Leaving note

[Waaahbaby]

In a few weeks I will be gone with the children, he doesn’t know and neither do they yet.
My plan is to collect them from school and take them to new house. I can’t sit down and talk with him so he will return to an empty house. What do I write in the note to say we have gone? He’s been abusive and controlling for years and I fully expect a backlash.

Good luck you can also get help/advice from womens aid or citizens advice if needed. Plus childrens centres or early help.

Good luck. We are all with you in spirit x

Good luck OP.
Stay strong and stay safe.

Re the letter, definitely put the reason for leaving in it, that way if he tries to use it against you saying you just want to stop his seeing the kids there is the reason clearly.

I would advise as other PPs have said, letting the Police know, talking to Womens Aid and a solicitor, let school know as the children may mention it (also let them know re concerns in case he tried to pick up from school, that way they should ring CS/Police for advice and see your logs) and also consider asking Childrens Services for advice and laying out the concerns and the clear safety steps you have taken - be clear with them all that any addresses etc need to be noted as confidential as he is abusive.

If anything happens in the future re family court you have these logs to show your side of things and how proactive you've been.

Keep logs from now on of all contact from him.

I really hope today goes well and you and the kids are settled up safe and cosy tonight. Treat yourselves to a tasty dinner that requires minimal effort from you as you may not feel up to it.

Good luck op. Do the children know what’s happening?

Cheering you on OP. Well done go to being brave and strong. Wishing you all the best.

Good luck.
Be safe, be strong, be free.

Good luck OP xxx

Good luck OP! Don't waste a second feeling sorry for him, he certainly wouldn't do the same for you. Once things are a bit more settled you'll soon feel more like yourself again and you'll know you've absolutely done the right thing.

Good luck x

Good luck OP x

Good luck OP. I feel very moved, reading your journey. Be safe, be well and be happy. Come back and tell us you're ok. Holding your hand so tight for today. What a you are.

Good luck

@Waaahbaby

Thank you. Today is the day.

Best of luck OP to you and your lovely children. 2022 is your year for new beginnings. We are with you.

Good luck and stay safe x

Good luck!! Your doing whats best definitely

Stay safe. Keep breathing and lean on your friends and colleagues for support. You are doing a great thing.

You're inspirational OP, to many women who live in such a relationship. You are finding your strength. Good luck. You'll be so much happier very soon.

Good luck for today, please let us know how it all goes. Be careful x

Good luck, OP. We’re rooting for you. ❤️

Good luck op. I hope it all goes smoothly. You & your children deserve all the happiness in the world.

Absolutely rooting for you

Good luck OP

Stay strong. Good luck

Good luck op

Only just found this thread. Wishing you all the best. You sound an amazing strong woman and a fabulous mother.

I can’t offer any good advice but there’s some amazing people on her who’ve given you fabulous advice already.

What I can do is send you my best wishes and hope that you make the life for your that you deserve. Your children will be happier seeing that you are happier. I’m sure it won’t all be palin sailing but you are doing the right thing and I’m sure you won’t regret this for a millisecond. Good luck!!!