Dating thread 222: into 2022 and beyond

[BelladiMamma]

The rules as a screenshot (feel free to copy and paste them in).

Shayelle
It’s super smart to tidy up your own mental healtj Before you meet people

I’m sorry you had a sad time at Xmas though x

And we find comfort different ways
I’ve started journaling!
Such a wank Phrase

I’m keeping a diary

Definitely a fighter @Badbaddog! Are ya still with me on day 5?? ☺️
Love writing everything down @Thisisworsethananticpated! Gets it all out of the head and away onto the paper doesn’t it.

Yup, @Shayelle2009, day 5 has drawn to a dull end, no real cravings for alcohol but the fact I actively want to be asleep even though I’m not tired says it all! There’s definitely a gap in my life right now. I hope you’re feeling better and have also stuck with it?

Little late night check-in!

Listening to this song and thinking of all of us seeking love tonight Catch up later, Inbox of Satan right now.

Hi @Shayelle2009, how are you feeling today?

Hi @ReturnBunk2 how are you?

Morning @Eesha @Shayelle2009 👋🏻

I went to see one of my recently single Hugh Grant lookalike friends last night. He's not thinking about dating yet but I gave him a mini pep talk and once this wave recedes I definitely need to get him out. If nothing else, to introduce him to the other Hugh Grant lookalike friend of mine. Do you think they'll realise how alike they are 😁. And then maybe get some single ladies out to meet for drinks or something. I'm not necessarily stuck on playing Cupid but it's always good to realise you're not alone in a particular situation.

Hi lovelies, actually feeling more rubbish today, completely wiped and called in sick again. Thankfully the slightly worrying shortness of breath has gone though, so hopefully this is just the tail end of it. Very nasty virus!

@ReturnBunk2 come back soon we miss you!

Have a lovely day everyone x

Decided on a change of name too. New Year, new me. 🦋

@ButterflyOfShay

Decided on a change of name too. New Year, new me. 🦋

Love it 😍🦋

I'm in your little town today so send the bat signal if you need anything from the shops as I'll be at the supermarket and then the gym 😊

Further advice check in re MrPoet / FWB. He's not been communicating a lot last 3/4 days but I had a flurry of messages from him over Christmas and NYE. I didn't say that things with MrDublin were hotting up / getting more serious.

Should I let him know? Otherwise I'm in danger of just fading / dropping him without ever explaining and he's a nice guy whom I'd like to stay friends with. If I were in his situation I'd rather know as I'm such an over thinker and would be down on myself. What do other people think?

@BelladiMamma thanks darlin.. thankfully I have amazing neighbours in this cul de sac who have very kindly been dropping bits I've needed outside.. I am lucky. Hope you enjoy the trip to here 💗💗

Morning. Sorry to hear that you are feeling a little worse @ButterflyOfShay, hopefully you will start to feel better soon🤞🏼
I decided on a name change too. There’s a certain irony to it as I have never counted my daily steps! Was going to go for leakyboiler as that is my current issue! Contacted the guy I have used in the past and sent him a WA video which he responded to a couple of days ago and asked if I could give him until next week as he’s had a family bereavement. So of course I said yes but now the leak seems a little worse and I am not sure what to do. Don’t want to hassle him but worried about leaving it several more days. Sorry, all completely unrelated to dating 😬🤦🏻‍♀️

@BelladiMamma I think you should be honest with him yes, especially if you can see a friendship or relationship of sorts continuing with MrPoet. Or even if not , it’s good to let him know i reckon x

Hi @Stepcount who were you 🤔😬 one small step??

@BelladiMamma, I think you seem to thrive on open communication with your irons so maybe a message to Mr Poet would help you to feel you are being transparent in your actions. I think it depends on what conversation you have had with him about your dating intentions. Is he aware that he’s potentially in a ENM FWB situation with you?

What kind of leak @Stepcount? A gas leak?? Don’t leave it, find someone else pronto.

@BelladiMamma I would just be chatty but non-specific with Mr Poet. If you tell him he is likely to take that as goodbye on a sexual level - is that what you want? Is he not to be retained as part of the harem? (Sorry, I’m a bit confused by ENM still, and it’s all moving so fast.)

I’m so glad you have good neighbours @ButterflyOfShay, hope you start to feel better soon.

@ButterflyOfShay, yes. Went round a bit with other Neil Armstrong/space related ones but decided just to keep ‘step’ as the consistent bit, following the lead of others including you😉

@Badbaddog, a water leak not gas. It was dripping slowly and a sporadically but now the frequency of the drip has increased. I’m going to have to contact him today and see what he says. I do know another gas guy so I will try him if engineer no1 isn’t able to get here before the weekend.

Thanks for advice @Stepcount @Badbaddog and glad you have good neighbours @ButterflyOfShay

Loving the new names! As this has been mine on Mumsnet for about 17 years I am not sure I feel the need to change 😁

I guess yes I want to be transparent with MrPoet and I would always choose to spend time with MrDublin over MrPoet. Plus I have no idea how things will pan out with either of them in the long term, but I'm not one for game playing. The harem is a great idea and is my goal long term ... but whilst I establish MrDublin as my main partner it's inevitable every one else has to take a backseat 🤷🏻‍♀️

Interestingly I continued to share some of the comms I've had with MrA with my closest girlfriend / she's also my cousin and her attitude was that he's using me as free therapy and friendship and wants to feel that I'm still available to him. Hmmm lots of food for thought. In any case MrA is up to speed and I don't really need to keep him more updated. As @Eesha said he's definitely my fallback guy now.

Maybe I should check in with MrDublin about this too - as ENM is just that, all about the ethics (well in our version it is).

[quote Stepcount]@Badbaddog, a water leak not gas. It was dripping slowly and a sporadically but now the frequency of the drip has increased. I’m going to have to contact him today and see what he says. I do know another gas guy so I will try him if engineer no1 isn’t able to get here before the weekend.[/quote]
Aaargh boilers!! 😳

Im glad you didn’t opt for LeakyBoiler @Stepcount 😬 but really hope you get it fixed smoothly, I hate things like that 😣

Thanks a lot @Badbaddog 💗💗 whispers.. (and congrats on reaching day 6! We’ve got this 💪)

[quote Stepcount]@Badbaddog, a water leak not gas. It was dripping slowly and a sporadically but now the frequency of the drip has increased. I’m going to have to contact him today and see what he says. I do know another gas guy so I will try him if engineer no1 isn’t able to get here before the weekend.[/quote]
If you have a combi boiler, keep an eye on the pressure as well, some combi boilers won’t light if the pressure is too low (if the dip is related to the central heating side), and you may need to re-pressure.
But saying that when my boiler was leaking last year it was the Cold Water side ( rusty internal pipe)

I have a possible date with Mr Gardener but feeling a bit weird about it…pretty sure he lives with him mum, he’s quite eccentric, isn’t online much (says he doesn’t have regular access to the internet) 🤔 and occasionally he talks in poetry.

I need to find more irons but I’ve been in the apps for so long, it feels like I’m swiping through the same old faces, rarely see any new faces and when I do they are not my type.

Are there any new apps worth trying? I’m currently on POF and occasionally dip into tinder. I tried bumble a while ago but rarely found anyone near me.

@Lovemusic33 I think Tinder is generally seen as the one with the most traffic, maybe refresh your profile for the new year and give it more of a go?