How did you know your marriage was over... Describe in three words...

[LondonGrimmer]

Or maybe a short sentence. I have massive doubts. Just wondering how others knew...

Secret email account

He came out

Lack of respect

Turned his back

(On me after I came home from a trip during which I’d learned of an extremely traumatic death of someone close. I would show more empathy to a complete stranger who told me that than he did)

Easier without him

I've not been dealing very well with my DH's ongoing lack of involvement with the kids, his laying in bed whilst I graft. I suppose Christmas is an even more pressured time. When I ask for assistance, involvement or even some company he's not interested. But I don't know if I can cope on my own, as it's almost already on my own and I can't cope very well now. I wish I could just leave, but I wanted to be a family, we have kids.

I also used to fantasise about my first husband dying, I’d think about how much easier my life would be. It’s an awful thing to think but there it is.

Daniel Sloss makes reference to this in his Netflix show Jigsaw. Worth a watch, OP. Hard truths in there which hit like a hammer.

@Pudmyboy I am now thanks, after years of stalking/escalating to death threats.
But okay now.

In 3 words?
I needed autonomy

Short sentence:
I finally realised he didn't want what I wanted.

She cheated twice.

Wanted a child.

(I was hating being married to him for other reasons but that was the one that made me leave.)

Didn't know which side of him I was going home to.

Dream of being alone.
@LondonGrimmer I'm in a similar place as you atm. I'm not in UK, DH has been WFH since Feb 20 and it has really put a strain on how I feel about him. I really value time on my own and he goes no where. I'm starting to grind my teeth at everything he says and does, snap at him, sigh and I don't like myself for it. We've had bigger issues in the past, been together a long time and it feels like something is dying. I think he's oblivious though.

In an abusive relationship for 18 years only had the courage to go when staying got as scary as leaving. Mightn't make sense to most.

Can't stand being around him or talking to him

@LondonGrimmer

Never any sex

Couldn’t respect him

@Od130990

In an abusive relationship for 18 years only had the courage to go when staying got as scary as leaving. Mightn't make sense to most.

I understand x

Financially, emotionally abusive

When I became seriously ill.

Borderline personality Disorder

He left me and kids and moved to Asia with another woman.

He was drunk.

He upset DD

He a bigot.

I organised a day out together with another couple and he sat on his phone the whole time.
I organised a day with him and he didn't want to take a selfie.
He stopped supporting mu dreams.

I was checking out other guys.
I was talking to friends before I talked to him.

Frightened the kids
Left with knife
Got himself arrested
Years of control
Years of disrespect

@JeffThePilot

I also used to fantasise about my first husband dying, I’d think about how much easier my life would be. It’s an awful thing to think but there it is.

Daniel Sloss makes reference to this in his Netflix show Jigsaw. Worth a watch, OP. Hard truths in there which hit like a hammer.

Me too.