Morning texts when you're dating someone..

[Sharpie0870]

I've NC for this.
After being single for 2 years, I took the plunge and made a profile on a dating app. Only one person really engaged me in conversation and we swapped numbers. So far, every morning for the past couple of weeks he's messaged me first thing to say "Hi Gorgeous" literally just that. Nothing else.
Why does this annoy me?
I can't explain why, but it really bothers me.
Just wondering what others views are on Hi Gorgeous texts?

If you don’t like it just tell him in as nice a way as possible.
If he goes off you because of that then it’s a lucky escape.
Too early in the relationship to be putting up with hard work.

OK something else I've noticed is when responding to my message etc he'll put "all ok gorgeous" or "just about to go out gorgeous" is it just a really mindless thing to say?

Are you certain he knows your name? Has he used it before?

Yes, he has used my name before. He's out today and insists he wants to keep in touch but I keep getting one word answers, I'm in no mood to be the one to make all the conversation. Lol, dating is so infuriating.

Gorgeous is such an empty compliment to deliver on the regular.

I think you are being a bit harsh I'd just text back 'morning'

It's just a nice, inoffensive (to me) way of saying good morning!!

I love my morning texts. 2 years in and we do it every day without fail

OP until you’ve met him it’s not dating or a relationship etc so I think it’s really OK to just not respond each time.

@Moff2k

I love my morning texts. 2 years in and we do it every day without fail

But it's a very individual thing isn't it. I am garnering the views of others and the general consensus is that its Cringe and ick!

This is where I'm struggling as I've not dated for around 7 years, my last date was with my ex. I've been single for 2 years and I'm adjusting to meeting a new man. I know I'm not obliged to respond to a text every morning, just didn't want to be harsh or mean and ignore him as everything else is really nice about him.

So far anyway.. I'll reserve judgement till when I meet him.

@Sharpie0870

OK something else I've noticed is when responding to my message etc he'll put "all ok gorgeous" or "just about to go out gorgeous" is it just a really mindless thing to say?

I'd be tempted to reply "Sharpie"

When he says what??

Say "you use gorgeous instead of my name so much it thought maybe you'd forgotten it. I really don't like gorgeous becoming my default name. Sharpie or Sharp or Pie is fine"

What I'd give to have someone think of me every morning to send a text!

After the awful emotionally abusive relationship I've left, I'd be grateful to feel wanted tbh

But he's boring AF if he only sends the same thing over and over, who does that?

I'd prob say something now and knock it on the head tbh

@Shunter350

I’m a guy who is seeing someone through OLD and have also conversed with ladies through WhatsApp etc. To call someone who one barely knows “gorgeous” or similar is patronising and misogynistic.

I agree with this. It feels disingenuous, and I think this is what narks me about it. He's not met you irl so how does he know? It feels fake, which isn't a great start. My ex used to leave me notes saying "nice hair cut!" When I got home from the hair dresser if he was out - though it was a joke! But it's along the same lines.

I don't think you need to be grateful for the crumbs of having a regular morning text. We all have our own contexts though, I know.

And yes, it's not crime of the century. But it's fine to find it irritating too! I would. Like others have said, see how you get on when you meet up.