[quote ButterflyOfShay]@Stayingstrongish hope you’re ok, I turned 40 last year and try not to feel anxious about finances as things usually have a way of sorting themselves out, I bet your anxiety and worry will get a lot better with him gone out your life! This will be a wonderful new start for you, I just know it!
@Badbaddog congrats on hanging in there how are you finding it? Because I’ve really been putting my mind to it and been doing loads of meditations and hypnosis all week whilst in the sick bed I am finding it so easy. But I’ve felt a real shift of energy since Christmas where I am building myself up and turned a corner mentally and it’s all going hand in hand - I feel brighter than I have done in years (despite covid flooring me this week!) mr bloke sounds like a keeper how did you meet him? 🙂
@WeWantTheFinestWines I couldn’t get into the tourist the policewoman irritated the crap out of me so much, maybe as I wasn’t feeling well 😬 I’m like you not a fixer at all and neediness of any sort or flirting before we’ve ever met utterly puts me off!
@PurpleStripyScarf so glad my musings of nature cheered you up 😬😬 it never fails to cheer me..
@ReturnOfTheBunk thanks for your kind words darl 😘😘 xx hope you survived Christmas ok! Bet youre like me, just glad it’s over 😂💖[/quote]
It's probably felt like a good week to have Covid (if you know what I mean!) in terms of being able to spend the time focusing on meditation etc and it's fabulous to hear that you're feeling so much better since Christmas!
Ref your other post, there is so much to loathe about online dating that I think the thread rules here really come into their own. So often the process is so wounding in itself that we don't feel like we can carry on doing it to ourselves. The only way through it for me is to be absolutely brutal in terms of initial chats - I would unmatch anyone who wasn't interesting and respectful, had no time for boring back and forth, and once I got better at it all would go for phone > video > meeting really quickly too. Anyone who fantasised too much about "what it all meant" before us meeting was a red flag.
I had a horrible experience with my first iron after I started OLD last year, the classic love bombing and eventual ghosting, and I was so traumatised by it... we only knew each other for about 6 weeks and it took me way longer to get over it. But I do feel as though each experience has really taught me something and it's only by keeping going with it that you get to take that learning and build on it.
It sounds as though you are doing really good work on yourself at the moment @ButterflyOfShay and that should be a priority because you definitely do need a thick skin to be able to get through the 'shit bits' of it all!