled the words out of my mind, literally. He's really nice other than this one thing.. We get on and it's good chat, he's always very complimentary and is the type I would generally go for.. But these texts infuriate me lol.
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7eleven · 02/01/2022 23:33

My first thought is that he’s texting several women the same message every morning. So generic.

PermanentTemporary · 02/01/2022 23:36

My bf messages me every morning but we got to that over time and it's always personal. Different.

WanderingLost167 · 02/01/2022 23:39

But. A lot of women do like them, because they feel that the guy is thinking about them...

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Sharpie0870 · 02/01/2022 23:41

Yes, it's a hard one as I don't want to be a bitch about it.

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