How did you know your marriage was over... Describe in three words...

[LondonGrimmer]

Or maybe a short sentence. I have massive doubts. Just wondering how others knew...

Too much shouting (didn't want dc in a shouty household)

Mil interfered 24/7

He told me he loved her.

He stopped being on my side. Tried to make me think I was going mad when I suspected he was shagging someone else while I was at playgroup.

Couldnt stand him!
No communication- he would just tell me constantly tell me to shut the f*k up.
It was a severely toxic relationship but not all the time. I ended up resenting him because i gave so much - physically, mentally and financially and he gave very little.
We didn't sleep in the same bed anymore and the only physical activity was me saying no thanks , him climbing on top anyway and then id turn my head so he couldn't kiss me. The final straw was not taking to me for 3 weeks then hitting me over the head with a pringles tub !!

Abusive, depressive narcissist

When I grew strong enough to put up with the abuse and beatings any longer.

Affair, blamed me

@OMGisthisforreal I didn't wish him dead then but I do now! And we've been divorced 9 years!

Couldnt stand them

He was self absorbed

Chose golf over my cancer appointment.

Lies, cheating, callousness.

He had a sex change.

We are still good friends though.

Major cancer scare for me
Not wasting a minute more of my life with this man 😃

I woke up.

I suddenly realized that I didn't need to put up with abuse, that there was nothing 'shameful' or 'failing' about ending my marriage.

I was gutted he took the day off work to spend my birthday with me. It totally ruined my plans and I realised I just didn't love him anymore. Ten years of neglect and begging him for attention slowly turned me indifferent to him. So my (4) words were I've taken the day off. 25 years on I stl remember the sinking feeling.

Attacked me in front of my children.

These are truly heart-breaking revelations. My heart goes out to each and every one of you. So glad you have found your strength and I hope you are in a better place.
Totally resonate with the 'fantasy funeral and freedom' thoughts. Again, the first time I have actually penned this. Just glad I am not the only one who thinks it!

OK, here goes. Only ever told one person recently though it was over 60 years ago. Now I'm telling the world. Married two years, wasn't going well, unemotional, no conversation, he worked by choice 7 in the morning till home at 10.00 at night. Every day. Got pregnant deliberately. Silly but in the long run she was my life saver. He wasn't interested in the pregnancy or the baby when she arrived. Only a few weeks after her birth he raped me and the next morning my legs were paralysed. I was too scared to tell the doctor how and in those days they didn't ask questions. And my husband was standing by the bed staring at me, daring me. Taken into hospital for a week before got life back in my legs. Couldn't take baby even though I was breast feeding. Left him a few weeks later. Won't go on. But in the long run it was for better than worse.

Saw through the facade, complete loss of respect. I was thinking today, I know him too well. People who meet him and like him aren’t meeting the real person. Any charm he has is an act. He has stopped acting with me though and the real him is very ugly.

Why has my long and painful message been removed?

I found receipt

to all of you and your strength.

@SarahBellam

He was gay.

See above