Dating thread 222: into 2022 and beyond

[BelladiMamma]

The rules as a screenshot (feel free to copy and paste them in).

@Shayelle2009

Bird in a bird in a bird?? 🤣🤣 isn’t that some sort of meal?!? 🤔😬

Was the guy in the bird hut looking for a pair of great tits 🤷🏼‍♂️

The great tit confusion

www.rspb.org.uk/birds-and-wildlife/wildlife-guides/birdwatching/how-to-identify-birds/the-great-tit-confusion/

🎶🎶 budum tish 🎶🎶

I’ll get my coat…

@JangolinaPitt Maybe there's hope for me yet then!!

@FabulousMrFifty you do make me
giggle! Hoping to make the meet-up in february where you can teach me some
other forgotten english language-gems from 'yonder-years'! Will you be bringing Monty your Python along with you as well? 😂

@Shayelle2009 have a great night out! I bet you're a excellent wing-woman and actually if you think about it the wing-women tend to do better than the one 'on the 'prowl'! 😂 I think my neighbour (another one) is super cute! But he's married to a really really rude lady, never says hello. Whereas he's all smiles but his house reeks of weed(quite fond of the aroma myself) so i'm guessing he's just constantly on cloud 9 😌😇

VanGoghsDog
It was an article I found , so not the holy grail
But I’ve just been thinking about it
Maybe a bit too much ..

@BelladiMamma @FabulousMrFifty @Naimee87 🤣🤣🦆🐥🐔🐤🐤🐤

Going to start getting spruced like Bruce now, so just wanted to wish everyone a very happy NYE… and good luck to all of us for 2022!
See you on the other side 🥳🥳 💛💛

Can I join please? I’m tangled up in a relationship that’s going nowhere, following a 30 year marriage then OLD. Not sure whether to go back on the apps or pack it all in for good so I can focus on gardening…

@Badbaddog hello and welcome 🤗

Gardening is a very fine occupation. Best thing is to be happy single then if someone adds something - huzzah 🥳

Just coming on here to register that at this point in time I'm utterly blissed out and can't believe my luck with MrDublin

Let's see where this one goes

@Naimee87
I’m a fan of silly work play, so sketch’s like Nudge Nudge, Four Yorkshire Men & The Lumberjack Song (not really word play). make me laugh

And this from Life of Brian

Brian : Excuse me, are you the Judean People’s Front

Reg : Fuck off! We’re the People’s front of Judea ……. Wankers

Then you have this from the 2 Ronnies,

And can’t beat a bit of SlackBladder
“Baking a pie in the shape of an enormous pie”

@Eesha I'm thinking this might be our year ... 😁 ... you & MrMusic and me & MrDublin ❤️❤️❤️

Or have I just jinxed it 🤔

[quote Eesha]@InABetterPlaceNow how do you feel about the L word?[/quote]
Well, it came up sooner than I expected (I've been trying to be really good in not labelling my feelings as I know there's a lot of lust / initial attraction still present that could burn out!).

Essentially we were having a really great conversation and he said something SO witty / clever that it made me proper belly laugh. And end with "HAHAHA.... I love you SO much!" 🙈

He said "Is this where I say I love you too?" and it hit me what I'd said 🙈 Then he said "I love you". 🙈 Then we moved back on to complete silliness to stop me turning red and hiding behind a pillow.

It was a lovely moment and I think we both meant it at that time. I'm hoping it doesn't become a regular thing just yet though and if he tries to make it one I'll be having one of my famous conversations about not having it become a throwaway comment so early yada yada. That'd learn him! I think there's a potential for the current feeling level I have to develop into something much deeper anyway 🤷‍♀️ Or could just burn out as quick as it's come on, who knows! ☺️

[quote FabulousMrFifty]@Stayingstrongish
Yeah, bit of a task for an unfit middle aged man with wonky knees, but this where the DE can actually help, sometimes I can keep errr..”plugging away”, for some time.

Yeah, I got a lot right, was only a radio phone in thing.

@Shayelle2009
No, not going out, have plans NYD that require an early start, so early to bed for me.

@mrgoodatfixingrhings @Yellowshirt
Welcome fellow brothers, the apps are indeed the devils own work..[/quote]
For sure

Can I ask for any OLD App recommendations please ? I am Separated 5 years & now Divorcing, after a 20 year marriage. I have a history of poor boundaries & abusive relationships so I'm really really cautious. I am very rural, a Carer& have mobility issues so that doesn't really help either. I don't have much time or money avaliable (& am not sure its 'worth it'?) Equally I don't really want to be alone for the rest of my life either so I guess I should make an effort. Argh..

Long message just deleted as I was about to post it FFS!

@BelladiMamma really pleased to hear that you and Mr Dublin are enjoying each others company so much! Enjoy your blissed out state - you deserve it, sounds like you've dealt with more flakes than Mr Kellogg.

@Shayelle2009 shame about MrTurk not being there earlier but he'll keep! I have been persuaded to go out for a bit tonight, only local mind you but still going to slap on some lashes and half a bottle of perfume and see what happens 😅

@InABetterPlaceNow you sound really happy and loved up...gives me hope! Enjoy it.

Am manifesting (by writing it here) that I don't drunk text any men tonight. Particularly that little ingrate MrTeacher. Don't need the embarrassment tomorrow....2022 must be the year of high self esteem and no neediness!

I'll wish you all a very Happy New Year now before I have a pint of prosecco. You've been a lovely group to chat to and made me see that dating is rough on everyone, not just me. And I've learned lots. Most significantly, the roasting dish I most need in my life @VanGoghsDog!
See you on the other side and have lovely evenings all!

inabetter did you get the L-word back???

I'm thinking that if I ever have sex again I won't have to worry about contraception as I'm 55 and a have been menopausing for years. Luckily not a dried-up prune though 🤣 Still don't know if Mr Favourite Place is going to get my juices flowing... there were only minor fanny flutters after last night's kissing, but I'm going to give it time. He's promised me a drunken midnight message tonight which is great, because I'm prone to drunken messaging on NYE myself. I'll be with my usual NYE gang, in their massive posh garden shed with a fire pit in the middle with loads of food and drinks and people playing guitar and everyone singing like a bunch of old hippies and then playing Cards Against Humanity. I hope everyone else enjoys their evening.

@MizK

Long message just deleted as I was about to post it FFS!

@BelladiMamma really pleased to hear that you and Mr Dublin are enjoying each others company so much! Enjoy your blissed out state - you deserve it, sounds like you've dealt with more flakes than Mr Kellogg.

@Shayelle2009 shame about MrTurk not being there earlier but he'll keep! I have been persuaded to go out for a bit tonight, only local mind you but still going to slap on some lashes and half a bottle of perfume and see what happens 😅

@InABetterPlaceNow you sound really happy and loved up...gives me hope! Enjoy it.

Am manifesting (by writing it here) that I don't drunk text any men tonight. Particularly that little ingrate MrTeacher. Don't need the embarrassment tomorrow....2022 must be the year of high self esteem and no neediness!

I'll wish you all a very Happy New Year now before I have a pint of prosecco. You've been a lovely group to chat to and made me see that dating is rough on everyone, not just me. And I've learned lots. Most significantly, the roasting dish I most need in my life @VanGoghsDog!
See you on the other side and have lovely evenings all!

Happened to me as well on the app! Grrr 😖

@WeWantTheFinestWines

inabetter did you get the L-word back???

I'm thinking that if I ever have sex again I won't have to worry about contraception as I'm 55 and a have been menopausing for years. Luckily not a dried-up prune though 🤣 Still don't know if Mr Favourite Place is going to get my juices flowing... there were only minor fanny flutters after last night's kissing, but I'm going to give it time. He's promised me a drunken midnight message tonight which is great, because I'm prone to drunken messaging on NYE myself. I'll be with my usual NYE gang, in their massive posh garden shed with a fire pit in the middle with loads of food and drinks and people playing guitar and everyone singing like a bunch of old hippies and then playing Cards Against Humanity. I hope everyone else enjoys their evening.

Sounds like an amazing night

Hope everyone is having fun, with or without their irons!

And welcome @52andblue, you'll find that this is the friendliest and possibly the chattiest corner of Mumsnet!!

@apinions

Ok, I've been lurking but I'm now going to join this thread. Was married 25 yrs, and have now been separated for a few years, divorce still proceeding. So haven't dated for almost 30 years! The apps are so out of my comfort zone, but I'm starting to think of what to write in my profile. If anyone has any advice on this I'd be grateful.

@apinions As a guy ,these are the things I like/dislike in a profile

• Photos of you. I don't want to date your dog/cat/horse. Photos of you walking your dog are ok.
• Snapchat filters are a big no for me....do people really think dog ears and a dog nose are cute in your 40s?
• Write in sentences and no text speak. Check spelling and grammar.
• What you interested. People who write "Ask" are an immediate swipe left for me.
• Be yourself

@MizK Thank you! Bearing in mind I've been single for 5 years now and most of my OLD (that I did in short bursts) or RL adventures rarely went past the first date ... longest thing I had was a month before I broke up with him over text 😝 I'm constantly sanity checking because it definitely feels surreal to find something that seems to be working... really, really well!

@WeWantTheFinestWines Yip. See just above for the full story. Ahh, it was the way he said it too. Just leaving me long enough to stew (wouldn't expect anything less from him and I saw the mischief in his eyes) then following up with the most sincere look mixed with a gentle smile and utter confidence. I'd suspected he was very much over the feelings line but honestly, it was nice to have it confirmed by him.

Going to be a nice start to 2022!! 😁

inabetter and bella - loving the lovely loved-up vibes. What a way to start a new year 😊

apinions welcome! Re profile, I'd like to add: keep it positive! No bossy or woe-is-me statements ("back here again", "why do people match and not chat") but This is me and This is what I'm looking for. Good luck!

@Thisisworsethananticpated my young son is waiting for an ASD diagnosis (as you will know it’s a loooong process - takes years in my area through nhs). Thinking about whether to put myself through the process too, though in general I cope ok with life. I don’t have the dating behaviours on that list, but I struggle with meeting new groups of people and so that makes meeting my partner’s friends quite intimidating.

How have you been finding dating?

@WeWantTheFinestWines the great thing is that I can see in everything he does and says that he feels the same way. There's no need for analysis, it's all there. Bloody great.

I feel extremely lucky; it was the last weekend I was going to date this year and I'd gone off all the apps so I could focus on family and logistics etc for Christmas. It's also obvious he's not just here for cuffing season. Or at least - he could be as who knows what the future holds - but he's here in a very sincere and honest and loving way.

Incredible really.

Thank you for the Welcome @BellardiMamma. Gosh, profile description: presumably a clear recent pic is essential. Then do I need to describe location / job etc? or can I just say my situation (ie Separated awaiting Divorce) and describe interests etc? 25 yrs since I dated and I'm not very tech savvy (as is probably rather obvious)